Is my guy friend trying to ask me out and how should I handle it?

[Anonymous]

Two weekends ago, he asked me if I liked chocolates. He should know we’ve known each other for years. He asked what flowers I liked and what’s my favorite restaurant. Also if I’m busy the coming weekend. I kept asking why? He said, “please just answer.” So I did and said I was busy. I asked again. He said “Just asking.” Ugh! He asked if I was busy the next weekend and said I’m spending the weekend with my cousins. Then he asked how about the weekend after. HE WON’T GIVE UP! I kept telling him I only like him ad a friend and stop!
I talked to my girlfriends and how irritated and anxious I was. They looked at me like I was stupid. One girl said, “Are you seriously THIS DENSE! Don’t you SEE what is doing?”

My best friend said, “Dumbass! Think about it! He asked you if you liked chocolates, he asked you what kind of flowers you like, what your favorite restaurant is and asked if you were busy. He kept asking if you are FREE! He send you a Valentines’s Day with a poem! Any woman would love a man like that! Put that ALL TOGETHER. What is he trying to DO?”

[SueShe]

Wrong! not any woman would like a man like that because a man that insists so much, that is willing to destroy a platonic friendship just to have it his way is a walking red flag.

He is obviously interested in you but not for the kind of long term relationship (20+ years). His scheme is to have you where he wants and then if you are not cautious and don't take your precautions or are too gullible, he will just get what he wants. What he wants is obviously to get into your pants and once he got what he came for, he will dispose of you and you have lost a friendship.

Is that really worth while?

[Finchie40]

He is trying to get out of the friend zone with you and clearly has the hots for you , but if you don’t feel the same about him , then you are best to tell him you aren’t interested in him that way. Girls’ and Guys’ can be friends’ but usually one of them wants more than just friendship, it happens a lot.

[Asker]

I tried to tell him but he won’t take a hint

[Finchie40]

Then you might have to give him the harsh way of telling him , by being mean

[Asker]

I guess I have too. My best friend says it going to be difficult meeting someone if I have a guy friend after me or in love. They will move on to someone else. They will think you are taken. I get so angry with my guy friend for keeping guys away from me and calling me his girlfriend when he knows darn well I’m not! That’s why I’m single.

[Finchie40]

Yea time to get rid of his ass lol

[Crankor]

Don't answer his questions anymore. Yes he is trying to ask you out. Best thing to do really is to not contact him as much and keep your distance for a while if what he is doing is bothering you