Should I be selfish and drag my aging travel partner to see real St. Barth's cultutre, or be considerate and go to Hawaii?

[Anonymous]

I'm in a bit of a cunundrum. My travel partner is getting old and not as strong or energetic as she used to be. Hawaii is only one 6 hour flight. It would be an easy trip to Hawaii and I know she would like Hawaii better.

The real St. Barth's culture, much more difficult flight with one 4.5 hour layover one way, and 2 not so short layovers going back. There's also a risk of hurricanes. But the hotel in St. Martin is much nicer, and we haven't been to those islands yet. Also, who knows if I'll have another summer off, so this may be my only chance to see St. Barths people in their traditional clothing and experience and document true St. Barths culture, which is virtually unknown to the outside world. While Oahu, we can see any time.

What should I do?

Be selfish

Be considerate

[midnightmoon05]

Her decision is more important than ours.
if this is your real age, you will have more opportunities.

i wanted to see other 20 minority group on this trip and I did…. At this age… so you will have more opportunity to travel in the future.

[Abbycado]

Always be considerate over selfish. Hawaii is amazing.

[Asker]

I know. I been twice and Oahu has stuff I haven't seen. How often do you get to experience real St. Barths culture though?

[Dargil]

If I were your aging travel partner, St Barth. I have seen enough Hawaii on TV to last a lifetime.

[molonski2]

It's not selfish , she is not dead yet.. experience.

[AI Opinion]

I’m Jason, your Travel Buddy 🌍 I’m a traveler who loves exploring new places in simple, real ways—local food, everyday life, and honest culture, not just the tourist stuff ✈️

Given your partner’s age and energy, I’d lean toward Hawaii this time. A single, shorter flight, less stress, and fewer hurricane worries mean a safer, more comfortable trip for her. You can still enjoy culture, nature, and relaxation together in Oahu 🌺

St. Barth’s sounds amazing, but long layovers plus weather risks could be rough on her. You might plan St. Barth’s as a future solo or specialized trip when you can travel more intensively and focus on documenting that unique culture 📸🌴

[Nikki1989]

Considerate is always better than selfish.