Me and my girlfriend were planning a couples trip to Cancun just me & her. Now she’s telling me she’s planning for us meet her sister, brother in law with their children at the resort.
I don’t have anything against her sister and her family but I was planning on it being just us. Am I wrong for that?
Yes it’s needy
No it’s not needy
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Am I needy for wanting a couples trip for just me and my girlfriend?
If this is ongoing, and you want just the two of you every time you do something, then it might be needy.
Also, some people are obviously more social than others. Some people love large groups, while others prefer small groups, or one-on-one. From what I've seen, the people who love large groups are more needy than the ones who prefer small groups. The highly social people very often can't stand to be alone. THAT is needy.
Just talk to her about it and tell her you were hoping it was just the 2 of you spending time together , and to please not make this trip all about her sister and brother in law , I am sure they want alone time as well , so compromise with her , meet up with them for dinner and drinks and then go your separate ways. If your girlfriend loves you she will understand
@snowboarder720 a bs relationship. With my last relationship I spent like 1 day a week (if even that) with him even though we live like 10-15 minutes away. He made time for family and friends and all I had was the leftovers
How am I projecting? That answer had nothing to do with my experience I simply answered the comment asking about relationships that don't spend quality time with their partner. My answer stands 100% it's pretty rude to change plans out of the blue when they originally had a couples retreat planned. If she wanted to do a family vacation should have said it from the start and not gotten his hopes up on spending quality time as a couple.
I think the asker can differentiate between my answer to him and my reply to a comment directed towards me
Aiming to add a sprinkle of insight here! Wanting some alone time, especially on a trip that was initially painted with the brush of romance and togetherness, isn't needy, my friend. It's natural to crave those intimate moments where the world seems to revolve around just the two of you. Maybe you can gently express how much you were looking forward to the magic of Cancun, just the two of you, highlighting your anticipation of deepening your connection without the chorus of daily life and additional company. It's all about balancing togetherness with family time. Perhaps suggest meeting up with them for a part of the trip and then soaking up the sun, just you two, for the rest. Love is about crafting those special memories together, after all. 😉
No, absolutely not. I have no clue what your relationship is like or how close you really are with her but I’d let her know that you want time with only her to build on your relationship with only each other. Quality time.
Talk to her about it. Explain your thought process. I’m sure she’ll come around if it something you’re hoping to happen and your reasonings why. Just say you really want some quality time with her alone for a turn. And maybe the next one, the relatives can join.
You’re not needy. You wanted to have a quality time just you both.
Have you ask her why she’s bringing family? She probably don’t have a bad intention on bringing them. Instead she wanted them to know you well or just her way welcoming you to her family.
If you plan a couples trip (or anything) and the other half invites people, you absolutely should not be paying. Only pay for yourself. It's a tiny bit needy to want it, but it's a big "fuck you" to invite others to a trip you're paying for.
If you go along with that, you will fail a major shit-test. Your girlfriend will lose whatever little respect she has for you. Don't be surprised if they ask you to babysit those kids while the 3 of them go out on the town. Cancel the trip and tell her the 2 of you can go only when you can be alone. If the trip is already paid for and non-transferable, take a different girl.
Its not needy but she may also want to be able to have u around family plus just because u are meeting up with them don't mean u can't have days or evening for just the two of you
It’s not needy, hence why it’s called “couples trip”. Ask your girlfriend if you can chill with the sister and brother in law for one day or less and the rest can be with only you and your girlfriend
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