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Should I just move on?

I was posting stories about how a guy coerced me and then this guy online tried to get close to me in a friendly way then we exchanged pics and he was like OMG you’re my future wife. And he started asking me if I wanted to have this basically D/s relationship with him where he tells me what to eat and wear all the time. Now I agreed and I like being under someone but I know now that I can’t just submit to any old Joe.

So at the time he was talking about how I’m going to be his wife and he soon flew from Chicago to my state. Thinking back I’m like why would he pay for a plane ticket just to lie, pump and dump me when he can easily do the same in his own state. It’s weird.

That’s why I’m questioning what the hell was this all about?

Anyway, we were together for a few days then he flew back to Chicago. He was still talking about how I was going to go to Chicago and move in with him and get married. I started asking about like ‘so when are you going to tell your family about me’ because I didn’t realize he hadn’t… and he said he can’t tell his mom yet because she wouldn’t understand our D/s relationship. I was like ok… but I started getting annoyed because be was being “too busy” (now I know that’s a fake ass excuse), he immediately blocked me EVERYWHERE even on the website we met LOL, and that was a year ago.

What was his whole point? Why did he do all that stuff?

Some people like to focus on only one person at a time where other people like to date multiple people. I don’t think I see an issue with it although I would feel weird to be dating someone who is dating like 10 people and was having sex with all of them- even if we weren’t having sex that would be disgusting to me. I wouldn’t want to touch them at all like even to kiss. 🤢

I think it’s probably good for some people who need a lot of attention because if you’re just in the beginning stages of getting to know someone you don’t wanna be super all over them, but you might have.. I don’t know attention needs so in that case dating a whole bunch of people until you narrow it down to someone you really get along with and may compliment your need for attention -or whatever - that might work out well. You can just replace attention with any other thing that you might need a lot of that you can’t really dump on someone in the beginning of getting to know them.

I don’t know that I could date people at once. I think it would be really exhausting, but I could see the merit in it for other people to do that.

I’m not referring to playing people. I’m referring to the situation where everyone is above board and you know if they’re dating other people and they know if you’re dating other people and if I got to the point where you wanted to have a relationship with a particular person, then you would stop seeing other people and they would stop seeing other people.