My girlfriend looks at porn and it bothers me.

[Anonymous]

I have caught my girlfriend looking at porn a while ago, and I had a talk with her about it. I told her it bothers me. She said she would stop looking for me, but now I am curious once and a while and I look at her browsing history. When I went out of town for a week last month, I seen that she had being going at it again. While I can understand she is lonely and stuff, why does she do it otherwise? There is some history that she was watching videos recently and it bothers me.

Am I being too sensitive about this? I do look at at porn occasionally, but I don't get off on it. I know she uses it to get off.

[Anonymous]

she's addicted and this is happening to millions all over the world.the fact that any and every kind of sex is available now on the internet ,has caused normal and otherwise decent people,to become addicted to switching on the pc and going to p*rn sites.it's addictive.me nand women all over the country are telling their mates to not expect them to givce up looking at p*rn cams and going to p*rn sites. The girl I was engaged to told me that she watch3es nude cams of guys and said "that's just who I am so don't expect me to stp looking at guy cams after we're married"

i was like wtf? this is an addiction! and let nobody tell you that it's normal.why would you trust ANYONE that says they love you but that they're looking at other naked people is normal? monogamy in my opinion won't last long regarding people like that..let me make this clear..it's not a p*rn cam addiction ,it's a sex addiction! the cam is merely the tool used.if it weren't the cam it would be something else,like her cheating on you with a live guy./ and what's worse is that,because it's as sex addiction,don't expect monogamy to something that lasts long.the first time she's securely alone ina situation (you're not there) and she's has the oppertunity to be with some guy,it'll happen//the cam is just a tool used to aid the sex addiction. the real thinbg will sooner than later arouse her and you'll be somewhere remaining loyal as she's playing around for a half hour.i'm meeting more people all the time who tell me of their problems with a disloyal mate and hoiw it began with his or her loyalty to online p*rn.usually webcams.more than once,i 've dated girls who told me that they show themselves on cam and it's just who they are and if I have expectations that they'll stop just becaise we're a couple,then I need to find someone else...and I did ..all 3 times.i'm a christian minister as well as a studied student of psychology./as a minister and a psychiology student,one thing that disturbs me is that I see sexual addiction becoming an acceptable thing with younger people as well as older.they have no qualms about admitting they browse p*rn sites and will openly talk about it with anyone.they don't see it as an addiction,but instead claim they're just into sex. it's as if they're totally blind.and when girls start calling it normal to the degree that they expect their man to just accept their adiction or go find someone else? that's really sad.

[chatoncriard]

I know this is random, but do you mind if I ask you for advice through message?

[top_cat]

I suggest that you insist to watch porn along with her. That way, if she's gonna get off, you might as well incorporate what you got from the footage and implement that into your sex life. If you face it with her then it won't bother you anymore, trust me.

[timberlake]

not a big deal. half the stuff that turns her on could be something you can put to go use in bed. a lot of women watch porn. she's not running off cheating on you, she's just horny like any red bloooded human being. she's not a child, so you can't demand that she'd stop watching it. don't leave her lonely, go watch it with her if she wants you too. ask her if she wants to try some of what she watches with you. it can build up the strength of the relationship. don't be insecure or shy, go and get your woman! lol

[fatalkaiser]

I totally agree. if you sometimes watch it too, why not try watching it together and using it to make your relationship stronger

[AmyHelen]

You don't get off to it...

but you don't exactly watch porn for it's plot either..

You can't expect her to not watch it if you do. If she is getting off to it rather than being with you then you should ask her to reduce the amount she watches and spend more time with you. If you feel anxious about her watching it, just talk to her, ask her why she likes to watch it and if you want to, ask if you can watch it with her. Maybe you should also ask yourself why she feels lonely when she is with you.

[allie604]

Its really not that big of a deal in my opinion.. its not like she's cheating on you or anything.

If she enjoys it, then let her! Maybe try watching it with her. You say she gets off on it, maybe watching her get off will make you get off? There are many ways you guys can learn to enjoy it together without making it a huge deal.

I mean, you said you watch porn too.. so you really shouldnt be getting angry at her for looking at it!

Good luck :)

[Anonymous]

You are being too sensitive. It's okay for you to look at porn and not her? Why the distinction on whether you don't get off and she does. That's what porn is for, if you're looking at it you're looking at it. If she wants to look at porn that's her business and if you wanted to it would be your business, it's not like she's cheating.

[Anonymous]

Dude your taking it to personaly. A lot of what makes porn sexualy erotic is the situations. How the man dominates the women or vise versa. Try some play acting with her and you will see. Also you could use the porn for some ideas to act out.

[JustDance]

Whoever handed down this shit should learn to open your mind. Ask ur self, WHY she's doing it? ask her if you want. if it really bothers you that much, ask her her fantasies and act em out, be more open to ideas. its all about communication and ur not doing that to the best of ur ability... you gotta communicate man. play things out and go with the flow. don't let a small thing create a big problem in ur relationship, you gotta control the situation and not let it control you

[Takkunlee]

If a guy I were dating had a problem with me enjoying porn I would most likely kick him to the curb. In my opinion, that's kind of a petty thing to be so worked up about.

[Hannah1]

I do not think you should care about her looking at porn. It is normal if she wants to masterbate on her own. It has nothing to do with you not being good enough if that is what's bothering you.

[tallnhungjoe]

Yes, consider yourself BLESSED!

She has curiousity about other people having sex. And curiousity in the bedroom is a WAYYYY

good thing.

Joe

[branflakes]

What is the point of looking at porn if it doesn't get you off? ha ha ha...but otherwise if you are looking at porn its only fair that she can too...if you don't want her to maybe make the sacrifice and stop looking at it yourself.

[Bureezay]

wtf..Dont be a hypocrite..and if she's loookin at porn,she mite not be sexualy satisfied.

[Anonymous]

Dude grow a pair seriously, you look at porn so why can't she?

[Anonymous]

Maybe she looks at porn because you're too insecure to turn her on. Seriously, get over it. If you don't, some other guy will.

[66556776]

Girls shouldn't watch that kind stuff cuz she female girls only care about love not sex

[Opinion Owner]

@66556776 Nice mansplain. And you're wrong. Or at least somewhat wrong. Some girls care about sex too.

[BandN]

I understand but she is not getting something she needs, find out the need and you will find the answer.

[Theonegod]

I seen my girlfriend history. And she was watching step dad seduces step daughter does that mean she likes her step dad?

[taytai]

if you're looking at porn, why do you care if she does to?

[66556776]

Yes cuz girls shouldn't do that watching that shit girls just care about love not sex

[Anonymous]

Maybe your not giving her enough so she feels she has to look at that to get some. PUT OUT!

[jbone79]

I hope she leaves you. Your weak.