Man acted like he was dying & cheated?

[Anonymous]

So... Iv only been on 2 relationships in my life. Now I know I was cheated on in both... So fucked up. Anyway so Iv been talking to this one guy for 7 years. We met up once too. We both had financial issues that's one of the reasons why we didn't meet up more. Then he messages me one day saying his family is against us. We broke up and 4 months later I agreed that I'll follow his religion. Man tells me he has cancer... I believe him, he uses his mother's email to let me know he has passed on... So... A couple of days later I found a face book account that had someone congratulating him on is 2nd year anniversary. Then I saw wedding pics... I checked our chat and he had told me he was traveling with a church group for two weeks at that time... I... Am so numb... Like what do I do? I just experienced trauma of losing a loved one and getting cheated on withing two weeks... I'm sitting here like was I that naive? Was he that good? Man has cried for me on the phone a million times... What do I do? Should I find the wife and tell her? I have no hope for justice. How do just move on from this? From someone ripping my heart out like that. I have cried for days when I thought I lost him. I told my family and friends coz he's met them before. I don't even know how to tell them, I'll look like such a fool. Are all men this way? I desperately need help I just can't think I don't know what to think all this is going on in my head. I feel like I'm going to go crazy.

[YourFutureEx]

While I do not believe that she'll care about you as she got the man she wanted and would want to make it work with him, she will definitely be alerted that she can be next in line which may have a domino effect of ruining his relationship long term. That's the best thing you can do for your revenge, besides leaving it all and trying to live a healthy life. All the people that have wronged you, will keep on doing that to others and end up destroying themselves.

No, not all men are like that. You were just unlucky that you invested your efforts and trust on such an asshole leading up to unfortunate events. Life can be better and you can bounce back and find someone who will truly admire you and your efforts. Don't let your past affect your vision and make you believe that you don't deserve happiness and there aren't good men out there.

[Asker]

Thank you so much, this really means a lot. I'm trying to heal. It's true they will continue their life but I need to move on in mine. Thank you

[YourFutureEx]

Sure thing! Good luck, there are better days ahead.

[petitedollbabee]

Tell his wife, show her the proof and then block her. It’s up to her what she does with the information. No, not all men are like this, only the absolute pieces of sh*t are. And unfortunately yes you were naive and fell for his lies but we’re all naive at one point and we learn from it, so you shouldn’t blame yourself. Now you know for future reference not to blindly trust people. It’s really tough but you’ll get over it.

[Asker]

Thank you. I just hate that it's happened twice now. Like I feel like I'm the problem at this point. But I'll move on from this. Thank you so much it means a lot

[jahaims]

You're just an idiot

[Asker]

Sadly