Girls - Describe the perfect cold approach.

[digital_haze]

In your mind, what is the best possible way to be approached by a stranger, without him coming off as creepy?

Also, where would be the best place to be approached?

[MrEM4N]

How you present yourself means a lot when you approach a complete stranger. Up until that moment all they have to judge you on is appearance and the first couple words out of your mouth. When you approach people, doing it from the side is less invasive than standing directly in front of them. Have a friend stand next to you and then in front of you both at equal distances and describe what you feel. The difference is dramatic. Try to appear warm if you want to be friendly like in a park or book stores. Smiling works great, but make sure it reaches your eyes (eyes can smile too!) Insincere smiles come off creepy. If I'm talking to a complete stranger at a public place I try to make a comment about something funny around us or an observation about an interesting piece of clothing/jewellery she has on. Save the Rico suave stuff for people that already have the look down. Not everyone can pull off staring into her eyes and simply saying "You are so beautiful". After you open up by getting her to laugh, you can pretty much go anywhere with it. The hardest part is showing you're normal and interesting. Confidence is also a big factor. You need to own every step and every word that comes out of your mouth. Some chicks think nervous is cute but confidence, not to be confused with cocky, will always get you a foot in the door.

[kidaphon]

Well said mate.

I second your advice on logistically approaching from the side - however, you don't want to come up straight from behind though, that does have the slight air of a stalker.

A tip from my personal experience too: If the target is fairly attractive, it would be pretty safe to assume she has at least heard one of those cheesy compliments about her physical stature - which means, you should stay away from them, otherwise risk falling into the same category as other sleazy men. :)

[MrEM4N]

Oh you don't compliment her. you make fun of her. its a unique experience for beautiful women when you treat them like regular people, one she won't soon forget. teasing is rediculously effective. "those are really cute shoes, I didn't know the made them in mens size"

[Thiezz]

I think 'Hi!' would work, but I'm not sure how one would proceed from there :p

[Anya123123xyz]

Lol That's funny, I like it

[ninthjewel]

The perfect way to cold approach someone is to keep an appropriate distance. Don't stand too close and block of exits. Make her feel safe and keep your comments genuine. Guys who open doors are still nice ; ) Too bad feminists ruined it for the rest of us. Some of us like to be taken care of. I was never able to study in the library at school, because I was always meeting guys (printer jam, can't reach book, etc.). Location is most important, some places not even the perfect guy could get a number from a girl. Second, leave the cheese for cooking and consumption only. And, most importantly listen and read her body language. Does she feel uncomfortable, is she just trying to be polite, is she taken or holding out for someone else, or is she merely not interested in dating period. I've turned down guys in the past because I need to be single and work out personal issues on my own.

[sportygirlmmg]

i think the best possible way to approach a girl is when you are out in public like at the beach or movie theatre. I think you should have an excuse to talk to her like you dropped your... idk. something like that. But make sure your not dressed in like all black or something creepy.

Maybe you could answer my latest question too? thanks

[Anya123123xyz]

Thanks for answering my question earlier. As for yours, just make sure that she isn't like alone walking down the street or something. That really freaks me out when guys talk to me when I go walking (thank God I have a dog to take with me). I don't really think that one place out weighs the other but good luck.

[jokerbaby]

Hmm . I'd say best place would be at like a coffee place or a park.

& without it being creepy he'd have to make it that way & say something like " I'm in no way trying to be creepy but I would like to get to know you if you don't mind , You caught my eye & I just can't walk away without getting your name." That right there would make my heart melt.

[TgHartsGuys]

Say hi and comment on something about her something like what's she's wearing (shirt, shoes, jewellery) tell her you'd like to know where you can buy it for your mom,sis, or friend then just try to keep the conversation rolling. Try to come off a friendly/ relaxed and remember to smile, genuine smile not creepy.

[Anonymous]

The best way is to sneak into her conversation by "accidentally" hearing something and responding.