GUYS: do you delete your ex's from social media?

after my breakup, my ex and i still had each other on snap chat... and when i send snap chat i send it to everyone kinda thing, and he'd open it etc etc. then 2 days ago, he deleted me off snap chat when i haven't snap chatted him in like 3 months. (we broke up 3 months ago).

wouldn't he delete me before when i snap chatted him, not when i dont snap chat him?

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  • Not at first. I like to see how they're doing, make sure they're moving forward and not self-destructing. I want to see them happy, but I'm not going to step back into their lives. I might ask a mutual friend to look into things, but at that point I'm cutting off all communication so that I don't obtain a personal stake in her well-being.

    Once I know she's okay, I'll delete her. Or if we remain friends, there's no reason to delete her. She was a friend before, she can still be a friend after. And if a future significant other has a problem with my being friends with an ex, my ex isn't the problem. She is. If you trust a person, you trust a person. End of discussion. Jealousy and suspicion will only lead to self-created trouble that you can't eliminate from your mind.

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    In your situation, it sounds like he just didn't bother to delete you. Maybe it's just a social media habit, where we are quick to add friends but uncaring when it comes to deleting people unless we're out to get each other.

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    • mhmm yea just odd cause he deleted me when istopped talking to him?

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    • mhmm good point

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  • When my ex and I broke up he deleted me from Facebook. For him I think it was just easier dealing with the breakup without seeing his ex on his News Feed. For me, I found the idea of deleting him too painful because it was another confirmation that things had ended (21st century problems, wow). Having to see your ex on any sort of social media is difficult because it just brings up past memories and whatever feelings are left. Keeping them on a friend/contact list just really serves no purpose.

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    • i guesss... although wouldn't my ex delete me when i spoke to him, not when i stopped speaking to him?

    • Maybe he was still hanging onto you a bit and liked the contact. Once you stopped speaking to him, nothing was left between you two, and he may have decided to cut the final tie. It's tough to say, social networking definitely adds complexity to dating and breakups because there aren't really defined norms.

    • yeah true.. the only reason why i stopped talking is because he broke up with me, so obvisouly i'd want to make the break up easier for myself to stop talking which is logical right?

      i guess he did hang on a bit cause he did start crying so yeah mmhm thats true, social media is complex

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What Guys Said 7

  • Guys deeply want to be friends with their exes, but it feels plain wrong, they feel immasculated and they can't bare the thought of you being with someone else, while you two are just friends. It seriously means that he has deep feelings anymore. but he's looking after himself now, if you still have feelings for him, then for god's sake get him back. if not, then stop complaining and move on too!!
    haha tough but it's true :)

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    • wait, so he did have deep feelings or not? but the thing is why i never acted on it and let it go, is because he broke up with me...

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    • mhmm fair call i guess i mean he did cry when we broke up so

    • i find ur comment interesting. my ex gave me a hard time for considering to go out and date and then like 2 weeks later i found out he was talking to someone so explain that cause i can't figure it out lol

  • It depends on how the relationship ended. Good terms, I would delete my ex. She cheated on me and I erase her from my memory banks. I stopped hanging out with a friend of mine because he cheated on his girl. I have a bad resentment towards anyone who cheats. Anyway, it's completely situational.

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  • I don't so the girl doesn't think I care enough about her to delete her, but you can still change your settings so that their activity doesn't come up on your news page.

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  • Depends on the ex. I have a couple that I've been able to maintain friendships with but there were others that I had to cut contact with.

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  • I deleted and blocked my ex across all forms of communication.

    Greatest decesion of my life.

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    • why did you choose to do that , and after how long? did she hurt you? has she done something real bad? did you felt better after and able to move on?

    • I did it a few weeks after I learned she had been talking with another guy after dating me and IMMEDIATELY jumped into a relationship with me after breaking up with me over the phone. I just couldn't handle seeing all the immature posts.

    • So you were hurt? did you still loved her a bit?
      Sorry i am asking because there is a misunderstood I think with my guy.

  • yes.
    Delete , block , set to private profile.

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    • yeah but he deletes me after like 3 months of break up, and didn't delete me when i actually spoke to him. so odd

  • yes but only because she deserved it

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    • whywould you choose to do that , and after how long? did she hurt you? has she done something real bad? did you felt better after and able to move on?

What Girls Said 5

  • I would delete an ex off of all my social media if I dont want a constant reminder of him or want to move on. Maybe he deleted you off of snapchat because he thought you guys weren't going to stay in contact. So he thought he might as well just delete you. That or he's dating another girl and doesn't want her stumble upon your conversation. Not sure sorry :-/

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    • i told him that we're gonna stay in contac, but wheni say that i mean like not 3 months later, maybe half a year later, when we're both moved on fully, if you get what i mean? i mean of course i still want to stay in contact with him i mean he was once special to me. (and still is but not that way). so yeah mhm thanks for your help though

    • No problem hope you get some clarity

  • Lul. I deleted my ex who cheated on me and beat me, he made two other and added me on both so accepted them. I even got the kid beat up and he still tries, even though I'm dating his friend..
    Guys are weird.

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  • Haha that's stupid.

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  • Maybe he finds it hard to get over you. I always delete people i want to forget, not to be mean but so it's easier to move on!

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    • i guess but the thing is that he broke up with me though?

  • My ex deleted me on Fb when we broke up.

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