Read the title. I said stepmom. Not mom.
In my family, or at least on my mom's side, it is customary for a man to write a Valentine's/Mother's Day card and etc. for their mother, granted that she is alive. However, I was not thinking of my stepmom at all during Valentine's Day, although my dad loves me a lot and he is still in great bonds with his wife, who is going through a lot of tough times.
My stepmom has two daughters of her own if that helps. She barely talks to me.
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