Why does my husband call me fat and ugly?

[kellianne]

Hey my husband had a affair and now we are in the process of a divorce. He owns companies and wants me to settle...I said no. He said I need to do something with my belly, my vercose veins on my legs and that no man will ever like me again, because I am disgusting. Really, I am not. I may have a little stomach but that is from c-sections of three boys. He told me last night all these things and then said, I want you to know I f... your friend and she thinks you are crap. I have been crying from the name and from the fact that my friend would do that. So any advice on why he torments me greatly appreciated

[jdcpa]

Because he's an @sshole?

It depends on his profession and level of education. I think it sounds like a psychological bargaining power-play. I would start making photocopies of all his financials, contact the IRS and get copies of prior tax returns for as far back as you can, take an inventory count of all the valuable things in the house.

Send them to your attorney, and don't tell him what you've made copies of, or anything else you've done. Send yourself a letter at your address from your supposed "forensic accountant" stating that he's investigated every single asset your husband has, and concluded all his sources of income flow. The letter should be addressed to you ONLY. Just leave it in the mailbox or in some obvious place where you know he'll open it. When he opens it, be furious, and remind him that opening up your mail is a federal offense. Then, tell him you're going to milk him dry for every cent he's not even worth, and THEN "no woman will want his broke-ass, and food-stamp dates."

[Minxxe]

he's trying to hurt you, probably because he knows he did a sh*tty thing to you and his boys but knows also he could never compensate for it. don't let him rule your head, he did wrong not you. there are tons of guys who'd get with an experienced woman with a belly, your body doesn't define the person you are, besides if he's off f***ing little sluts I''m sure he'll also see that they too gain a belly with age and childbearing.

personally I'd take him for every penny he has, ruin him and let him know it's because you put your life on-hold being married to him and to bear his kids. phew, he owe's you big-time! as for your friend he cited, take the bull by the horns and confront her with it.. she can deny it or tell the truth and support you - either way you need real "friends" going through a tough time as you are now - better to know sooner than later.

[kittybell2468]

Ignore him when people are not happy with themselves they try to make everyone else unhappy too, my sister just went through this and she is a lovely sweet woman. Her soon to be ex did the exact same thing that is happening to you. Whatever you do, don't get made take everything you can. My sister was able to get 60% everything because he had an affair. Keep your chin up, don't take anything he says personal, but be sure to take everything he has. Good luck to you and check back...I would like to know how things go for you. =)

[elizabeth24]

he is trying to break you so that you don't want to fight anymore. he is a nasty pig of a name that couldn't keep his penis in his pants. my nana went through the same thing with her divorce. if it gets where the things are verbal abuse record it and sent it to the police. He is worthless you are lucky to get rid of him

[bobbyjean]

I have to agree with elizabeth24 on this one.hes trying to break you down and leave you with no strength left to go through it all. he knows he screwed up big time and is taking the anger he feels towards himself and using it on you.

BE STRONG YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT!

[Anonymous]

he's just trying to hurt you and do anything he can to lower your esteem. he's angry and hurt and lashing out on you. limit your contact with him, only talk business with him. don't hang around to hear him say these cruel things to you.