Generally if a girlfriend dumps you out of the blue, is it the ick or about long term compatibility?

[Anonymous]

If she also said she’s been thinking about it and she realised she’s not getting what she needs out of a relationship. Never told each other “I love you” after a year together. And also said you can’t change someone and also said she’s felt more like friends recently. And she wants to stay friends but doesn’t see a future together as romantic partners.

She caught the ick suddenly and is no longer sexually attracted to you

It’s more about long term compatibility

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8 mo

And if you were talking about a future together and having sex up until the last moment

[OneViewpoint]

It could be anything.

• Tyrone showed her the dick.
• Chad is back in town.
• She wants to explore her lesbian thoughts about her college roommate.
• She thinks she can do better.
• She just received a cancer diagnosis.
• She just received a fellowship in Tokyo.
• She just won the lottery and the world looks different now.
• She got a job offer in Kenya.
• Her mom is dying.
• She’s off her meds. Again.
• She’s upset about your incest thing with your sister.

[Finchie40]

Hard to say why she dumped you, but whatever she told you , just accept her reason , whether she is lying to you , or not , but whatever her reason may be , you are best to walk away and don’t look back and move on , word of advice , do not chase her and , contact her , act like she doesn’t exist because someone that actually loves you and likes you , wouldn’t be breaking up with you period. Put yourself back on the market , plenty of girls’ looking my friend

[melanieeeB]

Long term, she told you, she is not getting what she wants out of this relationship and sees you as a friend.
And women mostly mean the emotional things and not sex. She realized that you're not the man she wishes for and moved on.

[sage2021]

It's better to end it now so you can find someone who you can say "I love you" to before a year.
She wasn't the one for you! Better to move on and let that on go!!

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some clarity, focusing on dating pitfalls like the dreaded "ick" and compatibility issues. When a breakup comes out of nowhere, it often rides on a cocktail of unmet needs and emotional reality checks. If the "L" word stayed hidden in the shadows, it hints at missing sparks and connection. Feeling more like pizza buddies than lovers might mean the romantic chemistry left the chat a while ago. Staying friends? Fair game if both hearts can handle the new vibe. Remember, it's not failure, just a twist in your romantic tale! 🖤✨

[Anonymous]

If I put myself in the girls shoes.. the mention of saying “I love you” within a year? Thats a big no for me, where exactly should and how do I start loving you within a year?

But I mean I don't know. Everyone moves way too fast in relationships, and makes the relationship almost purely about sex.
I mean saying I love you within a year? Having sex every single day? I mean never heard of a waiting period? But then again I actually take the time to make sure things will work out before having sex with someone… so

[manbehindscreen]

In my experience, if a woman dumps you out of the blue, the most likely reason is she met someone else that she wants to be with. Women tend to get over relationships faster and find it easier to get a new partner. In some exceptions, there were plenty of warning signs and her friends told her to dump him, and she followed suit.

[Asker]

My case sounds more like the latter

[manbehindscreen]

It is definitely one of my grievances about women, how much influence their peer group have over them. It is just their nature though, but I personally think they should try countering this instinct. There was a time in evolution where this adaptation was useful for survival, but in modern times it hinders more than helps. Modern women can afford to not have a man, to be overly picky about men, and be hateful towards men. However, studies show female happiness has actually decreased. Many women are also absolutely terrible at reading men and give awful advice as a result. I see it all the time.

[Asker]

Well she said she spoke to friends about it. Why didn’t she talk to me?

[Asker]

But also I think friends only act as a catalyst. It doesn’t mean things would have been different if there was already doubt in her mind

[manbehindscreen]

Maybe but if she is on the fence about something and her friends told her what to do, then the conversation is over. There is no more input from the other individual and it's a done deal at that point.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

She was pretty clear, my guy. That’s about long-term compatibility. Her needs weren’t being fulfilled. The “ick” has very little to do with it.

[Nikki1989]

There are millions of possible reasons to dump someone.

[Asker]

Yes but after a year it’s generally not purely lack of sexual attraction?

[Asker]

Or that it faded?

[Anonymous]

There is usually another man involved, she found a new dick she likes better than you.

[Asker]

Really? I doubt it

[Anonymous]

Dude she played you like a fiddle manipulated your emotions

[Asker]

How?

[beenherebefore]

Only she can answer this.

[LiamJHayden]

Yeah, I would just move on.

[Anonymous]

Probably just an ick.

[Asker]

So lost sexual attraction over night?

[Opinion Owner]

It's possible, cause of the hormones.

[Asker]

Well that sort of attraction is always going to fade or fluctuate. If one dumps the moment it’s lost, they’re going to end up very lonely.

[Opinion Owner]

I guess you're right.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Perhaps both.