Does this shy introverted guy actually like me or is he just being friendly?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone. I’m at university and there’s this guy I’m interested in. At first, we didn’t know each other at all. We would occasionally walk past each other, make eye contact, and then go about our day. I initially thought he was cocky, overconfident, and maybe a bit of a player because he seemed very reserved around girls (although I think some of that may be cultural).

One day, while I was walking from the residence to my friend’s car, I got surrounded by dogs. He stepped in, shooed them away, and basically saved me from a situation that really scared me. We walked together toward the gate afterward, and later I followed him on Instagram and he followed me back.

After that, I went up to thank him in person. He told me it was no big deal, but I explained that I had genuinely been frightened and wanted him to know how much I appreciated what he did. He seemed quite shy and nervous while we were talking. Some people even thought there was something going on between us because they saw us chatting before class.

As I got to know him, I realized he was completely different from my first impression. He’s actually very kind, mature, genuine, and sweet. I started liking him after the dog incident.

What confuses me is that when he’s with his group of male friends, he doesn’t really interact with me. He mostly talks to his guy friends and keeps to himself. However, when he’s alone and we run into each other, he always greets me, stops to chat, asks how I’m doing, and seems relaxed and genuine.

From what I’ve observed, he doesn’t really talk to girls in general. He’s from Delhi, India, while I’m from another country. He’s very introverted and prefers staying in the background, whereas I’m a social butterfly who talks to everyone. I even told him that the guy I sometimes hug on campus is my cousin, just in case he ever saw us together and got the wrong idea.

Given all of this, do you think he might like me, or is he just being friendly? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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I also want to add that when we stopped and spoke to each other today I said I just also wanted to check and see how he is doing. Would he get the hint that I like him and we both were speaking about our struggles at university that I am single and that I like him? Please help :)

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Guys I feel so embarressed because he has caught on and I think he knows I have a crush on him...

[zayndan]

You haven't told us anything that would help us determine if he likes you in that way. So at best, we can just randomly guess. However, I do know people like that in real life. If he likes you, sooner or later he'll leave hints or say it directly. As a guy he'll wait a while before making a move though, becasue most guys like to wait until they see any signs of mutual interest and avoid rejection. However, I think you should drop some more hints so he'll know. Ask him if he as a girlfriend. Ask him what his type is. He'll want to know what the relevance of those questions are, and put two and two together

[serious]

Well, if he is introverted and shy as well then it is going to really tough for you to know if he actually likes you or is only friendly and nice.

The thing with shy guys is even if they like a girl they will only display signs of friendliness. Shy guys will keep their real feelings to themselves.

[Anonymous]

That sort of sounds like how I was around my crush. I wouldn't describe myself as cocky or overconfident, but I could see how someone could get that idea.

[slatyb]

He likes you. Invite him to join you for coffee or lunch or whatever.

[Iron_Man]

It’s too early to tell he’s very shy, obviously. How often do you talk to him?

[Asker]

We haven't been talking a lot because we both have been writing exams but if we dont have a conversation we greet each other unless he is with his friends. But we do greet each other and if he is alone and we see each other we talk to each other (usually I greet him first and we start talking to one another).

[Iron_Man]

I can’t tell because it could go either way you’ll just have to wait it out and find out. Try to be more aggressive in a friendly kind way so you don’t have to wait around for months to find out and get your hopes up

[Asker]

How would I kind of drop the hint to tell him without making it awkward and if it goes both ways...

[Iron_Man]

Well, when you run into him, do you ever have conversations? Or is it always a hi and bye kind of deal? Do you ever talk about what’s going on around the campus? Do you ever talk about the movies or what are you doing on the weekend, or what kind of food do you like things like that

[In_Trance]

Tldr