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Imagine a short relationship of a few months. A couple have sex and it’s a disaster, the guy fumbled it and like stopped randomly, so awkward and the girl is confused. Zero connection and zero pleasure.

Does that really destroy the attraction to him

Apparently, I'm talking to this girl who recently gotten out of a courtship that went wrong. It appears she's healing from it and needs some time to get her emotions together.

I was just curious. I was thinking of talking to her once a week for a month to see if I could conjour anything and give her some time to heal, but also not stay in it if she's on some forever friend ish.

Was just curious on this perspective. Should I move on, continue pursuing, or a little bit in between. Thank you.

I wanted to call her but she said she wanted to get to know me first. Eventually she opened up a bit as we got to know each other and managed a call. It went pretty well. Maybe she's a bit hesitant cause she doesn't want to get hurt again. It's a bit of a confusing situation but just let me know.

IMAGINE THIS SCENARIO: You and a boy have always been more than friends.. a quiet understanding, late-night talks, little gestures that blur the line. He finally says it outright and proposes something real. You care about him, but you’re not sure, so you ask for time.

That same week he goes out, drinks too much, and dials you. Your phone is already engaged with a call from another guy.. your best friend, nothing romantic, but it’s a long vent-session you don’t want to cut off. (Your guy) calls again. And again (10+ times). You see his name flash, your stomach knots, and you let it ring out because you’re not ready to face his voice right then.

He switches to text: IG, WhatsApp, short messages that get more urgent. You read them, guilt prickling, but you don’t answer. Confused and irritated, you block him everywhere like shutting a door to buy a minute of quiet.

Later the day you felt the guilt is louder than the fear. You unblock just enough to call. It rings, once, twice, and then voicemail. You wait for his call back... nothing comes.

The next day you hover over the unblock button. Part of you wants to explain: “I was on another call, I panicked.” Part of you freezes.. what if he leaves me on read? What if he says he’s done, that he’s moved on? That dread sits heavy, stealing sleep. You replay his silence, wonder if he’s already talking to someone else, feel the shame of your own avoidance.

"5 months have passed" (You were still waiting to fix) & beneath it all, another question: maybe you’re not just scared, maybe you really do need time and space to understand what you want before you try to fix what you broke.