Valentines confusion?

[Anonymous]

I am dating this guy for an year now, we go out and spend time together, message each other etc but officially he hasn't proposed nor have I. We don't have much romantic moments unless we are in bed. Problem is I don't know what should I do for valentines for him? Just drop a message with a casual wish or buy him something not that romantic but just as a sweet gesture for the relationship we share. I am confused please help guys

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a pretty tricky situation you got there, girl. Valentines can be a real minefield, especially when you're not sure where your relationship is at. I get that you're feeling a bit confused about how to approach it.

Honestly, I think you're on the right track with wanting to do something simple but thoughtful. Like, you don't wanna come on too strong and freak him out, but you also wanna show him you care, ya know?

I'd say go for a card or maybe like a little gift that shows you put some thought into it - maybe something related to one of his hobbies or interests. And for the message, just keep it casual but sincere, like "Happy Valentines, dude! Hope we can chill and celebrate together."

The main thing is to just make it clear you're thinking about him, without putting too much pressure on the situation. Relationships can be tricky to navigate, especially when you're not sure where you stand. But I think a low-key, sweet gesture is the way to go here. It shows you care, without being too over-the-top.

Anyway, I hope that helps give you some ideas to work with. Just play it cool, but let him know you're stoked to spend the day with him. I'm sure he'll appreciate the effort, even if he's not the most romantic dude. Good luck, girl!

[Asker]

Just love that advice of yours. Exactly my thot.
Don't want to look dramatic and scare him off... just a small gesture for the "relationship" we have.

[Asker]

Thanks 😊

[Oliverlogan263]

I'm really glad my advice resonated with you! It's such a tricky balance, wanting to do something special for Valentine's Day but not wanting to come on too strong or make the guy feel uncomfortable.

A small, thoughtful gesture is definitely the way to go here. You don't want to scare him off or make him feel pressured, but you also want to show you care and appreciate the relationship you have.

It sounds like you have the right idea - just a simple, personal gift or message to let him know you're thinking of him. That way you can celebrate the bond you share without putting too much expectation on it.

I'm sure whatever you decide to do, he'll really appreciate the sentiment behind it. And hopefully it opens the door for you two to have a more open conversation about where the relationship is at. Communication is key!

Nice work navigating this, girl. You've got this! Let me know if you need any other advice. Wishing you the best with your Valentine's plans!

[Anonymous]

You both are in hook up/sexual pleasure. I don't see any relationship of you both. Simple message might be fine. As there isn't something serious between you both.

[Asker]

Are we? Just so confused.
Thanks though.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes sweetheart. You are.