Do you hate good-looking people?

[Anonymous]

Since I'm an ugly motherfucker, I hate handsome people, they piss me off so bad. They didn't do anything to have those nice faces, yet they do not fucking help the ugly and sometimes even feel superior.

They should be slaves to the ugly ones, to balance things. Don't you agree?

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I am NOT trolling. I have lots of low self-esteem issues.

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Some of your answers are really great. Unfortunately, I can only choose one MHO. If I could, I would choose the ones of at least 5-6 people.

[Bluemax]

I'm going to assume you're not a troll, if anything because I've heard these sentiments before by people who are sincere.

Well, I have known people who were born with disfigurements and I very often see the sadness in them. Once in a while I see anger flashing in them. I can very much understand why anger and bitterness can happen in these people.

There are a few things to consider. Firstly, there are people who are unable to walk, unable to see, unable to hear, unable to speak, unable to scratch themselves when they have an itch, unable to groom themselves, unable to sit up, unable to pet a dog. Assuming you are able to do these things, how would you feel if that person hated you because you are able to do those things?

Secondly, I fully acknowledge that I will NEVER fully understand what it's like to be in my brother's situation (he has cerebral palsy and cannot walk more than a few feet, and that only with a cane). Similarly, he will (unfortunately) NEVER understand what it's like to run, swim, go sailing, and other things. It's not my fault I don't fully understand, nor will I ever, what it's like to be him and it's not his fault he will never fully understand what it's like to be me. Attractive people, assuming we're talking about those born that way, will never fully understand what it's like to be unattractive and vice versa. It's not their fault. It's just the way it is. By the way, many attractive people are that way as the result of GREAT effort. Any rate, is it a giraffe's fault for not knowing what it's like to be a zebra? No. Is it a zebra's fault for not knowing what it's like to be a giraffe? No. Is it REASONABLE to expect a giraffe and a zebra to fully know what it's like being the other? Certainly not. It would be very enlightening to spend a day in everyone else's shoes. Alas, the world is not that way, is it? It's not reasonable to expect life long attractive people to know what it's like to be unattractive.

[Bluemax]

Similarly, I don't know all the assumptions that people make about attractive people (although I am a VERY handsome Prussian medal!). They do not live a trouble free life (though granted they tend to live easier lives than the unattractive). Attractive people shouldn't EXPECT a handsome Prussian medal like myself to know what it's like to be a beautiful human.

Lastly, hatred is a very consuming emotion and in most cases it's a waste. I believe, asker, you are damaging yourself in hating attractive people. You are likely to just start to crackle with anger and drive good people, of all appearances, away. I don't like to think of people doing that to themselves.

So I entreat you to turn your energies into self examination. The man in the mirror is almost always our worst enemy (I'm no exception)! I think it would be very profitable for you to try and find ways to stop crackling with anger.

[Bluemax]

I read an article in Psychology Today that mentioned that most things which make people physically attractive are within our power to change. I'll see if I can find that article for you...

www.psychologytoday.com/.../being-beautiful-or-handsome-is-easier-you-think

There you go. Message me if you'd like to chat.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot. I'll send you a message; I do understand everything you typed but I, in general, do not think like a normal and "controlled" person like you since I'm a narcisisst and I have nightmares of my face that are slowly destroying my own persona.

The hatred I feel is something that comes from my heart, not from my brain. I have been looked at as a monster, with people who stared at me in disgust, making me feel a disgusting presence.

I do not stand my face anymore and everything I do, even the generally "good stuff", sucks because I know that, no matter what, my face will always remain the same.

I am on the train right now and there's a woman staring at my face... and this happens DAILY.

[Bluemax]

Perhaps you could explain what you mean by "controlled" person?

I would suggest it's time to let the head rule over the heart. Message me any time. We'll chat.

[Helena26]

I love your answer. Best answer I have ever read on this site

[Helena26]

People made a lot of assumption about me , I was told I am pretty a lot but equal times I was mistreated bullied... etc they forget that I have feelings I am a human. Its form of discrimination. I never relied on my looks in anything in life. I worked so hard. it hurts so much to get people to judge you and punish you for just being there

[Bluemax]

@Helena26
Thank you.

[ColloquialJelloSea]

I'm a good looking lad but I am not over confident or successful in life. I was born with a pleasant face that I didn't choose and that's where it ends. I am nothing to be jealous of.

Thinking about it if we could choose our faces the world probably be a better place lol

I'm sorry that you feel how you do but the fact of the matter is a persons beauty comes from within. I have been lucky enough to have very attractive girls throw themselves at me but besides physical attraction they are generally quite boring people who have used their attractiveness to get through life and have never developed a true personality. I don't look at people as being pretty/ugly/average but if I was to pick between spending a night out with a pretty girl with no personallity or a ugly girl with one I would pick the latter every time and that's the way you have to look at it "I may not be prettyest but at least I'm interesting and I can have a laugh". Please don't let your bitterness consume you as you will single yourself out completely as bad energy does not attract good. If you meet people who judge u instantly on your appearance then they have done you a favour in showing they are not good people so don't waste your time with them.

Imagine being called gay because you didn't want to go out with a certain person who everybody else thought was attractive or imagine people wanting to fight you because their girlfriend fancies you. You get shit for whatever you do in life the best thing to do is go out and live it and leave the petty people to their own devices they really ain't worth the effort.

I will take your slave comment on the chin as in reality it's these attractive celebrities that are the slaves to our society so a role reverasal might be a funny thing haha

One Love x

[Helena26]

I really relate to what you say. Good looking people endure scrutiny from others. Other people even strangers think its OK they can pick on you out of jealousy. I had times when people refuse to help me thinking she us a pretty girl she might have it easy in life why would I help her ugh. and they assume you are using beauty to get ahead. Yes I was accused of sleeping with my boss for promotion. When I worked so hard for everything I earned

[PseudoStar]

No one helps you if you’re ugly as fuck anyway, I would pick not being helped while looking good than what I look like, people like you will never understand what it’s fucking like to see yourself in the mirror and want to tear your face off every single day, I don’t hate you, I’m fucking jealous as shit of you.

[523206720]

I don't hate good looking people but sometimes I feel shy around them. However this shyness usually goes away after 2-4 positive experiences talking to them and not getting judged by what they say or do. I think we have to remember that just because somebody is good does not mean they are any happier than non-good looking people. They may have teeth problems - they may have bone density issues - they may have nausea - they may have severe loneliness and depression - they may have anorexia issues - they may be very poor - they may feel neglected by their husbands or wives who go on business trips and do not spend time with them or they may be cowards who aren't strong enough or mature enough to handle the responsibilities they have to encounter in life or they may be low intelligence. I know plenty of good looking people who are NOT happy.

[aamy811]

Using hate them but I'm jealous. I'd say I'm about a 7, but that's with a lot f work. Growing up all my friends where naturally beautiful, but I wasn't so I put in a lot of work. I eat vegan most days, workout 6 times a week, spend at least $100 a month and half on skin care, and spend tons if money an time on makeup. It's hard work, but to be considered more attractive it's totally worth it. If I don't have looks, what do I really have?
But anyways I do get jealous my frieda are all good looking with no work. I cry about it a lot, and have starved myself so that I match them better. But it was worth it. They're just so pretty and it pisses me off. I guess this is what I get for being born

[Asker]

You're a 7? If I take care of my skin and shit, I'd be maybe a 3.

[harakiri]

no. might get jealous, but i don't hate them. it's just luck of the draw + metabolism + diet/exercise + styling skills. make enough money and you can alter your appearance if you wish. there are options if you are truly displeased with your appearance. i'm a huge fan of facial aesthetics and have an interest in plastic surgery. there are plenty of things i'd like to change about myself but i also... wanna be able to recognize myself, y'know? so... be careful if you do make changes. our identities are often very much tied to our appearance.

[CommieKiller]

Of course you don't hate attractive people, you're one of them. ;3

[harakiri]

@CommieKiller :x :x

[I-Saw-You-Looking]

your lucky your not a girl

girls are programmed to respond better to high status more than looks as they have better survival and replication value, they care about status (personality) about 70% and looks about 30%

guys are programmed the other way 70% looks and 30% child bearing qualities.

and stop being a little B**ch and start doing somthing, rather than crying that your bad looking get yourself well groomed and dressed, learn to have fun, learn to not seek acceptance, stop looking to other people for charity, start giving instead (think this, you give a homeless guy £1 who feels better about that? you or the homeless guy? its going to be you) and start taking from life things you want, do your own thing.

[Asker]

You're right. Being a girl would be even more difficult. Thanks your great answer.

[FriaGella]

instead of focusing on how you hate attractive people why not try to improve yourself to make yourself feel better. I used to feel the same way but I realized there's no point of hating them. just a waste of time.

and neither should be superior to balance things :)

[Asker]

That should indeed be the right thing to do. But I can't help myself, do you understand?

[Mgoods]

Tbh, I'm enamoured with the beauty of women.
I dislike overly attractive men. I make silly generalisations about them. I know I'm being judgemental, but I'm ok with it- a lot of attractive guys are just dicks. So I just won't interact with them. I probably have some sort of inferiority complex. It's sad, really.

[Asker]

You do have to dislike them, they are not worthy your time anyway.

[RavenEye123]

Lol, that last sentence cracked me up. Don't be so jealous of them. I'm not that good-looking either and I figure they have their own problems as well, even if they are handsome/pretty. Then again, if they feel superior to you because of it, then they're shallow jerks and you should just ignore them. Besides, if you were suddenly a good-looking person, would you want somebody despising you simply because of your looks? They're not going to care if you're envious of them, so why even bother?

[Asker]

You're right, they don't even deserve my attention. They're scum.

[hanscuit]

First, please take a deep breath. Its not fair to hate random people just because they're good looking. Im a good looking girl but im very humble and grateful and thankful about it. I'm NEVER rude to ugly people, im always the one who makes friends with the people who get bullied because they're fat, ugly, or whatever. because i want a real friend who loves me for me not because they're good looking or not thats not true friendship from the heart. I dont hate good looking or ugly people. I hate people who are ugly on the inside, but I love people who are beautiful on the inside. You can be the most gorgeous guy god himself has ever created on this earth, but if you are a mean, cocky, and overall asshole I will NOT like you. There are good looking people who will help "ugly" people I;m one of those people, i dont judge a book by its cover hon.. Please dont think this way..

[Account]

Why would I hate them? I kind of stare at good-looking women with admiration.
"They should be slaves to the ugly ones" Okay, my troll detector is going nuts~
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[Asker]

I was not trolling, I really believe they are scum. I'm an ugly narcisist, it's hard to cope with that.

[DarkBeauty9]

I was bullied in high school by girls all the time, so I guess I don't have hate because it's a cancerous feeling. Sure I have friends who are prettier than me, but I don't want to be liked for how i look, i want to be liked for me

[Asker]

Good thing you're so positive.

[cavmanier]

Yeah it's messed up how looks are from chance. Looks are pretty subjective though at least. The world does seem generally preoccupied over looks. I mean I think the importance is very over exaggerated.

[Asker]

... typed a good looking guy.

[LastGirlScout]

Hating yourself isn't very healthy so I just gaze into the mirror adoring myself and wondering how all the lesser mortals manage to muddle through life with their substandard faces.

[Asker]

You must be quite the looker.

[LastGirlScout]

Obviously so, that's why I've got a heavily edited profile picture ;)

[Asker]

My face is so full of red spots people avoid to make eye contact with me. Just saying.

[LastGirlScout]

What's up with your face to make it have red spots?

[Asker]

Bas skin leads to pimples, sometimes pimples lead to red spots. It sucks balls.

[LastGirlScout]

I can imagine it does, but I'm sure you've got plenty of time to grow out of it, most skin conditions are closely related to hormones. Just think, my poor boyfriend has permanent red marks on his cheeks which will never go, so could be worse!

[Asker]

I hope so. I just hate when people look at me and laugh without even talking to me at first.

[LastGirlScout]

Yeah, but that makes them ugly on the inside. Doesn't help you but not everyone is as cruel as those people.

[Bullfish]

Hating them will get you nowhere. I sense so much anger in your words. Anger that will make damage only to you in the end. Accept yourself and if you can do something to improve your look, do it. Transform that hate into something useful.

[Asker]

Sometimes it's very hard to realize I'm such an ugly guy. I'm a narcisist, so you can clearly understand for me it's very difficult to keep a positive way of thinking.

[Bullfish]

Yes I do understand. I guess being a narcissist makes you have such harsh opinion about yourself. But even in that you can find something that can set you on a good track. You are a aware of your problem and you admit it, that's a good thing. Try to live with it and change it, step by step. Wish you all the best.

[Asker]

Thanks, man. I really appreciate your nice words.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Haha, jealous much? Earn money and get plastic surgery if it bothers you that much (or get secure in your own body...)

[Asker]

I hope money and plastic surgery will do the trick. Even though now I'm poor as fuck.

[soccerchick4eva]

omg yes! there's always something that i get jealous about -.- -.-

[Asker]

Like a cute ass, a nice face and great boobs?

[soccerchick4eva]

exactly ! haha there's always something about someone else that im always like , why i can't i look like that -.- hahha

[Mesonfielde]

I am envious of their genetic structure. However, that is not sufficient reason to hate them. If they screw me over or harass me or kill my dog or something, then it makes sense to hate them.

[SandPlanet]

No, of course I don't hate myself.

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[d3f3cted]

i think i hate there personalities and cockyness more then anything

[atomique]

I disagree. Calm down dude. I'll make you some dinner and get you some tea. Don't be so grumpy. Its not good for your health son.

[Asker]

I know, right? I should have eaten more vagisil like Cartman to think less.

[Anonymous]

Nah if they turned ugly the majority would be retarded. Meanwhile us average guys constantly carve out who we are and build up a solid foundation of other cool shit. By the time I got stardum I'll be ready to embrace that shit.

[Chris011]

I don't hate them but when I see someone very attractive I think to myself: "That is one lucky m*ther f*cker." Sorry for the crude language lol.

[DoriantheArtisan]

I am not perfect but I like my face;-) I appreciate beauty because of my artstic personality. I do however do not like entitled people.

[abundantlyrich]

If you look at the world's top CEos... they're not exactly good looking. They're pretty average to being very plain. So who's really serving who?

[Asker]

I would really love it if the world were full of only average looking people.

[BerkeleyBeatle]

Statistically, that's already the case

[abundantlyrich]

Lol. Most people are average either by personality or looks.