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I am crazy about this girl. We had a short but full on relationship. The last two weeks there was arguing then we broke it off and it was mainly her not wanting it. She did consider getting back, but felt a weight off her shoulders when we broke it off as she thought it could get messy, thinks we could clash. Rang her the next day and she agreed to take a break. Then she rang me back a few days later and rinsed me.

Saying I didn’t make her feel special, didn’t provide for her and loads of reasons, and I agreed to make the necessary changes, apologised said I really like her. She was like ‘not sure not sure, you’re a nice guy.’ Said she just wants to be single for a couple months then get back to dating a new guy, and to delete the account we set up together.

It has been 1.5 months with no contact. I removed her off of instagram as soon as we broke up. Told her to never contact me again - as I thought that was it and was hurt, bit impulsive. She hasn’t blocked me off WhatsApp.

I was a good boyfriend to her. I didn’t do anything wrong, we all make small mistakes but nothing bad. We have met each others parents, a lot of marriage discussion. I thought we got on soo well. I am messed up. She was insanely beautiful as well. Once in a lifetime girl.

I appologize for my Polglish. I don't know the term in English, but in Polish, "na raty" basically means "one at a time." For example, you can be having beans, potatoes and chicken for dinner, but instead of just having everything on one plate and eating a little bit of this and a little bit of that, you are served and eat one item at a time.

Asian people do it like this. My mom was annoyed, because we literally thought they forgot the meat and were starting to leave. So in restaurants, I too prefer all main course items/sides to be served at once. But at home, I prefer to eat "na raty", because otherwise my main dish gets cold, and also I don't like to mix items because it ruins the taste craving. So if I start eating the meat, I don't go back to the other items, so I like to eat each portion of the meal as it comes off the stove. So I usually eat a salad or beans first. Then potato or macaroni. And then the meat, if it's a three course meal.

I don't know, what about YOU guys?

And is it a cultural thing or a personal preferance?

Initially I ticked all her boxes that she was looking for in a guy. She recognised I’m a nice guy, kind, sensitive and gentle. We had a good connection. I was consistent and attentive towards her, emotionally available. Made tule to see her a couple times a week.

I am also a rare find and from a very good background

Reasons she left:

She thought I was a player and cagey with my phone and untrustworthy. I was cagey as it is personal, but always reassured her and I think I showed her my phone/messages like 3 times.

I didn’t make her feel special - because I did 50/50 when I earn more than her and come from money. I have only been working for a year. I didn’t buy her flowers, I did for Valentine’s Day and bought her a plant in the early stages.

Didn’t like how I was consulting family members at the end about the relationship

I didn’t lead sometimes and did make her switch her brain off. She has a point when we went on a weekend she planned it. But she also tells me she’s not a passive person as she’s a professional.

I feel hurt. It was my first relationship. If I could go back there’s not a lot I would change just cherish her more? I didn’t make any fundamental errors, obviously times where I could’ve been nicer. There was on time I shut her down a bit because she didn’t want to move in with my family.