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IMAGINE THIS SCENARIO: You and a boy have always been more than friends.. a quiet understanding, late-night talks, little gestures that blur the line. He finally says it outright and proposes something real. You care about him, but you’re not sure, so you ask for time.

That same week he goes out, drinks too much, and dials you. Your phone is already engaged with a call from another guy.. your best friend, nothing romantic, but it’s a long vent-session you don’t want to cut off. (Your guy) calls again. And again (10+ times). You see his name flash, your stomach knots, and you let it ring out because you’re not ready to face his voice right then.

He switches to text: IG, WhatsApp, short messages that get more urgent. You read them, guilt prickling, but you don’t answer. Confused and irritated, you block him everywhere like shutting a door to buy a minute of quiet.

Later the day you felt the guilt is louder than the fear. You unblock just enough to call. It rings, once, twice, and then voicemail. You wait for his call back... nothing comes.

The next day you hover over the unblock button. Part of you wants to explain: “I was on another call, I panicked.” Part of you freezes.. what if he leaves me on read? What if he says he’s done, that he’s moved on? That dread sits heavy, stealing sleep. You replay his silence, wonder if he’s already talking to someone else, feel the shame of your own avoidance.

"5 months have passed" (You were still waiting to fix) & beneath it all, another question: maybe you’re not just scared, maybe you really do need time and space to understand what you want before you try to fix what you broke.

I know some women will not want to reply to this, but I know me and a lot of men will honestly want to know the answer to this.
​Is this statement correct: 'Women love to feel the strength of a man she feels safe around and fully trusts.'
​After reflecting on things, I realized I am honestly a bit confused about how much assertiveness women actually prefer behind closed doors. I know everyone is different, but when it comes to that connection, do women generally lean towards a high-intensity, take-charge energy or slow, gentle romance?
​From my experience in one-off encounters, women prefer the first option. However, when in a relationship, this isn't really the case, and slow and passionate is preferred (according to my last relationship anyway).
​In my head, a person will go purely for excitement and what feels best in a one-off encounter, as there are no repercussions and you most likely won't see that person again. Therefore, you go purely for the most thrilling dynamic for you. Is there a shame/shyness that comes later in relationships? Do women actually prefer that bolder, more intense energy?
​Is this correct? And if so, why?
​I've added a poll below, but if you're comfortable please add a comment.