It's OK to let your girlfriend to go to parties?

[Anonymous]

It seems that most young girls are willing to get f***ed in parties, and then excuse themselves by saying they were drunk. Or sometimes when they meet other guys, they invent a fight over the phone so they can have a temporary breakup then sleep with the guy, and then act like nothing happened next day. It's really painful.

I don't want to be a control freak, I like to trust my girl, I don't have a problem of her having fun with her friends, but I don't want to her to be disrespectful either, or that her friends laugh behind my back because they know what she may be doing.

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I lost many relationships in the past that way, were I was OK with letting them go out, then they found other guys, cheated on me and eventually end up dumping me.

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I'm talking going out with her friends to whatever type of party.

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I'm very loyal myself, I have never cheated on anybody, and that's also why being cheated on hurts so much every time it happens with different girls.

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I knew I was not going to get many answers in this one. Most girls don't want to deal with this kind of topics.

[JennyMay]

Your messing with the wrong kind of chicks. Are you meeting them at these parties? Cause if you are then you need to stop going to them. You can't control some one and make them say in cause if they really want to do it they will find another way to do it. And even of a girl cheats she will tell her girls but they won't be laughing behind you back it would prob be something like OMG slept with tom at this party last night what should I do. And most guys are the same way with dealing with this kind of subject to.

[Asker]

No, no my friends at least, the simple fact her friends know is humilliating, seriously, this is a mess. Like I said I'm not trying to control her, but I don't want to be disrespected like in previous relationships.

[JennyMay]

You have to have trus it you don't then there is no point in being with someone you don't trust.

[Asker]

See is not a particular girl issue, it comes from a full amount of past experiences, so every time a new girl tell me, hey I'm going to a party with my female friends on Saturday, I can only remember trouble.

[ryanryan90]

are you talking about like club parties? because guys in those parties don't even ask if you want to dance.. they just go behind you and grab your waist. She could however just tell them to f*** off and dance with her friends.. but if her friends are going to be grinding with these guys she might get bored by herself and join too

[Asker]

It's not the dancing the problem, it's the makeouts, the phone numbers, the blowjobs, the sex, etc.

[somechick]

I think you've been meeting the wrong types of girl. Not all girls do that. In fact, I don't know ANY girls/women who'd do that. Is that really what you kids do these days?

[Asker]

Maybe you come from a different generation, I'm in my early 20s and all girls are party freaks.

[somechick]

I'm in my late 20s. I'm sure there are good girls your age. Either that or you'll need to find an older woman to date.

[Asker]

I'm not usually attracted to older girls, but who knows, that's just in theory. Maybe girls my age will mature someday, however they will be old by them, it's a lost lost situation. Although I have seem some 30+ women in Victoria's Secret that are better than the ones that have 20.

[somechick]

Date an Asian girl. We tend to look young for a very long time. ;) I'm 27 but I can easily pull off 19.

[Asker]

I notice that, I like that a lot. I went to a massage place, she was like 40, and her p**** was like 16. Good stuff right there.

[Anonymous]

You clearly don't trust her. Girls love attention. Girls go to parties to get attention. Girls are all about the head games. Many are just dick teases, but many are actually whores. Girls have the same sex drive as guys, so it's not out of the question that some will go out looking to just get f***ed. Difference between guys and girls is- guy's don't feel bad after, girls usually do. So you will find out if she has.

[Asker]

The thing is that even if I can trust her in most cases, it is hard to trust her in these type of situations, and that's due to the long list of times I had been hurt because of that.

[Opinion Owner]

Cant treat every girl like the one before her. I dated a closet slut for several years, and now that we are broken up, I always question if she's out hooking up with other guys. girls + alcohol who love attention = bad news

[Asker]

So what can I do? I don't want them to think I'm a control freak, and I don't want to be cheated on either. It's a paradox.

[Opinion Owner]

You're always going to be a "control freak" in a girls eye. girls who have guys who care about them, hate it. yet, in all reality- we are good guys and they should admire it. we're the responsible ones that just want to make sure they are okay. girlfriends band together and are very critical of guys. I've learned a lot from my past relationship. have fun dealing with her in a group.

[Asker]

This sucks, I guess it's life and there is not much we can do about it, it sucks a lot tho.

[Opinion Owner]

Some day you will find a girl who just loves you for you, and won't go out in pursuit of someone else. it's going to happen, just keep your head up. be optimistic. if you think it will happen, it will.

[Asker]

Thanks for the hope.