If you were invited to an all-girls birthday party at a club, but your boyfriend felt it was inappropriate because he believes clubs are just places where people go to hook up, would you still go that party?
If you're in a relationship, there's no reason you should be going to the club WITHOUT your partner. It's a pretty big red flag for any guy with half a brain. What do people go to the club for? To drink, grind on others, and maybe get lucky in the night. Even if you're one of the ones that considers yourself "good" and doesn't do that kind of stuff, that's all you're really seeing around you in that kind of environment/scenario. Why would you subject yourself to that if you're happily taken?
I don't care how "secure" your man is. If he has half a brain like I mentioned, then he knows what goes down at the club. It's pretty disrespectful for a partner to go there. And it's such a trashy environment too. I don't understand why people like it unless they just like the rush of loudness, high energy, being drunk, and maybe finding someone to take home in the night.
If it was my partner, they wouldn't be into clubbing in the first place, but even if they were into clubbing, I'd tell them that if they choose to go, then they don't see the relationship as serious and I'd leave them.
Sure you're young once and you want to live with no regrets and party it up, but at the end of the day, you're really not missing anything other than the trashy environment/scenario I mentioned. I've went to clubs about 5 times in my life when friends and family dragged me along and I can tell you it's a waste of time.
I apologize if that sounded harsh, but that's my honest opinion of clubs. You do you.
I think it depends on your intentions behind going, at the end of the day he can’t stop you, though he can choose to break off the relationship.
I think what you need to do is have heart to heart conversations. Where you both genuinely listen to each other and not argue. Whether at the end of it you agree to disagree. Work it though. Or decide you’re not meant to be for one another.
You need to make your intentions clear about going, you need to listen to his reasoning, and at the end of it decide what you’re going to do.
Now, I would be careful of someone who starts accusing you of cheating when you know you’re not. If you’re always having to explain yourself but he won’t ever do the same. He could be projecting. Not saying he is it’s just possible.
Look, at the end of the day he’s not your dad. He can’t stop you from going. How he moves forward with the relationship if he just can’t get over it is on him.
I never not once went clubbing in my younger years , What makes people think in my 30's grown age why would my ass be there in they first place? I have way more important things to do rather then go clubbing. A lot of my friends from highschool refered to me as the party pooper. You know I find it interesting how millennial Men brain works. They just don't care. I am reading all Gen X guys they seem to love and care more about traditional wife's. Sadly millennial men do not care about traditional woman. No wonder it seems like millennial woman ages 40-27 age decided to marry with Gen X guys. Millennial guys just are careless from what I see.
Personally I would still go because as a modern women, your value isn't based off the social building you're physically in.
Sure there are guys who are looking to hook up. But for him to say to a person considering going to a club to support a friend, that people only go to hook up, sort of straight out invalidates the idea that there are other NON-HOOKUP PEOPLE LIKE YOU in the club.
Plenty of people just like to dance, and he needs to get over this idea you don't have your own autonomy to turn down people that might find you attractive. Sounds more like he's insecure about himself if he thinks you'll pick a rando over him...
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Yes it’s acceptable , but only if your boyfriend is accepting of it? I know it sounds like your boyfriend is being insecure and doesn’t want you to go , but put yourself in his shoes and think how you would feel , if he was going to a club without you with his friends’ to party and drink and be surrounded by a bunch of girls? How would you feel, if he was doing that to you? Relationships are based off of trust and respect for each other , basically what you don’t want your partner doing to you , needs to be the same boundaries for you as well , not the other way around. So ask yourself , what is more important to you? Your relationship or your friends’? If your friends’ are more important than your boyfriend is to you , your relationship will more than likely not survive the long haul , just the short haul. Relationships only survive when 2 people choose each other and make each other their top priority.
My boyfriend wouldn't care at all. He knows whoever is at the club isn't going to have a chance in hell of replacing him. He trusts me 100 percent.
You have two choices,
1. You can not go, and reinforce his idea that clubs are for hookups, or
2. You can go and convince him that clubs are not just for hookups, they're for celebrating with your friends.
@rachel776 then go to a family friendly club
Yeah. I wouldn't go though because I dislike clubs.
It's simple. If you want to build trust with this guy then don't go. If you don't care about building trust or the relationship then go.
A lot of people think that they should have the same freedom in a relationship as when they're single but these people aren't actually experts in building or maintaining relationships. They are experts in breaking up and/or picking the wrong partners.
I'm not saying this is the right guy for you tho because I don't know you or him. Not everyone is compatible which obviously make a difference too. But I never cheated. If I felt a relationship was wrong then I ended it.
Also there's a huge difference between marriage and 'dating'. My wife isn't going out to clubs or hanging out with single women (looking for dudes). Why? Because I didn't pick the kind of woman who thinks that's more imprtant than being with me. Not because I had to tell her what to do.
@Lliam 1.) It's a possibility; 2.) Often times one person thinks a relationship is serious while the other person is playing them so it's quite possible to have friends in relationships who act like single individuals when out at the club; 3,) When people go clubbing without their significant other it's usually not to pray, knit sweaters or paint paintings.
I'm still going. Depending on how he receives me when I get back home will determine how the relationship moves forward. I get hit on everywhere. If all he ends up thinking about is the possibility of me hooking up with someone then that, to me, means he has some trust issues. One thing is to but trust the men around me, but if you can't trust the person you're with, then it's doomed to fall.
Verdict: Acceptable
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So he has trust issues, and I would have to comply? That would probably mark the end of this relationship. If someone has mental issues (trust issues fall under this category), it’s their responsibility to deal with it, not to impose it on others.
Well , his point is reasonably valid , BUT , you are a grown woman and he should not be making this decision for you , I guess it depends on your intention when you attend the club , and if you are not tempted by the situation.
But , his request should be also treated respectfully in this case , as he has a point.
Sure. Just as it's okay for a guy to go to a pub with his bros. There's no difference.
A guy who doesn't want his partner going out with her girlfriends once in while doesn't trust her. It's as simple as that. And if that's the case, why is he even with her?
People shouldn't have to monitor each other.
It depends a bit on the situation and what your partner wants.
I personally don't think there's anything morally wrong with going to a club unless you don't hold your drink well, are untrustworthy, or your partner really doesn't want you to go and you do anyway.
I'm not into double standards though. I've never been to a club and I hope I never will.
It's fine. I go to brothels with my friends and refuse to sleep with the women there. It's the same thing. Unlimited opportunities for sex, but enough respect for the relationship to decline it all. Make sure to tell your man that it's okay to visit brothels if he assures you he won't do anything. That's the fair scenario.
Yes it is acceptable, guys go to clubs alone all the time so why would it be any different for a girl.
Wow! So because they a couple now, she can’t go out with her friends and enjoy herself with her friends. The insecurities speaks much!
my opinion!
It all depends on trust and understanding built in the relationship, so I believe as long as there is trust and understanding in a relationship, there shouldn't be room for doubts. So going to a club shouldn't be a thing of worry to him as long as he Trust me
No unless your going with your boyfriend if your going without him your going to damage your relationship
I would go, find another girl at the club and bring her home to him for a threesome as a sign of your dedication to keeping the relationship frisky!
I wouldn't be anywhere near a woman that was wasting her time going to clubs in the first place...
you’re either going to dance and enjoy a good time with friends, or you are going to hookup..
Totally unacceptable, but it is acceptable for the boyfriend to end the relationship if she goes anyway.
Usually it is acceptable unless your partner doesn't like it. If my boyfriend was really uncomfortable with it I wouldn't go.
It's OK but you shouldn't go out dressed like a ho or get way too drunk. Yiu shouldn't be flirting or dancing with other guys.
Depends on if they would invite you. There's only three reasons to go out like that: sex, drugs or music
If you’s trust each other no problem keep communication up. It’s something if you do something weekly.
Hopefully he trusts you enough to know you aren't going to hookup with anyone. If he's really concerned, invite him along to sit with you and all your friends.
Your boyfriend is right: this is completely inappropriate and unacceptable because you're going to be getting drunk around dudes who are trying to hook up. If my girl wanted to do that I would tell her she can go but she will single.
I think it’s fine as long as you go with your friends and don’t hook up or flirt
Of course. Any boyfriend who doesn't like it is insecure in my opinion
I am your mother now you listen to me! If you want a happy marriage I suggest you get yourself a traditional wife clubby woman are all gold digger in search of a benefit. So that is a huge no no for a wife. Not wife material.
@Alwayreckles93 No gold diggers for me, but not all clubby girls are gold diggers :)
Maybe I am just old school. I never been to clubs before. So I guess it's just wild ladies. Just from what I see in movies.
I think you should help him understand the truth, if he still in dough better avoid the party and spend time with him. Respecting his words, trust should slowly build.
I guess it depends on whether or not you plan to rub your ass against some random dudes' boners at this club.
Yes! Its your life who the hell he is the one to stop you?
Yes, and in would lose the boyfriend.
yes you can but its what your plans are
Immature people like clubbing
No. It is not morally appropriate.
It's a birthday party.
Yeah why not? You can be loyal and have fun!
@experience It's totally acceptable
For a party or special celebrat day then it's ok.
* celebration
My girl does it. I don't see the problem with it.
If I have enough sex and money I won’t go
No, I will go with my partner
Yes it's fine.
Absolutely not
Absolutely not.
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