Is it wrong to go to parties if you have a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

is it wrong to go to parties if you have a girlfriend and she doesn't go with you .as long as you don't cheat?

[HaggardDiva]

OK I assumed this was a chick, beings it is a chicks profile. However, in some answers it seems you are either a guy or a lesbian. If your the ladder that's cool, but if you are a guy, why are you using a girls profile to ask this? Anyways, another thing that I noiticed from the other answers is that you want to go to these parties without her because she is embarressing. If it was because she was out of town or she just didn't want to go then it would be totally cool. My boyfriend and I do things seperately because we want to do different things. But to not want to take her because she is embarressing is really rude. And frankly, I'm going to be honest, if I "embaressed" my boyfriend to the point that he wanted me to stay home while he went out, I'd dump his ass. Sorry but that's the truth from me.

[Evolution86]

I'm all about independence. I don't believe that anyone should be "attached at the hip" to anyone else. Even if you're in a relationship, you deserve some independence, and go out with friends and whatnot.

And yes, I realise that I will be receiving some backlash on my opinion, but I'm not the kind of girl to follow a guy around, and I expect him to the be the same. I'm independent, he needs to be the same.

[vsss223]

If she chooses not to go with you- that is her fault. However- if you do not offer and go with out her, you probably have other intentions or alterior motives. If you didn't, you would not have a problem with her going. I say if you asked her and she doesn't go, then you can go as long as you do not cheat. What is fair is fair!

[Saygoodnitenai]

Its not anything wrong but consider getting your girlfriends opinion and understanding of how she feels about it. As long as your head is on straight and you have only good/smart intentions then party without her is fine -- then again, now that I think about it, .why can't she come?

[Asker]

Because she embarasses me everywhere we go she makes big scenes ig=f my friends say something to make her mad.. or anything but I love her too much to dump her so I ask if I can go by myself sometimes

[Saygoodnitenai]

Well yes but really need to communicate with her of how you feel and why you choose to go alone and make sure she understands and at the same time that you still care for her.

[Asker]

I do trust me she still doesn't want to let me go

[Saygoodnitenai]

Well do not go. I mean do you really need to be at this party?? or do your peers just want you to show? Sounds as if you two need to compromise amongst one another. Is she willing to at least do that?

[WeaponZero]

One thing I always hated was seeing friends whose girlfriends/boyfriends were attached at the hip to them. You are your own person and you do what you want to do. You need time apart just as much as you need time together. It used to bug all of us that our friend Don used to want to bring his girlfriend along when we planned a 'guys night out' all the time.

Going to a party is no different from going to an arcade, a movie, an amusement park, or whatever. If you want to go and your girlfriend doesn't, as long as she's not sick or going through something and needs you by her side, there's nothing wrong with going. It's just like going any place else to hang out if you don't plan on going there to pick up girls.

[HaggardDiva]

I think you have a great insight on this. I feel the same. And adding the sick thing really says that your pretty cool, that you put that perspective first. Kudos to you.

[WeaponZero]

I believe that being in a relationship means having certain responsibilities. One of them is to be there for your significant other when they need you, but another is not to hold them back in anything. It's tricky to keep it within those lines but it CAN be done.

[kiroarous]

its not the cheating part that makes it wrong, it not being with her and not comminicating is the wrong part. don't take her out of ur life socially. if you don't take her with you or you stay with her, yall will grow apart.

[Thorzilla]

Hey, if she doesn't cheat, why would it be wrong! It's not like having a girlfriend/boyfriend means you can't go around with your friends from time to time.

Besides, it's good to escape from the relationship for a night and just be you (if you don't cheat, that is!)

[RoryOfTheDead]

its definately fine, what isn't fine is if you cut off your social life for a romantic interest.

i did that

and now I'm sat here answering other peoples' problems on a friday night =/

[AJtogo]

It's certainly ok to go to parties without your GF. You have a life as an individual too.

[pwl0lwp]

it doesn't seem fair for one person to not go out just because the other doesn't want to :/

[Shlei3]

I don't think it's wrong. I think it's fine as long as he isn't cheating.

[Amandadawnkirby]

well it really depends. are you the type of person that has got drunk and had sex. then it would be a bad idea to go to a party.if your girlfriend gets upset about you going to a party invite her show her you have nothing to hide.