this is more for the experts but you can answer too
a girl becomes interested in a guy, and the guy becomes interested in the girl, because they supposedly "instantly connected" the guy asks the girl for her number, and right after he gets her real number, she says to call him. is this a test? I have heard that girls test guys to see if they can get the idea, or did she really mean to call her?
cause I wound up calling her twice (once to get her my number, and once to say hi), with no callback either time
Update: feel free to explain, as well
9 months ago
Update: btw, she just called, I didn't answer as to not make it seem desperate, she left a message..wanting to hang out
9 months ago
for example. you and her have a fight and she tells you: "I don't want to see you again! I want you to leave right now!" your logical reaction would be to leave (she told you so anyway), but if you really leave, she will get upset with you. when she is angry she hopes you are going to try to calm her, to be nice to her and never do what she tells you :).
Girls do test guys over and over again for self clarification and there partners, the second call though was partly a slip up you can't seem too intreged or we loose intrest
Girls will not always say what they mean for 3 reasons:
1. They don't want to hurt the guys feelings.
2. Its a way we protect our emotions. Sometimes girls can't always tell guys what they REALLY mean because they are worried that they will be judged and that what they actually want to say will not come across well. Or sometimes its a situation where if the girl says how she really feels she could potentially get her heart broken. Really its a self-defense mechanism.
3. A guy is creeping her out and she is just saying anything she has to to get him away from her.
most women do. you have to go with the flow. Eventually women will start being more blunt as to what they want,feel,need,and what they think they deserve in life.Patience is key to a successful relationship.
not at all though our reasons or explanations do seem hasty we try the best way we can to express or true feelings.i know I do I try to put my emotions in words but women do sometimes expect the guy to kinda read there mind and feel what there thinking.
wow. I think you're doing just fine. when a girl gives you her real number after you've been talking and stuff for awhile and I mean like a good conversation that she actually enjoyed, then yea give her a call. I hate it when I give a guy my number and he doesn't call. that's f***ing annoying. but you could try being friend son facebook too. that only affirms that you wanna get to know her.
Girls will do tests but not as much as you think and most are in the beginning which is when guys actually try (no offense) so they usually pass. You definitely are over thinking the tests though. Girls will say something different then how they feel because they're too nervous to say what they really feel.
The fact that she hasn't responded, you might want to hang low with her because she might not be as interested. Or just give her time because girls can't stand over barring guys. But when they say give me a call sometime either means I'll never call you but I want to be nice and not get your hopes up too much or she's really saying give me a call.
Us girls like to throw curve balls every now and then
And do I swing at a curveball, I try to, ya know? - 9 months ago
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Better to strike out swinging, then looking, cause at least you will have tried/done something, than nothing at all - 9 months ago
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Yeah, I know what ya mean. A tip is to watch her body language and facials plus even listening to her change in voice can give you a clue. Keep swinging though, your playing a game with a never ending number of outs, sometimes you just need a new bat and a new pitcher. - 9 months ago
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Oh she def. flirts physically especially her facial expressions, which gives me the sense of she won't answer cause she's nervous, therefore, the only other options are texting/asking why/or moving on - 9 months ago
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You should text her to see what's up - 9 months ago
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Also, future reference girls flirt more then they realize, so a girl may seem like they are flirting but they do always mean it that way. - 9 months ago
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Id like to, I'm just afraid if I do, and she doesn't answer, itll look bad, cause I will have called and texted without even asking her - 9 months ago
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People are more likely to answer via text, but at the same time sometimes it's better to go with a gut feeling because it's usually right. If you met her randomly in public then I probably wouldn't push it, but if you met her through mutual friends or something similar I would wait if you know your going to see her again. Though if you met her randomly, she probably didn't think you'll actually call so now that you are calling she probably hopes you'll just fade away... - 9 months ago
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It's like guys who like someone at a bar but they don' t want anything more then a fun night, girls do it too - 9 months ago
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She is someone I see more than once, why else would she have given a number, I mean bars and clubs are bad to give numbers cause like you said it could have just been for one night - 9 months ago
Oh and btw, she has come up to me twice, and I've gone up to her once
the first time she came up to me, was to ask me about what the thing was that I was looking at, up at school, the second time for her, was to ask where her class was, I didn't know because of such and such she asked me about the such and such, and we got to talking/flirted
the only time I approached her was because I wanted to see if she remembered me from that second time that she did, she did, so we talked and that's when i.. - 9 months ago
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Got the number - 9 months ago
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I would wait to see her again, you should try telling her how you really feel when you see her in person. so you get the real deal l. -I wouldn't talk about that she didn't answer the phone.- Though you seem very anxious to text her anyways, so if you keep it chill, then text her to test the waters. - 9 months ago
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Im trying not to, ya know?, its just difficult, I've been single for 4 going on 5 YEARS, its hard for me to not look desperate - 9 months ago
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Being single doesn't make you desperate, you just need to let things happen. I think your so caught up on getting a girlfriend your not looking for the right reasons. If it works with her it works with her if it doesn't the right girls is out there, just let things happen... Take chances but not because you want a girlfriend but because you want "her". - 9 months ago
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Like I was telling a guy on one of the other questions of mine, I didn't have an interest in dating when I was younger (13-18) I was too busy with other stuff i.e. trying to pass, my bar mitvah etc... now that I'm not as busy I'm into dating more, I'm just now learning how, and if that means getting any girl EVEN to be just FRIENDS/fwb, than ill do it, let alone try to "date" 4 at the same time - 9 months ago
If you test guys...thats completely and utterly f***ed up. Your playing games with them. No one wants to be manipulated or lied to. bad communication right there. - 3 months ago
No woman state the truth of the exact moment. Where men claim rationally they decide what is true and what is not and stick to it woman FEEL what is the truth of the moment. If she says she never wants to see you again in all truth that is what she was felling at the moment.
Depends on situation and the girl, there is no rule for girls. But usually I don't lost the opportunity, I think you should pay attention to the conversation in the call, may be you will get the answer.
It really depends on what kind of personality the girl has like if she's lets loose and has a lot of fun no they will not but a shy girl might,"say don't call me' but she wants to talk to you alone with no one around
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