A guy bought me flowers. What is he thinking?

[Anonymous]

My best friend’s brother got me flowers 3 days after Valentine’s. He said he was going to get me some on the 14th but there wasn’t any flower shops in my town, and he was too busy and couldn’t drop it off. We live about an hour away, so that would be crazy if he did. I’m very close with my best friend’s family, and we have always jokingly say that I am adopted. He, himself, even said that I am like his adopted sister, but sometimes he goes out of his way in a shocking way that makes me a little confused. He came to my town when I first moved to make sure he knew the place was safe. He would sometimes call (but I never pick up) if he knew I would be coming in to town. We never ever really text, though (which I’m okay with lol). He just spoils me more than his own sister, so I’m not sure if it’s normal or not. P. S. I’m nor his type AT ALL. Please just help your girl out🥲

[SueShe]

There is always a reason behind every single action. This guy certainly does not buy you flowers because one day he woke up and ran his fingers through the phone directory and stopped at your name.

He (and his family) may view you as a family member but you are still a person of the opposite gender and at his age, he is not in control of his testosterone. He will of course deny that there are no intentions behind his gesture but this is certainly not true.

All those gestures are meant to make you feel secure and good in his presence and he is apparently successful at fogging your brain with his ultimate intentions.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your answer! I appreciate you taking the time to help me with a stupid question😆

[SueShe]

There is no such thing as a stupid question when it comes to odd and strange behaviors.

[Iron_Man]

Do you think he just wants sex
Sue

[SueShe]

@Iron_Man That is why I do believe yes but he is not going to say it directly.

[Iron_Man]

Yes, most likely eventually

[Asker]

@Iron_Man @sueshe We are very strong Christians, and both of us would definitely safe sex for marriage, so I do not think that it’s the case…

[Iron_Man]

Well that’s great then that’s the right guy for you. That’s the right guy to be with.

[Iron_Man]

I am also a Christian

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[Iron_Man]

You’re welcome
Sue lol

[Anonymous]

He is making the moves on you. He obviously wants something.

[Asker]

What makes me confused is that he ALWAYS say that I’m his sister😂

[KrakenAttackin]

"What is he thinking"? He is crushing hard on you, duh. Why are you weaponizing cluelessness?

[Asker]

Well, in my defense… we never text and talk aside from when I visit their house, so I’m just not sure…

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... he brought you flowers, WTF did you think this meant? Pull the circuit breaker on your #1 clueless generator.

[Asker]

Hahahahhahahaha this honestly made me laugh😂 sorry I’m just overthinking and dumb about these kind of things most of the time. Thanks for your help!

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... he is very into you. Tread lightly and don't crush him too badly. Perhaps ask your friend to help let him down easy. If you crush him hard it could damage your friendship. Just imagine if you had a little bro who was crushing on your best friend. You wound want her (hopefully) to be compassionate.

[Asker]

That’s exactly what I’m scared of. I do not want to ruin the friendship I have with my best friend. Thanks!

[KrakenAttackin]

You'll be fine. Talk with your boyfriend and work through this.

[strateguy632]

he was showing he liked you and found you attractive and wants to date you

[Asker]

Thanks for your help👍🏼♥️

[rosemilk]

why not just ask him about it?

[Asker]

I’m afraid it’d be awkward since he’s my best friend’s brother. I don’t want things to get weird between me and her either

[rosemilk]

it won't be. he's the one who is giving you flowers and sending mixed signals

[Alina_980]

He wants you to be her.

[Asker]

Do you mean his sister or something else?

[In_Trance]

wants to smash