Single moms having a social party life.. How much is too much?

[Unacknowledged]

I am a young single mother. My child's father is completely out of the picture and his family doesn't contact my child. I have great support from my family who are willing to watch my child while I go to work. If I go out its once every 2 weeks and I usually choose to spend that social time drinking with friends. I'm a great mom. I love my child dearly but sometimes I need to get out of my house and not just to go to work. I need to socialize with people outside of my family and out side of work. I normally do not think anything is wrong with me having a social life but recently my family disagreed. They brought it to my attention that I work too much and go out too much. Now before I ask you to answer my question here is some more info. My child is 7 and is extremely mature for her age. She's well behaved, she listens, she's very smart and she's independent. My television got stuck on a blue screen last week and my child knew how to fix it. My point is she's not a baby, if you tell her to go find something to do on her own she will do it with little help, if any, and she will not put up a fight doing it. Also on nights I go out I always put her to bed and make sure she is sleeping before leaving my house. I make sure I have a day once a week where her and I will go out and do something fun wheather it be going to a playground, or the movies or out to eat or getting our nails done ect... So my question is how much of a social life or free time to yourself is too much to have? Please answer honestly. I won't get offended

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I know single mothers who go out 3-4 nights a week, and I know single mothers who don't go out AT ALL for fear of not being with their kids. What's a good or average limit, if any?

[iPood]

I think it's perfectly reasonable to go out with friends one night a week if you can find a babysitter.I also think it's totally fine to have you own things going on throughout the week as well, maybe yoga class, lunch date, etc. just like most children have a sport or activity I think moms should get out too.

Anymore than one night a week for drinking with friends is too much for mom I think, unless it's a get together at your own house. It sounds like you spend plenty of time with your daughter so you deserve some time with adults too.

[Anonymous]

My mom goes out more like almost every night but mainly because my brother and I are older. I remember when I was 10 she was always at home cooking dinner. I think going out once a week is good.

[jokersgirl]

Once a week would be good I think.. Just hire a babysitter, there are lots of kids out there needing money and that are trustworthy. Just make sure they have their babysitting certificate

[martyfellow]

There are no absolute rules about this. I'd say you are doing the minimum you would need to do to keep yurself sane.

Just working all the time is very mentally draining and would cause you to not thrive as a perso, and your child would suffer with such a mother.

If anything, you're not giving yourself ENOUGH 'me' time, imao. But at your child's age, you probably can't really do more, since child care is so expensive and difficult to find.

[Anonymous]

Come have sex with me lol . 18! Lol ill bring ya back to your young life again

[katkaintkwit]

I think once every 2 weeks is plenty when you have a child

[Anonymous]

I manage to go out once a week at least, but my son is quite a bit older than your daughter. When he was younger, I went out like maybe once every two weeks, with my mom taking care of him.

[SaltandVinegar]

You need to get out of the house or you will go crazy, once a week is reasonable