Guys, are high heels a turn on?

How much do you prefer to see a woman in high heels over flats? People always make a big deal about how great I look if I wear high heels, but I don't enjoy wearing them that often and I'm 5'8 so I typically stick with plain black flats. How much of a difference would this make in your perception of a girl?


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  • Welcome to life, where people are making judgments about you. You cannot control what people think about what you are doing or not doing. So, there's no use trying to change how the world is, how men think, be angry at reality, resist reality, or fail to accept how things work. What you can control though, is what you do or don't do.

    A woman who doesn't wear heels is sexually boring, unless she's wearing flip flops to the beach during the summer. Guys don't like boring and flat women. Men are attracted to women for how alive, energetic, and feminine a woman is. It's a pleasant change to their stoic male existence. So, wearing things that take away from highlighting those qualities makes a woman seem less attractive. She may as well put a dildo in her underwear and see how guys respond.

    Heels are designed to highlight femininity. Their arch replicates the arch of the female foot during orgasm. They posture a woman to walk like a young river nymph, tip toeing and signaling that she is excited about the man approaching her territory and accepting of him and open to and eager at the idea of having sex with him. It's alive, energetic, feminine, young, and attractive. Of course, I'm describing a 4 inch arch, which means 4-5 inch heels.

    By wearing heels, you dare to become sexually relevant on a man's radar. It's scary, I understand. Without heels, if you don't get the attention you want from a man, you can always revert to the excuse of not really trying to begin with. With heels, that excuse is not available. You are trying. You're putting yourself out there. You are sending out sexual cues, and failure of men to respond is taken as rejection of who you are as a woman and as a sexual person. But that's also what makes heels sexy. They go a step further and state to men that you're not afraid to put yourself out there. You're not afraid of being judged sexually, because you anticipate favorable and positive results. It communicates confidence in your sexuality, and that's what's really attractive about a woman wearing heels - she is communicating that she is confident and comfortable with herself sexually.

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  • I prefer a lot, and women wearing heels always get my attention. And yes, women do indeed look great in heels and more sexy. But lots of women don't enjoy wearing them, they aren't really healthy either. So It's not like I am going to dismiss a girl just because she refuses to wear heels. You can also look great in flats, no problem. So it's not going to make a difference in my perception about a girl, I'll usually just notice her quicker, but it doesn't mean I don't like girls in flats.

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  • Its not that the heels are a turn on, its that women tend to look much better with heels on.

    I realize they can be uncomfortable (and probably bad for you). So its a trade off.

    But yes, women look better with them.

    5'8" seems normal height for a woman to me. I know its tallish, but growing up that's how tall most of the women in my family and women I dated were. I'm 6'3" so ...

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  • High heels do make girls look sexy, but it doesn't change my perception of a girl. Honesrly I don't understand how anybody wears high heels. Your basically putting all the pressure on your toes are you not?

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    • well. It's impractical and painful. But they look pretty. My boyfriend always says he likes my look when I wear heels.

      They're worth the pain.

    • It really depends on the heel. Most will kill your feet, but there are a few - at least from my experience - that are waaay comfier than most shoes.

  • For me they definitely are...they're a symbol of a feminine woman imo, and I like the super effeminate types. :)

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  • Yes heels do look sexy, however lighter frame suits stillettos well where as heavier people more of a block heel. If you are having difficulty wearing heels, I suggest that you start with a pair around 3" block heel, do lots of walking each day. At first, your calf muscles will be a wee bit sore, then after a couple of weeks no discomfort at all. Now go higher to around 4" heel. You can mix your style, but do plenty of walking. To tone those calf muscles. After a short while, yes you will be able to look and feel smart in any heels with out feeling uncomfortable, you won't want to wear anything else

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  • Definitely a turn-on, so much better than flats! Also they look great together with short skirts and stockings!

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  • For me, it depends. In jeans and the like, wear flats. But a good looking girl in a nice dress or skirt...heels are pretty damn sexy.

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  • I prefer your height and wearing heels. Why? Because I prefer her to be taller than me when she has her heels on. I'm 5'8" as well

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    • ...and yes, they are a turn on to most men.

      I know some men who don't actually like them

      History lesson for you: It was not women who first wore them, it was men. There was a king a long time ago that was just too short and he wanted to be taller, so he had his shoeman build him a shoe that would make him taller, thus, the heel

    • There are still men's shoes made that will make a guy like an inch taller. They are like secretly heels inside normal looking shoes.

      It is alleged that Tom Cruise wears these but cannot be proven.

    • I wear boots that give me an extra inch. You would just never see me in a pair of spiked heels. Too feminine. I'm 5'8"

  • Either type of shoe is fine with me.

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  • Heels are sexy. If you want to stick with flats than stick with flats though.

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  • definitely its a turn on , High heels makes a lady's leg look slimmer and longer.

    I love it when my Girlfriend wears a spiky satin heels.

    As she walks the tik tok tik tok sound of her heels , the satin material of the heels and the pointy spiky makes me get turned on and I began to feel weak and submissive towards her.

    I can't get my eyes off her pair of high heels.

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  • flats make a girl look dumpy and lazy to me.

    Any type of fashionable shoe with some lift is what I prefer.

    Heels are the hottest, but I understand you can't wear them all the time.

    Heels make a girls legs look longer, and thinner, and usually forces their butt up and rounder. All a win.

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  • Once in a while definitely. But always? NO THANKS. If a girl wears high heels in school, high school or college, that means she's just an attention whore. If a girl refuses to wear heels, which is understandable, I am okay with that.

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  • Yeah I think that's fine. I mean guys like legs, and tall girls have long legs!

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  • Heels are nice to see very once in a while

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  • I like high heels, especially if a woman is tall (5'11 and up). However, it won't make that big of a difference in my perception, if I like a girl, I like her, whether she wears heels or not.

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