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A decline in mutual respect, freedom, and trust in modern relationships — especially among Millennials and Gen Z — is causing love to fail and servitude to rise in its place.

I think mutual respect, freedom, and trust are clearly declining in modern relationships, especially among Millennials and Gen Z, and the data backs it up.
• Respect: Emotional labor is heavily imbalanced. Studies note that women often carry the “mankeeping” burden (managing the relationship’s emotional/social side), while only 12% of men over 30 say they feel fully valued by their partner (The Week, 8 at the Table). Both sides feel disrespected—men for their sacrifices, women for their roles.
• Trust: Gen Z is drifting into “situationships”—36% say they’re unsure how to even define their relationship (American Survey Center). Add in politics, which has become a dating deal-breaker (Newsweek), and it’s no surprise trust between men and women is eroding.

• Freedom: Gender role expectations still dominate. Research across 29 countries shows when men lose jobs in “male breadwinner” cultures, the risk of separation skyrockets—not because of money, but because freedom from rigid roles doesn’t really exist (PMC study). Men feel trapped in provision/protection, while women feel pressured to “do it all.” Both blame the other for limiting their freedom.
• Relationships overall: Gen Z is disengaging—described as a “relationship recession” by researchers. Many are opting out of dating or even intimacy altogether (UCL, The Guardian). Pew found 63% of men under 30 are single, compared with 34% of women (Vox). That gap itself shows massive distrust and disconnect.

So when respect, trust, and freedom are all crumbling, what’s left? Love can’t survive under those conditions. What you get instead is obligation and servitude, one partner bending to the other’s demands just to keep the relationship going.

Her book (1971) argues that men, not women, are actually the ones oppressed through courtship, marriage, and cultural expectations. She compares marriage to slavery, saying men give up independence to provide for women and children in exchange for affection. It’s been called misogynistic, but also brutally honest and thought-provoking.
What do you think—truth or outdated generalization?

📚 The Manipulated Man by Esther Villar (1971) (title changed to “The Tamed Man” for modern audience) remains one of the most controversial books on gender roles.

Villar argues men are not oppressors but the opposite: women use courtship, marriage, and social expectations to make men providers and protectors. Men give up freedom, risk their lives, and work for women and children in exchange for brief affection.

She compares marriage to slavery — the wedding as the day a man loses independence, entering a Sisyphean struggle enforced by culture and government. She also describes “female rivalry,” where women compete to control men, using sex and pressure to keep them loyal.

Other writers, like Chinweizu (The Anatomy of Female Power) and Warren Farrell (The Myth of Male Power), echo the claim that society is more matriarchal than acknowledged.

Condemned as misogynistic but praised as brutally honest, the book challenges us to rethink who truly holds power in relationships.

- https://a.co/d/3N9xcFt

the above has always been the default. however nowadays a lot of guys rush into relationships like women do.

is this a sign that many guys are taking their soyboy mentality to a whole new level?

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This question explores the dynamics of power in areas where men and women’s roles are often perceived as unequal, yet there’s complexity beneath the surface. When it comes to sex, accusations, and reproductive control, there are societal factors that can tip the balance one way or the other. While traditional views often put men in positions of power, certain dynamics—like accusations and reproductive rights—can show a different side to this equation. We see examples of both genders holding power in different ways, and it’s important to consider these factors carefully.

My personal opinion:
I believe there is some truth to the idea that women can have power over men in these areas—though it’s not as clear-cut as it might seem. Women have reproductive control through access to birth control and the decision to carry a pregnancy to term, which gives them an enormous amount of power in that aspect. Additionally, accusations of harassment or abuse can tip the power dynamic, especially when there’s an imbalance of trust or societal bias. That said, I don’t think this power is absolute, and it’s a shared responsibility for both genders to ensure fair treatment in these areas.
- Eva ❤️

I have a theory that internally white women perceive black men similar to how black people perceive white women, on a physical level, since the gender roles literally perceive physical differences differently, but it gets lost on translation due to the physical world not being emotional which in internal, and gender roles.

And the reason they don’t peruse intimacy with black men particularly often in because of the feminine psyche.
Similar to why black women don’t peruse intimacy with white men particularly often.

To clarify the choices:

Yes, men still had chores in traditional gender roles, but they were typically different from women's household duties. The division of labor depended on the time period, culture, and class, but in general:

Men’s Traditional Chores:

Providing & Finances – The primary responsibility was earning money to support the family.

Heavy Labor & Maintenance:
-Chopping wood
-Fixing things around the house (plumbing, carpentry, electrical work)
Maintaining the roof, fences, and other structures

Yard Work & Farming:
-Mowing the lawn
-Tending to crops (if they had a farm or garden)
-Taking care of large livestock (horses, cattle, etc.)

Home Protection & Security:
-Ensuring the home was safe from intruders
-Handling firearms, if applicable
-Resolving disputes or external threats
Seasonal Responsibilities:
-Clearing snow in winter
-Harvesting crops in fall
-Preparing firewood for the colder months

Transportation & Errands:

-Driving the family where they needed to go

-Taking care of the car (oil changes, repairs, etc.)

Disciplinary Role – In some households, the father was seen as the authority figure for disciplining children.

Women’s Traditional Chores for Comparison:
-Cooking and preparing meals
-Cleaning the house
-Doing laundry
-Taking care of children and elderly family members
-Sewing and mending clothes
-Grocery shopping (sometimes)
-Handling social obligations and hospitality

Even in traditional gender roles, men weren’t completely free from household tasks. It's just that their work was often more physically demanding and focused outside the house, while women handled more of the day-to-day upkeep inside.

Several mainstream media sources have pushed the narrative that Donald Trump’s 2024 victory was a result of “the patriarchy” and a resurgence of male-dominated political influence. Here are a few examples:
• CNN: Argued that Trump’s appeal to “traditional masculinity” resonated with disaffected men who feel left behind by modern social movements.
• The Guardian: Claimed that the election outcome was fueled by “rampant misogyny” and the rise of online male-dominated spaces (the “manosphere”).
• MSNBC: Suggested that men overwhelmingly voting for Trump is a sign that America is backsliding on gender equality.
• The New York Times: Linked Trump’s victory to a reactionary push against feminism, where conservative men sought to “reclaim power.”
• Vox: Blamed “toxic masculinity” and the influence of online male influencers for energizing Trump’s base.

These narratives argue that the 2024 election wasn’t just political but also a cultural battle between modern feminism and traditionalist masculinity. Do you believe this played a significant role in Trump’s victory, or do you think this is just media spin?



This framing ignores key factors like the economy, border security, and crime—issues that impacted all voters, not just men. Blaming “the patriarchy” for Trump’s win seems like a way to dismiss legitimate concerns from his supporters rather than engage with why he was elected. It also conveniently ignores the fact that millions of women voted for Trump too—which doesn’t fit the “patriarchy” narrative.

What do you think? Did Trump win because of male dominance, or is this just media spin?

• Eva ❤️