Ex girlfriend texted me out of the blue?

[supapowies]

The text message itself was kind of questionable she said " I was wearing my blue scrubs and reminded me the first time I met you...Hope your doing well. we broke up at the end of may she went to go visit her family in OR for a month, she's the one that ended it. I just don't know what to think of the message, there's no one I would wanna be with more in this world..but more or less she was probably just being nice but who the hell knows

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I haven't even texted her back I am clueless about what to say back I know it should be somewhat short but I don't wanna seem eager or give her some overbearing impression

[Anonymous]

Tread lightly and don't dive in. There are some factors that you need to consider.

Is she dating anyone? If she is then run far away from her. Nothing good will come of this. If she isn't, proceed.

Has she dated anyone since you've broken up? In a comment you said she has, so I would be wary. Sorry to say, but she has gotten over you enough to want to be with another guy. That's never a good sign.

How long has it been since she broke up with this other guy? If she just broke up with the guy within the week, then she could be looking at you to fall back on. If it's been awhile it's possible she's regretting breaking up with you and has been thinking about it a lot. And just to clarify, awhile would be at least 2 months of being single. The longer, the better.

And then she could just have been reminded of you and realized she missed having you around. Nostalgia can be a strong feeling. Either way, it's up to you to weigh in what you think her motive is because you know her better than me. If you decide to contact her just be casual and friendly. Do not flirt. Treat her like your sister until you know what it is she really wants. People (especially exes) don't text by accident. There is always a reason.

Seeing has you didn't reply to her right away you won't be giving her the impression that you're eager. Like I said, treat her like your sister. If you're doing fine, tell her that. Make small talk. Maybe say that you hope her trip went well. Don't talk about yourself too much unless she asks. Nothing serious unless she brings it up. And if she does, maintain an audience viewpoint. Listen to her, but try not to argue or rehash bad things from the past. What she's looking for could very well be drama. I hope this helped. Sorry if I seem harsh, but girls are complicated. Good luck.

[smellylittlecat]

If I were her, saying the 'reminded of our first time...' kind of implies "I still miss you/love you". And it could possibly mean she wants to get back with you. I have done that to my ex, but I don't think he gets it like you don't get it. That or he doesn't want to believe it.

Bringing back old memories is a way of hinting (always hinting is the tactic) that I think of you.

And it COULD mean (since I'm not her)-

I miss talking to you and want to be friends. This is the only way to get your attention.

Or-

she's being a sadistic person. This only would imply if she is the type of person to play with someone's feelings. And that's only for you to know if she has done that in the past or does that with people she left. But I don't know why people would be mean and bring up old memories.

It's up to you to reply to that. Honestly girls would loveee for you to reply, "Aww that's cute." (not sounding sarcastic) Or a call would be better. That's if you think she still likes you in that romantic way. You guys could be friends again and even more if you work it out.

But if you want to take it slow and hear her out first, just reply nicely with a, "Hey how are you?" And she'll do all the talking. I think ignoring her would be a bit mean and a let down, however, if your heart is telling you that you don't know what her intentions are and that you're not ready to reply, then don't. It's up to you. She started the initiative.

[princessevils]

Ya, when I am bored I mess with ex's cause I know how to get them going and it boosts my ego to know they still want me.

If she was serious she would want to fix the issues that caused the break up in the first place.

I have found going back together is always a disappointment, it can never be like it was. Time passes, events occur...as bad as you wish and try...It's never the same.

Keep ignoring it, I applaud you. I have one ex that doesn't respond but I KNOW him well enough to know he wants to..It bugs the crap out of me. LOL

[Dane145]

Dude,

Leave that bitch alone! Women are notorious for doing this type of sh*t! I went through a bad break up and fought hard for 5 months flat! All of a sudden there was this major time constraint.

She could never talk, but she would always say "i'm trying." Her idea of trying were 2 calls in 1 month. Or she would call when she knew I was asleep...Or answer a simple question 6-7 hours later, but claimed their was no one else.

So many key factors played into her bullsh*t, that one day I said "fk it!" Where is my self worth? My diginity?

Is she just hanging on until someone else better comes along? So many things run through your mind, it's not even funny.

My advice to you is continue to ignore her! Don't feed into that Peter Pan bullsh*t! PLUS, when you ignore women, especially on text, that drives them crazy, just like us guys! So my advice to you my friend is leave her alone and find a new piece of ass!

Whatever she is doing will come back to her! TRUST ME! Smiling...

I am a firm believer of Karma! Yes sir, the laws of "moral causation." Just say to yourself, if it was meant to be, you would still be with her today! If she cared, she would have fixed things!

BE SMART!

After my breakup, I met a bad ass chick! I still see her to this day! It's like a snowball effect, cause the door is open and opportunity allows you to meet, fk and forget! ABOUT YOUR EX THAT IS!

Good luck to you! I know it hurts, but trust me, it's temporary!

Dane

[Spelunker]

my guess:

the guy she dumped you to be with has now dumped her, and she's hoping you'll be her fall-back plan.

[supapowies]

Or maybe she's not into him. no need to toot my own horn but this guy is not as attractive as me.

[Spelunker]

To me, the important question is if she dumped you.

If she dumped you, there's probably _no_ good that can come from contact with her. Especially after a bad breakup. Why put yourself through hell a second time?

[Dollface-86]

Wow that is just weird. There is a possiblity that it is what spelunker said. Or she may miss you and want to resume contact. I have no clue. Trust your gut. Not your heart, but your gut. If you think it would be ok to text her back and get on good terms then ok. But if you think there is something off or not right about it, then don't respond.

[supapowies]

The thing is she probably knows I still am in love with her I just don't know why she would have even remotely tease my feelings in a sense she's not that kinda anyway.

[Dollface-86]

Thats crual. In that case I would really leave her alone. If she really wanted to be on good terms Id think she would wanna get together and talk face to face. Ya know, clear the air and stuff. But if you get the feeling that she may be messing with you then don't waste your time. I always tell people to use a break up to re-evaluate your life. Do something for you that would make you happy and add a newfound joy to your life. In the process you might just meet someone that deserves you.

[Bananachick]

She might be stringing you along as a safety net in case she can't find anyone else. Some girls are like that, you know. Try and feel her out and see if she's interested in you or not. If she says "just be friends" be careful. A lot of times girls use the "just be friends" line as a way to string a guy along as a spare tire.

That text message DOES NOT sound casual to me.She might be honestly trying to patch things up with you, but BE CAREFUL that she doesn't turn you into a safety net.

[Rei02]

Maybe she did it because she was leaving for a period of time. Maybe when you meet again you can ask her, without harrasing her of course, why she did it.

[supapowies]

It wasn't a good break up and she had no intention of breaking up with before she left a month I even asked her if she was using this as an opportune time before she left and she said no

[cutiekay2230]

It either means:

A: She thought of you and just wanted to say hi, or

B: She's starting to think of you romantically again.

Either way, avoid the "reminded me of you" and reply to the "Hope you're doing well".

Tell her how you're doing and maybe she'll just keep going with what you say.

[confused84]

She might try to get back together with you, or she's just curious how you're doing-there is such a thing and no more interest than that.

[yasie_xoxo17]

chances are she's still into you and that might be a window for

yall to get back 2gether...maybe.