Is it wrong to accept friend requests from guys on Facebook when you have a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and we made an agreement to not add or accept random people of the opposite gender on Facebook. I'm fine with that, but whenever I accept guys that I KNOW from school or elsewhere he gets suspicious and asks me all these questions like "Who is he? Why do you need to add him? Do you talk to him?" when I have NO intention of doing anything inappropriate. Also, even if I know the person and I know he doesn't like them I won't accept them. But is it wrong to accept guys requests that I know?

[jenidsouza4u]

Love is not a synonym of bondage.Possessiveness is good to some extent,but too much possessiveness is not good for any relation. There is a quote..."if you love someone, set her (him)free...if she(he) comes back, she's(he's) yours.

if she(he) doesn't, it was never meant to be."

I'm married...my husband was my 5th boyfriend in college life.I'm very lucky that my husband does not believe that love is like a bondage.My 1st boyfriend is a very close friend of my husband and now he is our family friend too.

I know that this is a rare example.May be all guys or girls can not be so much liberal in their relationship.But what is the harm in virtual relations?I think a good virtual relation(it may be sexual or not)can bring a fresh air in one's life and also strengthen the real world relations.

So I can say you are not wrong.Even adding a quite unknown person(guy) is also not wrong for you.May be that unknown guy has some rare quality to bring a fresh air in your mind.But if you find the guy is not good or not pleasant to you then you can delete him any time.

So it's your duty to discuss with your bf.Ask him if he really trust you or not. If he trust you really then all those adding etc are nothing and can't play any adverse role in your relationship.Don't argue with him,just passionately deal the matter.

[britannny]

... No. It's just Facebook. I'm friends with TONS of guys on Facebook, and I don't even speak to any of them.

[jenidsouza4u]

That is not good also.If you don't want to communicate then why are you adding them?

[britannny]

I don't add anyone. I accept friend requests. That's what you DO on Facebook. I have about 500 friends on Facebook. And I only actually speak to about 20 of them... Most of them being family, one being my boyfriend, and a couple old friends from high school. I add old people from school (even if I never really was friends with them) mainly because I just kinda like seeing what they're up to these days. My boyfriend doesn't care about who I'm friends with on Facebook.

[Operations]

No, that's your choice. You don't need to worry about it as long as you say you're going to do by not doing anything inappropriate with them. It sounds as if it's more an insecurity on him to ask you so many questions. So long as you've been dating, there should be trust there, and not distrust.

[Deft_maiden]

My thoughts exactly :)

[jenidsouza4u]

Yes,you are right..There is also a smell of insecurity here.So the girl should make him feel that there is no insecurity in that relation.

[Brando]

Seems like by making that agreement, you two are inviting and encouraging discomfort and/or insecurities. Seems like Facebook does silly things to people in one way or another.

[Deft_maiden]

But then again this is good too. She can unfriend anyone who crosses that line. I am one who believes its up to women to set the tone.

[Asker]

I completely agree! Facebook is terrible :P thanks!

[scales_of_Libra]

it's wrong. nobody wants to be in a relationship with a person that lacks consideration or empathy. And when you accept those requests your just giving those other guys an ego boost. and your slowly destroying your boyfriend from the inside. it's a slow death for him. and for some reason you don't understand. why? because he hasn't done the same thing to you yet.

[princess4u]

No as long as you don't flirt with them :D

[Settingemstraight]

it's not wrong.

Your boyfriend sounds like a d***

[Anonymous]

If they're your friends, of course it's not wrong.