You are the girlfriend and if your "Tom" wants to continue being your boyfriend, he needs to understands what boundaries are. Did you ever discuss the relationship he has with his co-worker? Does he ever sense your awkwardness when he receives a text? Usually when you are in love with a woman, the man should feel some sense of hurt/pain in their hearts when feeling guilty. In your story, your boyfriend doesn?t sound guilty of anything at all. Men are so clueless when it comes to these kind of gestures.
In a more serious matter, I would personally take him out for dinner, write him a love letter expressing your love for him when your relationship arose. And kindly bring conversation about his day at work, what was good/bad about it. Read his body language and take note of what he is saying, pay attention to what he is saying that's good about work, and really show interest even though he speaks about "Laura". Express that you are happy that he is enjoying work because of ____ such and such___. Then finish his statement with a.." is there anything I can do that can make your day better?" (Pay attention to his words, facial expressions and gestures; What men don't;t realize is they usually give away answers without even knowing.)
Follow your gut and bring up the fact that you are truly faithful to him. Loyal as can be. If no reply comes from him, that's when you are able to open the question..."Are you loyal to me? Do you love being with me?...etc"
Sometimes men also love the feeling of being wanted by women. May not particularly be just wanted by his woman, but by other women around him as well. An ego thing.
My advice, continue doing you and get answers from him without him even knowing. We woman are so talented and smart that we are so able to read between the lines. So put your already skills to the test and find your answer while you follow your heart.
*A question you need to ask yourself: Why does "Laura" know your mans favorite candy? Why are those topics are even being discussed with each other if they are only business partners?
best wishes to you Hun!
Im' a little upset with the wonderful relationship my boy has with his partner at work and I'd like to know whether you think its appropriate, a little sketchy, or completely acceptable. We'll call my boy Tom and we'll call his coworker Laura. So Tom and Laura work as retail managers. They work together almost on a daily basis, so they are on good terms, and occasionally text outside of work, usually about work-related issues. When I'm with Tom and he gets a text from Laura, his face lights up and he just seems excessively interested in the conversation. I wonder if he has the same reaction (or better) when he gets a text from me.I just shrugged this off, still thinking about it sometimes, but never mentioning anything to Tom. He speaks very highly of her and always has a story to tell me about a joke they exchanged, a laugh they shared, or awkward customer occurrences. Well yesterday was Tom's birthday. He had to work and so did I, so I can't do anything really special for him until the next time I see him. I called on my break and left him a short little message saying I love you and happy birthday. He worked with Laura today, and she surprised him by buying him a meal from TGI Friday's, candles in the box to blow out, a balloon, and some candy (including his favorite gummy bears) and bringing it to him at their store during his break. Now, she bought the candles at the dollar store and had to have a $5 minimum for the card she used, which is why she threw in a balloon and some extra candy. He told me about it on the phone tonight, and said that it was the highlight of his day (so much for my message...). I want to see this as just a very sweet gesture from a coworker who wanted to brighten his day.She does not seem like she is intentionally putting moves on him at any time, so its hard to believe she's doing anything to get his special attention. It just bothers me that her gift was so planned and thoughtful. She even bought his favorite candy! It just hurt my feelings that I didn't get a chance to do something special, and now anything I do (including my plan of baking him a cake and buying him gummy bears ) seems like an afterthought. it bothers me that she put so much effort into his gift, but part of me feels that she's just being nice. Please tell me your thoughts, girls and guys! Try and see it from all perspectives and let me know what your opinion of this entire situation is!
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