The relationship ended. I can't believe my girlfriend of 9 months could not get over the fact that I had planned to go with a bunch of friends on a two week snowboard trip throughout Western Canada in February. It's not like I did not try to compromise by suggesting we plan another vacation or celebrate Valentine's Day before I left. Why is she so unreasonable?
She wasn't included because. A) She doesn't know how to snowboard; B) has a fear of heights; C) she does not know how to snowboard! D) the trip is technical. Is it selfish of me to plan this trip even though when we first entered into the relationship I had told her I was thinking of a big trip in February and that I have been snowboarding for over 12 years!
The plan was to teach her on the smaller (cheaper hills). Not the resorts where the lift tickets cost almost $100 per day. I arranged a small 3 day trip to a resort in Quebec for her to learn but she made zero effort to prepare for the trip. She hates it when I mention anything about snowboarding so I had kept quiet about planning the big trip.
My friends and I are all seasoned / advanced snowboarders and I can't fathom flying all the way out West to stay on the bunny hills helping her learn. She argued that I should defer the trip until she was ready. Apparently she is a quick learner (we don't even know if she likes the sport!).
She finally agreed to let me go but only for a few days - NOT two weeks. She said the money would be better spent on us planning a vacation together and that if I cared about her I wouldn't go.
Why is she so controlling and irrational? People have suggested if I compromise there will be something else that she can't get past.
If my girlfriend was excited about something she loves - I would be encouraging. Instead she is trying to restrict what I do telling me that I'm selfish and I need to grow-up to move the relationship forward and that I should have considered her. The trip is also technical and it's not like I'm going there to meet someone new (like a party atmosphere).
She wasn't included because. A) She doesn't know how to snowboard; B) has a fear of heights; C) she does not know how to snowboard! D) the trip is technical. Is it selfish of me to plan this trip even though when we first entered into the relationship I had told her I was thinking of a big trip in February and that I have been snowboarding for over 12 years!
The plan was to teach her on the smaller (cheaper hills). Not the resorts where the lift tickets cost almost $100 per day. I arranged a small 3 day trip to a resort in Quebec for her to learn but she made zero effort to prepare for the trip. She hates it when I mention anything about snowboarding so I had kept quiet about planning the big trip.
My friends and I are all seasoned / advanced snowboarders and I can't fathom flying all the way out West to stay on the bunny hills helping her learn. She argued that I should defer the trip until she was ready. Apparently she is a quick learner (we don't even know if she likes the sport!).
She finally agreed to let me go but only for a few days - NOT two weeks. She said the money would be better spent on us planning a vacation together and that if I cared about her I wouldn't go.
Why is she so controlling and irrational? People have suggested if I compromise there will be something else that she can't get past.
If my girlfriend was excited about something she loves - I would be encouraging. Instead she is trying to restrict what I do telling me that I'm selfish and I need to grow-up to move the relationship forward and that I should have considered her. The trip is also technical and it's not like I'm going there to meet someone new (like a party atmosphere).
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