How do girls feel when a guy goes completely silent after a conflict like this?

[Abinav_K]

IMAGINE THIS SCENARIO: You and a boy have always been more than friends.. a quiet understanding, late-night talks, little gestures that blur the line. He finally says it outright and proposes something real. You care about him, but you’re not sure, so you ask for time.

That same week he goes out, drinks too much, and dials you. Your phone is already engaged with a call from another guy.. your best friend, nothing romantic, but it’s a long vent-session you don’t want to cut off. (Your guy) calls again. And again (10+ times). You see his name flash, your stomach knots, and you let it ring out because you’re not ready to face his voice right then.

He switches to text: IG, WhatsApp, short messages that get more urgent. You read them, guilt prickling, but you don’t answer. Confused and irritated, you block him everywhere like shutting a door to buy a minute of quiet.

Later the day you felt the guilt is louder than the fear. You unblock just enough to call. It rings, once, twice, and then voicemail. You wait for his call back... nothing comes.

The next day you hover over the unblock button. Part of you wants to explain: “I was on another call, I panicked.” Part of you freezes.. what if he leaves me on read? What if he says he’s done, that he’s moved on? That dread sits heavy, stealing sleep. You replay his silence, wonder if he’s already talking to someone else, feel the shame of your own avoidance.

"5 months have passed" (You were still waiting to fix) & beneath it all, another question: maybe you’re not just scared, maybe you really do need time and space to understand what you want before you try to fix what you broke.

TRY TO FIND WAYS TO FIX THE CONNECTION!

LET IT END IN SILENCE.

YOU LOVE HIM BUT YOU'RE MOVING ON.

[SueShe]

Well, this conflict should never have escalated to that extent in the first place. There is apparently a total lack of communication between the 2 people concerned in your example.

The guy is intoxicated and calls multiple times. In this state, he probably starts thinking that she has an affair but is obviously not worried about her being potentially incapacitated. He does nothing more than just calling instead of seeing for himself whether she is OK or not.

The girl on the other hand does not seem to find it important enough to answer when she notices that he calls and texts so many times. The same could have been the case and he may have had a health issue.

Both are in the wrong and both are not made for a relationship at least not with the person they are currently with.

[Abinav_K]

Then why she called the next day like nothing happened? testing waters?

[SueShe]

thanks for the MHO

[Abbycado]

If he is drunk dialing, that’s not a good start.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Honestly, if a guy spam calls me that much, it’s not urgent or an emergency, it’s just him really wanting something from me specifically. If it was a real emergency, he would have called someone else to help him, or actual emergency services. If after everything I block him and he decides to ghost me over it? Fuck him. I might like him when he’s sober, but clearly whoever he is when he’s drunk is not someone I need in my life.

[Abinav_K]

Good for him

[Nikki1989]

IG, WhatsApp, short messages?

I would assume he is clueless and give up on him at that point.