I told him I like him...now what?

[Anonymous]

I told one of my guy friends that I like him (in an informal text). Now what? His response wasn't that promising...he said that he stays distant because then if it doesn't work out, he can leave with an "easy break" still being friends. He called it 'damage control.' I replied to that saying that I always like to let people know where they stand, and wouldn't bring it up again. Then I changed the subject. His response to that was that he was cold and distant because he didn't want to misplace emotion and was glad that I told him. I mentioned something about a book, and that effectively changed the subject. I haven't talked to him since then (gasp- four hours ago & he is at work.) But...now I don't know what to do. He knows I am interested, so should I just leave it up to him?

Side note: We don't currently live in the same town. I am moving there in a month.

Any advice is appreciated! Also, a guy friend told me that a guy will never tell a girl he doesn't like her...he just won't say it/avoid it. Do you think that's what happening here? Gah!

Updates

+1 y

Thanks for all the advice! He told me we should go out to dinner, get sushi or something when I move to town. :)

[rachiee]

No one really likes to deny someone flat out and if they do then they're not that great of a person. Although he didn't give off signals that totally say he's not into you he didn't give off ones that say he is. It sounds like he's a little uncertain about how to handle the situation, if he was interested in you he would've said straight up that he felt the same way too. Guys tend to use the friend thing a lot to tell the girl they don't like them. Don't do anything else. Its all up to him to do something now. You told him how you felt. Wait awhile and see how he acts towards you. If he continues to act weird or cold then just drop it and find a new guy.

[shewonderswhy]

I would leave it up to him, maybe he has been hurt in the past and is afraid to jump into anything...

[Magma]

Maybe he sort of likes you but has his mind on someone else at the moment? Or maybe he has had past experiences with girls where he gets attached too fast and then gets hurt because they dump him. Perhaps he's the one who does the dumping because he gets into relationships based on infatuation and lust and after that fades he breaks up with them, he's picked up on that and no longer gets into relationships too quickly to make sure its not just infatuation? He might not want to see you hurt like that and loose you as a friend?

I don't know aha, it's always tough figuring out what someones thinking.

[mustang99]

I don't know about that advice, sounds right. But anyway, he might not want to hurt you and want to remain friends, that's probably why he's being a little distant. And yes you should leave it up to him, you already made the first move, just leave it up to him and don't worry about it.