Should I ask this guy out? Any advice?

[Anonymous]

There is this guy at work who is showing some signs of interest (flirs, teases me, random touches, catched him staring at me multiple times, notices changes in my apprance, did favors for me). Even though he is a direct communicator, he is an introverted and I feel maybe a little shy.

To give it more context, I rarely had crushes in my life and I don't fall for someone quickly. I am not flirty and I guess I don't give off interest signals very obvious. I was told a lot that I am unique girl both in terms of my appreance and intellectually. So, usually I just let guys pursue me. But, there is something different about this guy and I like him. I didn't notice his flirting until after a few months that he was persistent then I catched feelings. But, he does not make any further moves forward. I am thinking it is because of my closed communication style and he is probably not sure how I would feel if he asked me out.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm sounds like you really like this guy! And it seems pretty clear he's into you too from all those flirty signs.

If it was me, I'd probably drop some hints that you're interested back so he feels more confident to explicitly ask you out. Like catch his eye and smile big when you see him, initiate a little small talk, maybe return one of his teases with a tease of your own. See how he responds - I bet he'll get the clue!

Overall though, if after a bit more flirting he's still not making the first move, then I say go for it! The worst that can happen is he says no, but it doesn't sound like that from what you described. You seem like a really cool, unique girl - I'm sure he'd be flattered if you asked him out!

Don't be nervous, just keep it casual. Something like "Hey, I've really been enjoying our chats. Want to grab lunch together this weekend?" Then let me know how it goes - I bet you guys will hit it off! You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, right?