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So long story short, my mom knows a lady that’s hiring whom she happens to be friend with and works with and she was telling me she would help me out to try and get me in. Then an hour later when I was asking her for details and an address she started yelling at me and acting all mad for nothing! The she said she doesn’t want me screwing her over with her friend! She also says to me if I’m gonna know how to get to her friends office myself.

my boyfriend is a good guy and wants to get married but I need a steady job in order to do that to be able to afford house/ monthly bills…he an I have been together for 3 years now.

Another weird thing my mom did was ask in a pushy way for my boyfriend to move into my moms house with us (the 3 of us) and was trying to make him rent out his condo…he and I hve made it clear that we want our own place later on just the 2 of us..

so why does my mom act like this? Why does she offer to help and then start yelling at me and being all crazy towards me? Is she jealous of my relationship? Or does she fear me moving out?

It might involve sexual things or it might not and I’d be clear about my intentions from the beginning. Not that long ago he said something that implied he’d date me if he could. That combined with a long flirtatious and semi-romantic history between us and the way I’ve seen him look at me and act with me makes me believe there’s a good chance he’d be with me.

REASONS I FEEL IT MIGHT BE A GOOD IDEA:

• My mom and I saw a movie in which a woman decided to be with a guy despite knowing he’s going to die. My mom said it’s not about how long the connection lasts, it’s about how deep it is. That made me feel like maybe it’s worth experiencing a relationship with my friend even though my ultimate goal is to find someone else.

• A part of me feels like life is short, and I should live in the moment as long it’s not something unsafe.

• I’m afraid that if I don’t take my chance while I have it, I’ll never know for the rest of my life how it feels to truly be with him romantically.

• I want him so badly it sometimes drives me crazy.

• A part of me feels like the reasons for not being with him don’t really matter when I want him so badly.

REASONS I FEEL IT MIGHT BE A BAD IDEA:

• I’ve never had a first kiss or date before and a part of me wants to save those things for a guy I feel more romantic about.

• I’m afraid I won’t be able to not compare the way my future fiancé touches me with the way my friend would touch me.

• A part of me hopes to lose my virginity to someone I’m more deeply in love with.

• Since I’m uncertain about the situation, a part of me feels like a ‘better safe than sorry’ approach is best.