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Just for the record it is not racist if you just find certain ethnicities physically attractive.

Physical attraction isn’t a choice. Race is also a bullshit victim excuse some people use who can’t handle rejection (if it was due to looks). If a minority girl isn’t physically attracted to me because I’m white then she’s just not attracted to me. I might be disappointed but it’s just how it is. Not her fault because physical attraction isn’t a choice.

However if you do find someone of a different race attractive but won’t even give them a chance because of unfair prejudices that’s a different story. It’s one thing if you took the time to get to know them and you just found them incompatible. But quite another if you intentionally stayed away despite finding them attractive otherwise.

Anyway I have have dated outside my race plenty of times. But often found these women brought up racial differences more than I did. I had an Asian ex girlfriend who would say “ah white people” occasionally when she was frustrated with me over something. It didn’t bother me the much because she was young, beautiful and in love with me for a long stretch. But I rarely brought up race when dating and if I did it was usually positive (she was a good cook).

But still I truly believe women consider race more when it comes to dating then they will admit (white girls especially won’t admit that).

Again I do NOT think it’s “racist” to admit you don’t find a certain ethnicity attractive (but respect them otherwise). But I think women are secretly more picky about this.

What I am getting at here is how do you imagine your future wife or husband, do you want them to be just like you or completely opposite from you?

Here is an example let say you are a black American man who is a democrat, you want to have a family and you imagine becoming a chemical engineer. Would you prefer to date a woman/man who is also democrats, they are also black American and want to start a family and their career choice is an chemical engineer as well or you not interested in dating or marrying a person who resemble you.

While this is the opposite answer, you are a black American male who is of course a democrat, his main career goals are becoming a chemical engineer. You want to have your very own family but here is the thing your partner is rationally different from you. You prefer to have a partner who is a republican, he/she is a different race from your own, they might not been interested in starting a family but you look pass it but the main thing is they worked in a different profession like a college professor. Would you rather have a person who is opposite from you or you couldn't live like that and you want to have someone who shares your ideas, culture, race, political views, and of course have the exact same job as you!

I actually really love the idea of opposite attract to me personally, I kinda wouldn't be interested in dating a literal female version of myself, so I definitely would want to choose a girl who is rationally different from my ideas and views. But what about you men and women, want a partner who is exactly similar to you or you want a partner who is completely different from you? Remember there ain't no right or wrong answer!