How to get a busy man to fall in love?

[Anonymous]

So I know this guy for a year now, he dated a girl I know.

I started liking him about one month ago so I kinda suggested we would massage each other, we did and the we ended up kissing that day, was good, we still whatsapp each other but I am always the one starting the conversations. I know he's a very busy person, but I feel like he finds time for everything else but me. He has 2 jobs, and he says he wants to focus on his career, what do I do to make him like me?

[nealjames]

If it were that easy you wouldn't be having a problem with it. I work from 8-3 everyday and have classes from 5 until later and still make time for my gal. He's either not interested or intimidated by you. Why would you want either? Why would YOU want to have to be the guy in the situation? Your question is something I could see a guy asking. You shouldn't have to ask how to make a guy fall in love with you, like I said that's supposed to be the guy's role. The script has flipped and it's not going to benefit you any. My advice is to either move on, or make yourself way less available. It sucks but usually the reason for attraction is wanting what you can't get or wanting what everybody wants. If he's you're only option, you are therefore less attractive. Imagine a guy that everybody in school wants comes and talks to you. You'd be WAY more interested than if it were a guy who you always see hangout with his "bros", and is constantly asking you to hangout. If you need help on pulling other guys, that's a different story and I can help if you're interested.

[Asker]

LOL... I've just added you to my friends here. But I am kinda of an attractive girl... and yes I have guys after me... even got some marriage proposals 2 actually. Thing is, I like difficult guys, guys that I go after not the ones that come after me... and its something I don't control, it just happens. I know he was more interested in the beguining than he is now.

[Asker]

Trying to talk to you. you're off.

[FruitsPunchSamuraiG]

If he really focuses on his career, don't try to block his way.

Try to support him, there is a lot of little thing a woman can do to lighten a man's day, to make his life easier.

As your presence will help him through his way, he will find you indispensable. And who knows ?

But try to achieve something mutual.

[Asker]

I never block his way, I always talk to him, ask him how his day was but I asked him out 3 times, 1- to see a movie, 2 -to just hang out (he said yes) but we ended up not talking that day, 3 - To a friend's birthday party. He said he's gonna be busy with work and to tell you the truth HE IS, but I mean how can I make him stop focusing about work like that and want to focus on me?

[FruitsPunchSamuraiG]

You may misunderstand what I am about to say but : this man needs a wife not a girllfriend.

He is tired, so of course he don't want to go out.

I have worked during the night for weeks, at that time I would have killed just to watch some TV at home with a sweet girl after work.

[Asker]

Yeah, we did that, when we massaged each other. That's what I don't understand, I mean he massaged me, I massaged him, we talked, then we kissed in the end. I mean we kissed A LOT watching a movie. And he kinda carried me to his bed, but nothing happened. No clothes were taken off just more kissing. And then he left me home. Maybe he changed because I asked him for advice on my ex BF. I don't know just confused.

[Anonymous]

if he liked you he would still try. no matter how busy he is, he could at least hit you up with a text now and then if you were really that important. I dated a busy guy and he texted me pretty much every day.

[Asker]

He replies my texts. But his replies are short, they used to be a little long, but I guess now that he saw that I like him, he's taking me for granted.

[Opinion Owner]

he texted me first, almost every day. I would hear from him even if I did not text him.

[Raiden]

When he loses his career, he will lose you too lol.

[Asker]

Probably.

[Raiden]

For sure, speaking from experience.

[Anonymous]

Just remember: the way to a man's heart is through his penis. . .