Why do you think people tend to stick to their own race/ethnicity usually when dating, mating or finding someone "special"?

[Anonymous]

Some people say it's hidden racism.

Some people say it's culture (people with different race/ethnic background can have the same culture and pretty much experience the SAME things or similar!).

Some people say it's because they are scared of what their parents/family would say if they dated someone outside their race.

What do you really think it is? And does it disappoint you or frustrate your or make you angry sometimes like it does for me? I mean, it's not like I can CONTROL what ethnicity/race I was born with!

It's just something I noticed in recent years, weirdly enough, versus back in the 2000's, 2010's or older!

Yes, it's obvious it is. Just that unfortunately, people are STILL racist, this includes in the dating, mating field!

The media probably has something to do with it! (white men being the "most desirable" or personable in the dating heirachy). So a lot of women get influenced.

Closed mindedness. Scared of what family/parents would say about it! They care too much about what their family thinks!

Other, and I will explain below.

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

Hmm, I think it's some of the reasons you shared. As well as how it can be easier for one who is of the same race or ethnicity to understand the cultural nuances, trials, and tribulations one goes through without having to inform one of it. Which for some can be either a daunting task or an exciting endeavor to embark on when it comes to dating outside of one's race or ethnicity.

I know when I dated white men, I almost swore off of them ( kinda still do ) because I was tired of explaining why certain behaviors or ways of thinking were racist. Or being exposed to their prejudice friends, family, or even being brought to restaurants in a part of the city I never would have known of, outside of them, and experiencing prejudice there. That restaurant experience was an eye opener though to just how different ethnicities' worlds can be in realms one would not even think of!

I would say interracial dating is a bit easier in the 2010s to now than it was back then but it is still rough. But it may be easier with other non-white or Asian ethnicities or races when it comes to interracial dating.

Note: watch me get dislikes for that last paragraph.

[Synikal]

Nah. Makes sense. Environment plays a lot into it too.

[TwiNshichamp1]

I think it might be easier for both races, I think it's hard for an African parent to accept interracial relationships than a white parent. But now days they do. Because most of white people do not depend that much on their family, than Africans do. I think anyone who fights for what they want without considering who else says what, always gonna win.

[Asker]

@TwiNshichamp1 Agreed. People shouldn't be afraid to love. It's a wonderful thing to experience! Especially if that love did not (and does not) have limits!

[Asker]

By the way, count the 2000's in that because by that time, things were already pretty modern by the time I was in my 20's in the 2000's. So more accurately, you could say it was from the beginning of the 21st century till now. Actually, even the 90's had good racial diversity on T. V. already, especially starting in the mid to late 90's.

[Jacadia]

@TwiNshichamp1 Well whites are 87 cultures and many are mixed races now from intermarrying with other cultures for at least 80 years now. My family is Irish, French and married into Ukranian, Scottish, South American, Italian. My niece is Scottish, Irish and French.

[TwiNshichamp1]

@Jacadia ooh that's great

[BCA6010]

Cultural values definitely matter more in terms of long term dating or marriage. It's by far the biggest factor in that respect, and relationships founded on shared values almost always last longer.

For people who just want casual flings, it's going to be much more based on physical attraction than anything else, and while people will generally gravitate towards the members of the opposite sex who are most familiar, I've known many (mostly white or mixed) guys who seemed exclusively attracted to a specific race other than their own. Two are now married and have kids.

There's definitely outside factors, and there's always those people who date for some form of exoticness. The US media right now is jokingly (but not really a joke) called out for going to extreme lengths to feature as many interracial couples as possible in advertisements, with the intent of "representing everyone" according to marketers. Sure... And of course the ole' tried and true "what will my parents think" excuse which funny enough, seems to be much more legitimately common in Asians and Indians than anyone else, and basically a "get out of jail free card" more often than not, especially with the younger adult generations who are more prone to villainize or go against their parents.

[Asker]

Nah. When I (Asian Filipina) dated my ex fiance (caucasian), it was definitely NOT because I was being rebellious against my parents! What a stupid thing to do! Thank god my parents weren't racist and accepted him at the time I was dating him. The only reason we broke up was because of his baggage with his ex wife (Chinese) and child. I didn't want none of that! But it certainly wasn't his race. Not at all. In fact, that was one reason I was attracted to him! He had ocean blue eyes! I wanted something that looked kind and handsome. Totally tricked me lol.

[Jacadia]

People dont chose who they fall in love with! It happens naturally too!

[TwiNshichamp1]

@Jacadia yes lol 🥺

[Asker]

@Jacadia Yes they do! They chose the person based on physical attraction usually. I don't think you would fall for someone who wasn't your "type" (fat/overweight, sick, broke, abusive, etc.)! Also, if you're young and horny, that would help a ton! It's NATURAL when you're young to want to date and have a family. It's biology! So yes, I agree with the "it's natural" part, but I don't agree that you can't always help it. There's always some INFLUENCE with attraction, whether it's someone you grew up with (familiar and comfortable), a "best friend" or yeah, physical attraction, first and foremost!

To deny those things is just stupid!

[HighValue]

Because of general morals/political views.

For instance, if you date a White man, there is a much higher chance of him having conservative views. If you date a Black man or woman, there is a much higher chance of them having liberal views.
If you disagree you are being dishonest with yourself. Just look at voting statistics. 95% voting for one party repeatedly shows the patterns.

If you date a White woman you have more of a chance of her having liberal views. (casual sex/promiscuity in her past, drug or heavy alcohol use, kids from different guys, lazy and doesn't want to contribute to the relationship, etc.)

Recently more Hispanics have realized that conservatives match much more closely with their morals so they are finally starting to change how they vote.

If you date an Asian man or woman, they are more likely to have conservative morals/views.

Morals and views matter a lot in a relationship so if you pay attention to which groups are more likely to be compatible with you it could influence who you are more or less willing to date.

[Asker]

Interesting view point, thanks. Never thought about politics factoring into it.

[Jacadia]

Not in Canada 50% are Conservative and also Christians are Conservative.

[Jacadia]

I am a white woman. I had relationships with: an Iranian man for 11 years. In the end it did not work because his race did not accept me and I am catholic he's athiest. His family was trying to find various women to marry and he refused and when he sent a photo of us they cut me out of it! So you can fall in love with any race but the chances of it working is slim when the other side is narrowminded and racist. he's now with a woman chinese/peru whose very controlling and if he ever lost his wealth and job they would dump him to the street thats the Asian way. My other relationships: a local man English/french mix he was rotten. After that a french man and again totally different upbringing and he's liberal I am not: so it can never work. Its not just culture that can make a relationship not work its many factors. With the french guy he thinks I should speak french and I cannot learn it however I am half Irish and the only time he says he wants to hear Irish music is St Patricks day! I told him well I am Irish every day just like your french every day! That is not acceptable!

[TwiNshichamp1]

Yes physical attraction and loving what you love kills us all the time 😭 like the way I like white women and never even shake a hand with any physically. Different Geographical location. Here where I stay many of them are tourists, they come and leave. Never talk to any and many of them are older than me.

[Asker]

1. I don't agree with your statement about Asians dumping you if you don't have money. I've seen poor Asian families stick together even in poverty so... and I know my parents would welcome ANY man I married (regardless of race), as long as he treated me with respect, love and support!

2. I'm Asian Filipina by the way, and I dated a white guy. I am not going to get into the details of why we broke it off after a while, but it certainly wasn't because of his race. More like because of his baggage with his ex chinese wife!

[Asker]

Hmm, I don't get why this was chosen as Most Helpful answer. No offense, but your negative personal experience shouldn't be indicative of ALL interracial dating experiences! I hope you found somebody special though seriously. But please don't lump all ethnicities as not being open to dating outside their race. I would have indeed married my ex-boyfriend if it wasn't for his ex-wife and child and his drug use/anger issues! It certainly wasn't because of his race!

[Jacadia]

Some cultures the man has to be married to her family in white culture he does not have to. This is why my ex from Iran only wanted a white wife. They become noisey and controlling!

[jennifer_bloom]

I read that familiarity breeds attraction and research shows the more common a face is, the higher their desirability to men and women so I think people are attracted to their people cause it’s what they are familiar with.

[OlderAndWiser]

"I mean, it's not like I can CONTROL what ethnicity/race I was born with!" So if a guy isn't attracted to you, he should pretend to be attracted anyway, because it's not your fault? But what about "it's not his 'fault' that he isn't attracted to you?"

[Asker]

In a way, It's his fault he isn't attracted to me. His mind probably goes to negative places when he sees me. That's one reason why he isn't attracted to me.

[OlderAndWiser]

Can you MAKE youself be attracted to a fat, ugly dude? None of us consciously decide what we will find attractive and what we will not find attractive. It isn't a conscious process. If you think it is, you need to study human nature a bit more. PLENTY of people are attracted to only their own race. That is how they grew up and it is their comfort zone.

If guys aren't attracted to you, playing the race card is pathetic. Life doesn't always give you what you want; deal with it.

[Asker]

But did you know that no one race is pure anymore? Keep that in mind. Yes, fine, it's true life isn't fair but that doesn't mean that people should STOP trying to make it fair. Look at what is going on now with Gay rights. They are TRYING, and have been trying, since the mid 2000's to be included in the census and to be able to get married and have spousal rights , etc. People are NOT going to like living in a fair world. To say you have to accept it is a cruel thing to ask for!

And I HAVE dated a fat guy in the past. In fact TWO. More racism stems from closed mindedness and fear and it's well documented to be! They have some self-worth issues in that they have to make someone appear less or devalued BECAUSE of their own insecurities they aren't willing to fix! They blame someone else externally for their problems, it's sad!

[OlderAndWiser]

You seem to have a very self-centered idea that people SHOULD be attracted. "In a way, It's his fault he isn't attracted to me." Attraction os not a conscious process that we control. I don't meet a girl and DECIDE whether I want to be attracted to her; I either feel attracted or I don't. If I don't feel attracted, I cannot convince myself to feel any attraction. Do you think you are irresistible?

By the way, you should limit your argument to facts that you truly know and understand. I challenge you to produce ANY evidence that homosexuals have ever been excluded from the census.

[Jacadia]

Why is that all you focus on real dumb. You do not live in real life. In real live people lose their jobs, get sick with diseases, are low on money. are locked in their homes because of covid rules. What if you were low income far from family dying of cancer and your partner was low income and sick with arthritis!!

[OlderAndWiser]

@Jacadia I assume your comments are directed to the Asker and not to me.

[Avicenna]

There can be any number of reasons why, and it’s usually not due to racism. People with a similar background and values are usually easier to communicate with and are usually more accessible to you.
And sometimes there are other factors that aren’t race-specific but there are disparities among different races. To give you an example of this, I won’t date a single mom (have done it before). Well, that means my dating pool is childless women, and it’s more likely to contain white women since they’re more likely not to have kids. Asian women are, as a group, more likely to not marry a man who already has kids (which I do).

Furthermore, otter factors like education and social class gone into play. Better-educated Hispanic and black women are much more likely to be in interracial relationships because they have different professional and social circles. That may also be true for Asian women.

People with a military background are also more likely to have had or be in interracial relationships.

[Asker]

White women more likely to not be single mothers? ! What a load of laughs!

I'm Asian (Filipina to be exact) and don't have children from any of my exes, though I probably very well could have, if they were at least decent!

[Avicenna]

Unless the statistics are lying, they are less likely to have a child out of wedlock than black and Latina women. It’s CB possible that the Latinas are more likely to remain together with the men they have kids with outside of marriage, but if that isn’t the case, then the statistics are correct and they’re more likely to be single moms, especially since they’re less likely to be childless in the first place. It’s well known that Asian women are less likely to be divorced and to be single moms.

[Avicenna]

But it’s also very unusual to meet an Asian woman your age or mine who doesn’t have kids.

[Asker]

Yeah, if what you say is indeed true, then maybe I AM on the "rarer gem" side! Hmm... too many people let their genitals (or their emotions) decide things for them!

I'm not surprised if some women DO have children (with any Tom, DIck or Harry) just for the sake of becoming a parent! It means THAT MUCH to them to reproduce, even if the dad didn't have to pay child support! Man that's sad! Too many dead-beat dads roaming around as well!

But at the same time, I wonder too if it's more connected to education. The more educated, the less likely to be a single unwed mother.

Race is secondary?

[RavVid]

Interesting question.

I think there is a like likes like factor. Supposedly we find a feminized or masculinized version of our own face very attractive. That is were my first sentence statement is coming from and the second sentence is from scientific tests.

You could take that to be some inherent racism or more correctly tribalism because whilst I am white/Caucasian I don't find all white/Caucasian female faces equally appealing. I like rectangular or almond female faces more than other shapes.

There are pheromones too. Now people might rail against what I say next but it is true. I find that despite my liking the body shape of a lot of black girls I do find their natural body scent to be muskier and it doesn't appeal to me as the more sugar & spice natural scent of white/Caucasian females. I'm a guy who particularly likes sniffing breasts.

Despite all that there are some classic strong likings between phenotypes. White/Caucasian guys do have a thing for Asian girls and vice versa. White/Caucasian females do rather seem to like African men.

And I agree that there are advantages in terms of culture and acceptance in dating within your culture and race/phenotype.

I could never see myself being attracted to a girl and not going for it regardless of culture and race phenotype. I do think like likes like and with something as important as choice of partner we are always in a fairly narrow field of choice.

[FilmGuy93]

I think a lot of that comes from a general level of comfort with people of your own race. You both have similar life experiences, which makes the relationship easier to have.

The brutal truth of dating, mating, and general romantic attraction is that beauty standards became standards for a reason. It didn't happen because of racism, per se. People didn't just randomly look at dark skinned people one day and think "well, I really hate them, so I'll just start calling them ugly." People were attracted to pale skin, high cheekbones, light eyes because they associated those traits with money. You don't have to work in the sun all day and get a tan if you are rich enough to pay someone else to do the work for you. Being/looking rich is good in any part of the world. So people looked at darker features and naturally thought "huh... I don't know if associating with that person is going to elevate my social status."

It's only been in very recent years that we've turned this idea on its head.

[Babygirl_S]

Racism:prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism by an individual, community, or institution against a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized.
Racial "preference" is a type of racism going by this standard definition so we can safely say that nearly everyone is a racist to an extent.
I don't think most people prefer their own. They prefer white. We have been conditioned to favour them.
It's good for them to have colonised the world and shaped the beauty standards otherwise considering the kind of dance moves and mating call (singing) other races have they couldn't stand a chance. Black and Hispanic people really produce sexy music and dance so well. You can feel how sensual they are. Even dark Europeans are spicier than the ones who colonised more often.
Most "bedroom jams" are sung by black people.
White men won the wars so they look more powerful to most women now. It essentially is a white man's world due to his past efforts to make it so.
I come from a country that was colonised for centuries and that subconsciously affects the type of men I find more masculine and attractive.
I still wouldn't reject a handsome black guy (I'm talking about dark-skinned guys too).

[Babygirl_S]

Racism : Prejudice (edit)

[BullShark]

I think it really has to do with religion more than race or ethnicity. Personally speaking, I'm a Pakistani guy, so I'm Muslim. My parents are open to the idea of me getting married to any other girl outside of the country as long as she's Muslim and shares the same beliefs as us.

Still, there are some people who shun even that and I think it's because family members think a partner who's not familiar with our traditions and culture wouldn't be able to fit in, when that isn't really how it goes. People make traditions, not the other way around, and as long as you're willing to accept and continue your partner's family/cultural traditions, I don't see the problem.

[SimpleGuy95]

I think it also has kind of safety aspects because choosing people from the same race that are born in the same country or on the same continent have a higher chance of sharing the same culture, same morals and values.
It´s also "easier" in a way because they make the majority of the people that live around you.
I don´t think it´s racist or closed mindness it´s attraction.
Plus it´s also something inherited in a way that you follow the example of people around you.
The same way as you saying you can´t control the in which race/ethnicity you´re born another person could say: "I can´t control who I´m attracted to"
Some people are attracted to different cultures and some aren´t and both are doing the right thing nevertheless.

[Asker]

I was NEVER attracted to people my same race when I was younger. I was more into white guys as a Filipina woman!

People of child-bearing age most likely are attracted to those who are young, healthy, fertile. I don't know if race has anything to do with it. I don't think our genitals can tell the difference between a persian ding dong and a caucasian one! It's probably just who walks into your path at the time you're young and horny! That's my bold statement!

[SimpleGuy95]

For me it's the other way round. I was never attracted to people that are neither white nor come from a westernised culture so to say.
But I also think it depends on your circle of friends and on the diversity of races where you live because I come from a smaller town and here 70% of people are white so it's not that easy to date outside my culture and race. For me dating within comes more natural because I can build a stronger connection to them.

[Jacadia]

Since when are white males aggressive come on! They are the nicest of all the races of men.

[TransAm85]

I was never really secluded. I have some Redneck relatives that are extremely racist against merely black people, but that's their problem. My mother grew up in the hippie movement. She loves everyone. Her first husband was half Mexican. Then she married my farmer father who was a lazy drunk. Does that explain something? The farmers and suburban people are supposed to be the "holy" people, yet they're actually the ones who do the most drugs. I dated a drug dealer who had a trap house in Kenosha. We fucked in there and I saw how they make the damn crack from bricks of cocaine. His best customers were suburban white people. This racism shit has to stop. I've lived w/black people, I married a Mexican, and I know many Rednecks. Everyone has good and bad sides, but we're still human. What fucks it all up is competition for $$ I think. Status. Material wealth. That will not make a person truly happy.

[Weapon77]

That's a gross oversimplification. Many try to pass it off as stick to the same race, but here are a few things to keep in mind: A) We have ethnicities, but Homo Sapiens is the only true race (so we are all the same race); B) everyone is has mixed heritage to some extent, so VERY few people are sticking exactly to their own genetic admixture; C) I don't know a single person who sticks to their own ethnicity exactly, so I'm assuming someone is incorrectly lumping huge, diverse ethnic groups into one inaccurate pseudo-group; D) I personally have gone out with girls of various heritages: Dominican/Chinese, French/Italian, Native American, Native American/European, Black, Black/European White, Celtic, Scandinavian, and Latina. I'm German Jewish, Celtic, Scandinavian, Native American, Peruvian, Bolivian, and Camaroonian. I know at least in my case I didn't just stick to my own "race"

[TwiNshichamp1]

You have your relatives who are Cameroonian?

[Weapon77]

Unfortunately, I've never met them! I would love to travel and meet then someday, but it seems a long way off.

[TwiNshichamp1]

Lol what a combo? Do you mind explaining how you got all 8 genes in you? 👀

[Weapon77]

Lol Maternal grandfather is a German Jew with a bit of Middle Eastern and African ancestry. Maternal grandmother is Choctaw, Cherokee, and Irish. Paternal Grandfather is Scottish, Irish, Welsh, Norwegian, Swedish, and Danish, along with some other Germanic tribes. Paternal grandmother is Choctaw, Chickasaw, Irish, Black Dutch, Bolivian, and Peruvian. What's funny is I'm the reddish blonde fluke because my siblings all have dark hair, and darker eyes and skin. My cousins are all darker too. My 1/8th Comanchr niece is the only one so far close to my skin tone and hair color lol

[TwiNshichamp1]

Hahaha bro you're a breed 😂🙌🏾 Which Is a nice thing generally. Many Jews gat African roots.

[TwiNshichamp1]

Been told my mother is Rwandese by blood, my Father is Nigerian Mixed with Arabic. His grandFather married an Arabic woman. So Iam Rwandese, Nigerian, Arabic at the same time. I wonder why my hair curly sometimes without putting anything on it. And I comb it everyday.

[Weapon77]

Wow! That's really cool. And yes, I agree that it is a good thing for people to be a mixture. It's biologically proven to make heathier offspring for one thing. It's also helpful for combatting racism and getting people to share more ideas and work together. Great for art too.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know if this makes me racist but dating other ethnicities was bullied out of me at a young age. When I was 7 years old, my primary school boyfriend was black and my whole family bullied me for it until I was 15. When I was 12, I had an Asian boyfriend and my family bullied me for 2 years about it. When I was 13, one of my best friends was Indian and my family told me I wasn’t allowed to date them unless I wanted to disgrace my family.


When I was 14 I got a white boyfriend. My family didn’t bully me and they greeted him with open arms. So I learnt that if I dated someone who wasn’t white, my family would look down on me and my boyfriend. Since then I have only dated white guys, or half white guys. I don’t know if this makes me racist or not. I have no problem being friends with people of other ethnicities but I can’t date them out of fear of being bullied.

[Asker]

Wow how sad that your family is closed minded like that. They don't sound like mature, kind people. If you're brave enough, you should get away from those types of people. They sound like they are bossy, even choosing who you will marry, which is ridiculous because you are the one that's going to be spending time and becoming intimate with your spouse, not them.

[TwiNshichamp1]

Iam a black man I don't feel bad/see either way to date other races. Personally I like white girls , is not that Iam racist, is just that is the way Iam, the way was born and they way I feel. White women makes my blood boil while I see them, they attract me more than other women (even from my own race) ,(They are beautiful, charming, gorgeous and mindful) but is just they don't attract me. I think society should come to a conclusion that, the world has charged and everyone should date/having relationship with anyone they like. Culture difference may contribute but also people put a lot of opposition on it from happening.

[glassdunes]

I disagree, the American media might portray that buy recently there has been a shift towards body positivity, accepting melanin for what it is, a pigment not genetic link to intelligence (which is random by the way, to get your intelligence score, you are rolling a d 20 in dungeons and dragons and hoping for a good roll but more importantly an education you value for life) , I doubt in all countries they actually see white as the attractive color. Its though to say but I like my women like I like my coffee, just throw me a cup and I'll be great! It's not like bolly wood actors are from California. Since intelligence is random, I would assume looks are too, even as a preference. meh w. e

[Blackcosmo]

It's natural to be attracted to someone you're more similar to and race is quite general. I feel like it's less strange for me to date someone with a similar skin colour and maybe ethnicity than date someone with a very different skin colour/ethnicity. With that said, I don't bear a grudge to people who are different from me but rather I'm more likely to go for someone who is more similar to me. This is the thought of people who aren't racist but prefer someone similar.

[Asker]

Some people say they don't want to date someone that looks similar to them because they look too much like family.

[Blackcosmo]

Well it may be different for some people. Perhaps they like to try new things.

[Man-O-Metal]

Some people says it's hiden... Wow. Never heard that one before. We are attracted to whoever we like and that's it. Why does everything have to have these labels that make it wrong? What does it matter? Please just be comfortable dating whoever you like and leave it at that.

[Asker]

There's usually a reason people do things.

I've got the right to inquire about the psychology behind their narrow minded behavior.

[Man-O-Metal]

Now you've got me curious. What do you mean by "narrow minded behavior"?

[DaveJord]

Well Freud would say that men and women, are attracted to people based upon the relationship they had with their own mother or father. So if you had a positive relationship with your mother and father then you would be attracted to people that remind you of your own mother or father or people that have similar personality and physical traits as your mother and father.

[Asker]

Freud had a lot of sexual repressions. Not really a good example in my book.

[DaveJord]

You think so, hummmm... what ever then. You asked the question... apparently you have the answers.

If you agree with Freud or not... his research and opinions are at the bases of a lot of modern debate within the scientific community. True many dispute his opinions, but piont being he moved the science forward... and many modern opinions on his research would not be relevant without him.

Birds of the feather flock together... duh? Thats the answer silly to your question.

[Asker]

Which one? A Chinese bird or an Indian Bird? See, they are all birds that can very well reproduce with each other. That's all. It's not a silly question. It's a SAD question, as the reality is, there are a lot of weird, closed-minded people!

But yeah, it's not against the law to be unfortunately (at least on a covert level) 😞

[DaveJord]

Well glad you're not being covert then.

[AviatorTom]

Most people like familiarity, and that includes people who look like you and have the same values as you.

And that works both positively and negatively. I know of a family whose daughter fell in love with a very nice Catholic guy while at college. Her parents made her break up with him because her family is Baptist.

[Asker]

Wow that's sad. The family isn't the one that is going to be with that person, the girl is! If I were a parent, I would just want my daughter/son to be happy and to be with someone that respected her and treated her right. I couldn't give two shits about ethnicity. It's really that simple. I'm not a closed minded bastard!

[AviatorTom]

I intentionally said "Most", not "All". Maybe to be more correct, I should have said "Many". Of course there are people like you and me who don't really care about race/ethnicity, but the reality is that there are many who do, and the question asked why that is, which I tried to provide a possible answer.

[JustiReno]

People need to grow tf up about racism for real, time to stop talking about it, time to take care of your own family and if you have any generalized prejudices so what, bet karma will come around and teach you a lesson. But, you understand your race a lot more, babies at? are aware of race and their race’s status in the social structure. I don’t think I’m better or worse than anyone else but I understand that if I call the police I may get a different reaction then someone who is white or black

[Asker]

Babies don't understand race (where'd you get that from? !). They're basically blank slates from the get go and learn quickly how the world works in other for them to survive and get their needs met! They don't care who gives them milk (black mom or black dad. Even if adopted), so long as they get fed!

[JustiReno]

It’s commonly known babies I think like 1 or younger may understand race and power structures. Kids by 3-5 can develop racial bias: inclusions.org/.../Children-are-Not-Colorblind.pdf

[Asker]

Ridiculous. I am NOT about to click on some strange link that "experts" have published in order to sway the public with whatever weird agenda they have!

[JustiReno]

Good that like has STDs

[Chris_8036]

For me my best friend growing up was a Native guy so I was always at his house and I was used to different people and comfortable with his family from a young age. When I would go to parties I was very comfortable flirting with the Native girls, and it didn't take long before I was in love with one.
If I hadn't had that Native best friend growing up I probably would've just stayed to my own race and been uncomfortable around others.
I think I was lucky to get that experience.

[crossdressingrihno]

All these things are possible factors however I'd argue that more than anything else people are attracted to people of their same race for the same reasons their attracted to people with blonde hair or brown hair or red hair or green hair or whatever color hair.

I also wouldn't argue it as being unfair either.