Why can't I stop contacting him?

Question

I can't stop texting my ex boyfriend from time to time. I know he doesn't give a sh*t about me but I miss him.

I know I shouldn't contact him and want to but I can't?

Have any of you had this. I'm worried that he might change his number or bar my number?

We were together a long time but he has now moved on!

Daydreamer · Accepted Answer

I have this problem too. I tried deleting his number out of my phone but I am OCD about that kind of stuff and I'm worried that I'll need it someday (even though it's burned into my brain!) so deleting it was not an option. I tried putting it under things like "Conceited Ass" or "Immature Dickhead" so every time I went through my phone I'd remember who he has turned into. But as much as I WANT hate him and as much as I SHOULD hate him, I don't . I just put him under "That One Boy."

My ex could care less about me, and if he does care -- well I'd be surprised. And that's what I try to remember. Why be so dedicated to him when he probably doesn't even read my text messages...and honestly, he probably doesn't. And then I try to remember the girl he moved on to. She's not a good person at all and never is he anymore. The past should stay in the past, no need to look back. Think about how all the times you weren't happy. Think about how badly you were hurt. You're allowed to be mad you know!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I totally know what your feeling my ex and I were together for years and lived together and our families were close then he broke up with me and started seeing someone else liike that we didn't speak up until this year and every time he talks to me or I see him I don't want to leave and I continuouesly want to go see him and talk to him but I stop myself because I take a moment to think of why I'm doing it is it because your lonly? you only remember the good times? your not getting any male attention? or you don't have confidence in yourself? for me its all of them so I'm working at it which is taking my mind off my ex which is good because if it didn't work for the amount of time we were together or you were with yours which you said was a long time what makes you think its going to be differant this time round? Goodluck time is the key and remember you should come first your a strong person and we only get one chance at this life don't waste it on someone who doesn't want it

Marlin777 · Accepted Answer

Don't feel bad.  Me and my ex were together for 8 years.  It's been 2 years after we broke up.  I texted and emailed and called so much that she changed her phone number.  But we still have been contacting to the day by email.  If I send a email she replys sometimes nice, sometimes just cold nice.  I still think about her everyday and I can't stop.  Been to counslers, been on antidepression pills, had friends help me and nothing helps.  We just emailed not 2 weeks ago.  She wants some of her stuff from my storage from the house.  I have tried to give it to her but she says like I will pick it up Thursday and then email me on tues or wed to tell me she can't .

l-hedoniste · Accepted Answer

Move on. This isn't good for you, this chasing after a man who doesn't want you. Or how about this: this is exactly how to destroy any chance you could have with him in the future.

nicholasrl13 · Answer

Well you should probably stop, or at least cut back. If you and him take a hiatus he might realize what he's missing, or you might realize what your pining after isn't that great. So I would cut back, but if you still want to be friends then you shouldnt stop (just less =])

Anonymous · Answer

its hard, be confident that you dont' need him. delete his number, get yourself busy, draw some horns on his pictures, swear at him, start hating his hair, remember his short penis, anything!

milestone · Answer

If you have done something wrong to him..go to him and appologize sincerely..give him some time to think...1 or 2 days may be...if he comes back he is urs...if not, he never was...move on !