Nobody forgets "Galentines" Day. People put different importance on this holiday. Guys feel like it is a minefield-costs a lot, expensive crowded restaurants and yet another opportunity to disappoint! It comes just as your finances are recovering from the holidays. That said-make clear to him its important to you "I can't wait till V-day! My friend ____'s boyfriend got her ______ last year. It was so romantic! He loves her so much! I can't wait to see how you will express YOUR love!" should do it. If he still blows it dump him!
Do you want a partner or a child who still needs to be spoon-fed? The longer you rescue him, the more he'll rely on you to tell him what to do. If you don't like what a person does, you aren't required to stick around, but never do the work for him, let him take the credit and then expect him to be different. If there are no consequences for his behavior, he'll never grow up.
If someone asks you what you want for your birthday, you're not going to like the results if you answer. If that person gets you what you requested, you'll know what to expect and it won't be a surprise and will have no value. If the person doesn't get what you requested, you'll be upset the person asked your opinion and then totally ignored it.
Don't maintain dysfunction in a relationship. Appreciate what is or move on, but never expect others to change for you. You'll be happier if you deal with reality than if you hold onto fantasies.
How long have you been together? You can't really count on dates being honored early in a relationship. Valentine day is also something not everyone see as anything else then a money grab by corporations. I personally don't like it because you don't need a specific day for that you should do that whenever you feel like it during the whole relationship.
Forgot your birthday? That's pretty big. How long have you been together? If it's important to you today that he remember these days when tell him. "I was disappointed you didn't remember my birthday. Small gifts on social occasions like my birthday and Valentine's mean a lot to me and let me know that you care enough to make an effort."
Maybe no, maybe so. Maybe he’s just that forgetful. 🤷♂️ On the other hand, how the f*ck do you forget Valentine’s Day? 🤨 Like @Wise4myage siad “casually mention it to him, but not too early or me might forget, lol”
If you want something to happen, you should say it. The expression "men aren't mind readers" came from situations like this. You care about birthdays, Valentine's Days and that sort of thing, but they are a low priority for him. If you want those to be a higher priority for him, it's not going to happen unless you tell him.
Ideally, you wouldn't have to remind him of Valentine's Day. And if he already forgot your birthday, then truth be told, he doesn't seem like a great or attentive relationship partner.
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