See my boyfriend and I are both gamers and we have been together for a year and a half. Now we live together in an apartment and he plays his ps4 day in and day out when he gets off of work... he usually works about 50 hours a week too.. So that barely leaves time for anything really. Now I really didn't have a problem with it when we first started dating cause I get it too. I'm a gamer.. I play non stop for hours at a time. But lately it's been bugging me. I normally set down my laptop and do other things. But it's like I will get out of the shower with just a towel on... tmi I know... But if I even try and get in his way of the tv he would get so mad... even when I'm full on naked confront of him! I do it a lot too since in more comfortable that way but damn really? It's like Every time he ignores it... the other day he told me..."Well im gonna try and get Saturday night's off of work cause that's when our clan war for clash of clans is or our raid on WW2 is... really? like... not because you want to spend time with me or anything.. the only time he ever spends time and actually is with me.. not playing video games while I'm in the room.. is if we are sleeping or have to go somewhere... i feel you cause I love him to death but damn I wish he would pay more attention to me...
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I am currently dealing with that issue, my boyfriend and I are currently in a long distant relationship and sometime I feel like his one priority after he goes to the gym, wrestling practice, school, e goes straight to the xbox. Don't get me wrong I love to play video games: killing zombies and playing NBA 2k 13 and junk but he takes two hours just to text be back. All of his friends stay up till one in the morning just to play video games and I get frustrated. I bet his friends girlfriends probably feel the same way as I do.
maybe it'd be best to work out a schedule where he gets 'down time' to play the game and not text for awhile (whatever time seems reasonable) then after that or before that is time for you guys to talk. It seems like he needs to not be so invested in the game. It sounds like it's a bit of an addiction for him. I was addicted to a message board once so I know exactly how he feels it's just a matter of setting aside time for other things and not feeling tied to doing that all the time at the detriment of other things.
well it does sound like he has a little bit of a pre-occupation with video games. You should just talk with him about it. Communication is key here and the only way to resolve it is to talk to each other... Also no offense but buying a guy you don't want to play video games a tablet is like buying a recovering drug addict a bag of cocaine and being surprised when he relapses.
Just talk to him. Tell him that when you both have days off you'd love to be able to do something special with him. Also maybe discuss boundaries (ex. no video gaming while he's in bed with you). But if you two really are good together you should be able to communicate your needs and be prepared to hear how he feels and what he has to say.
p.s... I often times feel self conscious playing video games around my girlfriend concerned she'll feel exactly what you're feeling.
@Question asker...he can't get away with that all the time. Part of being in a relationship is having to do stuff you don't want to do. I'm not laughing at you, I'm laughing because I just had this same damn conversation with my brother like 2 says ago. Men and women are different, just have compromise. That's gonna be every guy out there. Just if he likes you then he won't choose his video games and his friends all of the time. It'll be like 50-50.
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I've wanted to ask women this question for a while...what do you guys really mean by "spend time". You just want us to be around you, like up under you ? Even if we're not doing anything in particular but watching TV. Or not talking about anything particularly important? Why do women haver a need for guys just to be a few feet from them all the time, even if nothing important is happening. I mean, I'm cool with watching "a" movie or sleeping in late on a Saturday. But, why do I have to be around you 8 or 9 hours at a time...when we're aren't really doing anything at all?
It's not that we pay more attention to videogames but rather, videogames gives us the temporary pleasure of having power, authority and might that are not really blessed to us in reality.
Video games also provides us with challenge and exhilirating experiences that are not present in reality.
And, playing video games also has its advantages because we can't have time to see other women thus preventing us from cheating with our girlfriends.A boy that spends more time with his games than his girlfriend when she is around, is just that, a boy. A little growing up is typically necessary as I don't know any man that would pass up all that time with his girlfriend to be on a game. He could be doing other things, like ya know, kissing and having sex with you?
Don't blame the games, it's only his fault. I would never ignore my girlfriend over a game. I play all the time but I don't need to play every minute. But maybe that's because she actually has interesting stuff to say from time to time, and we actually share some interests.
Then don't date a gamer. I'm sure there are many guys who would date you that aren't into video games.
Games are predictable, cost very little to play, and won't dump you for another guy, ever.
Those are three ways they are easier to deal with than most girls, right?i play games, but I never play them with my girlfriend around (if she doesn't want to play herself lol)
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