My ex wants to spend time with my on my birthday. How do I tell her no?

I still have feelings for her even after 4 years. We agreed to be friends but recently last year she proved to me that she's just devious. She claims she has a gift waiting for me, how do I steer clear of her?

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  • Devious huh? Sounds like my kind of girl ;)
    What I like to do usually is play the same game. Lead her on, make her meet you somewhere special, maybe dinner at her house. Have her bake you cake or something nice. Then at the last minute pull the plug. Tell her your busy, but you have to make it seem genuine and not dismissive! That way she'll keep coming back for more and you won't be hurt at the same time.

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  • Haha !! She wants to lay it down haha !! Ok but let's be serious. Let her know what you think and you don't think it's a good idea. Say how much you appreciate her thinking about you but you're (ex gf) not the one I want to spend my bday with... HARSH I KNOW. It's straight to the point.

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  • Just don't answer her. She's trying to tie up your time on YOUR day so that nobody else gets to see you and that you won't get to have fun with anyone else.
    Don't let her do that to you. If you have to say anything, say sorry you have plans, maybe the following week or the week AFTER that, even.

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    • Btw, these types of problems aren't ones people have with "friends," if she is devious, why would you want a devious friend!

    • It's more complicated than you think, there's a thin line between my reputation (especially with my line of work) and her need for my friendship.

      I keep her at arms reach, away from my personal life. So the qquestion lies within what a "friend" means to me.

      Thanks for the response though! I figured she would have to be deleted from my memorable days. I don't want anything sentimental from her or anything to remind me of her.

What Guys Said 3

  • I'm Going To Give You My Professional Unlicensed Opinion, Instead Of Beating Around The Bush, Just Come Out With It & Tell Her Straight Up You Dont Want Anything To Do With Her. Communication Is Key !!

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    • I have a reputation to hold. I don't want people to suspect I'm weak and can't handle ex's.
      Especially in my line of work.

  • BDAY SEX!
    Not sure if you want it though. I most certainly wouldn't. Gonna get your emotions all messed up again.

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    • I don't think so... I think she gets turned on by hurting me.

  • "You can mail the gift to me, I'm busy"

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