Is it wrong to cut people off after they’re brutally honest with you?

[Anonymous]

I've hand of lot of instances like this happen in my life and I wonder if they thought that I was nice enough to let it slide.
Examples
Friend told me she hated when I acted like a good person, wore weird clothes and laughed- we're not friends anymore
Friend said she took some time to distance herself from me- not friends anymore
Friend said I was selfish for not giving her my last $2 so she can get something to eat- not friends anymore
Guy said he just wants to be casual- stop seeing him
Guy says i dont have to text him all the time- I don't text him unless he texted me first
Guy said he fell in love with another woman- i immediately stopped intimacy
You don't like taking pictures for me, with me to remember the moment, you just like to "enjoy the moment"-Got it, I won't let you take pictures of me, have pictures us, and i won't take pictures for you.
Most things result in immediate cut off, but if you're still in contact with me I'm not going to forget what your wishes were. Later on, they usually regret it because it was access they took for granted and im not giving it back.
Your honesty doesn't come with compliance.

[ohsheeT]

People come into our lives for a season a reason or a lifetime


Everything that you listed there sounds like somebody was trying to manipulate you into doing what they wanted you to do who they wanted you to be I think you're fine I think you did the right things

And I'm sure with each one of those persons that there's more to it than just that

You know who you are you know who you want to be you know how you want to be treated and if somebody cannot do all the above for you or with you than they have no reason to be in your life you have to feel valued you have to feel liked loved cared about

I'm sure there are many times where you have sacrificed for somebody all the above is a learning experience it's guiding you to become who you want to become and how you want to be seen don't let little things like this or people bother you take advantage of you manipulate you

With all the things that you talked about it sounds like the people were making it all about them and in any type of relationship it has to go both ways don't feel bad don't feel guilty you keep doing what you're doing what you think is right for you that's all that counts and if people can't bend a little bit and respect that then they don't need to be around you you sound like you have a beautiful heart and that you are a good person you just keep walking your walk you'll get to where you're going

[Bricealan]

I have not done what I should have done with persons LIKE THAT! Brutally honest is not being 'honest', it is being stupid and really being a flaming ass hole for no other reason that to hurt the person they are being brutally honest with.

If possible, I would not have anything further to do with them if that is possible in your situation.

[yellowsombrero]

I wouldn't say it's wrong.

I value bluntness personally. It doesn't always feel good to hear, but I think it's better than being dishonest or acting in a way that isn't true to how you think or feel.

You've given quite a few instances here. I think it would be worth asking if you're doing it out of self protection. Can these friendships be salvaged? You could reverse the roles. If someone cut you off for being vulnerable and honest with them, how would you think and feel after? That's not meant to sound sarcastic and I hope it doesn't come across that way.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode relationships, spot red flags, and protect that beautiful heart of yours 💋

It’s not wrong at all. Boundaries aren’t “punishment,” they’re self‑respect. Some of those examples aren’t “brutal honesty,” they’re insults, entitlement, or low‑effort energy.

You listened, adjusted, and then protected your peace. That’s healthy. Their regret later? That’s just them realizing your access was a privilege, not a right.

[goaded]

#1's saying you shouldn't be nice? GTFO!

#2 Meh.

#3 Unless she was starving...

#4 Your choice

#5 Tricky, but he could simply have waited to respond

#6 Duh!

You're OK.

[DryGermanGuy]

You remind me of these Yakuza members, easily recognizable because they miss parts of their fingers. 🥴

[AngryCarl3]

Sometimes you have to do it to protect your ego. A lot of people forget how important protecting your ego is for your mental health.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. You should be more pliable though.

[TimothyT]

Depends on what they were brutally honest about

[Tempodip]

No honesty is good