Is it wrong to talk to a guy on FB messenger even though I have a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I know talking isn't cheating but I can't help but feel guilty about it.

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+1 y

I blocked him. It's just not worth it.

[Anonymous]

It's important to communicate openly with your partner about your feelings. Establishing trust and boundaries in your relationship is crucial. If you're uncomfortable, discussing it with your boyfriend can help both of you understand each other's perspectives and set clear expectations.

[Asker]

That's very true. I definitely will discuss it with him and let him know that there's nothing he needs to worry about.

[Opinion Owner]

Open communication is key in relationships. Letting your boyfriend know your intentions and reassuring him can help build trust and understanding between both of you. Good luck

[Asker]

Thanks. I told him and he appreciated me telling him.

[Opinion Owner]

Glad to hear that. 😊

[jahaims]

That depends, if you aren't hiding anything and are okay with your boyfriend seeing what is said then that isn't cheating. If you hide it or wouldn't want him to see it then it is cheating.

[Asker]

Ok thank you.

[jahaims]

It is okay to have male friends in a healthy relationship. If your friend tries to flirt, that means he doesn't respect you, and if you let him flirt, that means you don't respect your boyfriend.

[Asker]

Which is why I blocked him. He was getting too flirty

[IslaTheWitch]

Talking is not cheating. Flirting is not cheating. Cheating is quite well-defined. Having a boyfriend doesn't mean the rest of the male population doesn't exist.

Just don't cross the line.

[Asker]

Ok thank you! I definitely won't.

[Nikki1989]

It depends on what you are talking about. If it is sex chat, you are cheating.

[Asker]

No definitely not going there. So far it's been pretty innocent.

[HelpfulWoman]

If you're feeling guilty, then you need to stop because it's inappropriate

[Asker]

That's true. You're right.

[laraWM]

Of course not, you're not talking to any guy when you have a boyfriend? It makes no sense

[Asker]

Well I didn't have any guy friends outside of my boyfriend before we got together. So no I wasn't talking to any other guy.

[laraWM]

Okay I see, for me that's no big deal as long as it's not flirting of course

[Asker]

No he just said I was pretty and I told him he was handsome in response to that.

[laraWM]

Then it's fine

[Anonymous]

Well if you have a guilty conscience and you know it's not right. U know what's the best thing to do

[Asker]

That's true. I do.

[Opinion Owner]

What's your answer then

[Asker]

Stop talking to him.

[Opinion Owner]

How long have you been friends with him and how long have you been dating your boyfriend

[Asker]

We just started talking today. I've been with my boyfriend for six months now.

[Opinion Owner]

What made you second-guess yourself on it

[Asker]

I dunno. I guess because he called me pretty and I called him handsome and that's deemed as flirting I think.

[Opinion Owner]

Do you regret ever having contact with him

[Asker]

Yeah I think so because now I don't know how to stop communicating with him

[Opinion Owner]

Can I DM you. I had issues like that in my past I can give you a couple of pointers

[Wise4myage]

Guilt means you should stop chatting with that other dude.

[Asker]

That's what I was thinking too

[Asker]

I was just trying to be nice

[Wise4myage]

Be careful.

[Asker]

I certainly will be!

[Wise4myage]

Excellent

[sidhagain]

What are you talking about

[Asker]

Life stuff so far. About growing up and stuff.

[Asker]

Though he did kind of flirt with me

[sidhagain]

Do you flirt back/enjoy the flirting?

[Asker]

I told him he was handsome because he said I was pretty but no I don't enjoy the flirting.

[sidhagain]

Why don't you tell your boyfriend about it and that you chat as a friend

[Asker]

Ok I guess I could do that

[sidhagain]

Why blocked?

[Asker]

Because he was flirting with me too hard and I told him I have a boyfriend

[sidhagain]

Oh i see.. Poor guy!!

Has you just started talking?

[Asker]

Yes we had just started talking

[sidhagain]

Oh ok.. Connect over DM here?