Why do guys not like pure, inoccent, goody goody girls?

So a guy I was dating broke up with me over the phone via text when my cell was off. He said that he couldn't be with me, because I'm too pure, innocent and goody goody. Not only that but because he couldn't believe that I'm still a virgin at 18 years old. So he goes to my 14 year old sister who's the exact opposite. Emo lots of piercings, and not a virgin. It hurts and I don't know how to get this pain out of my chest.


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  • I fuck up and I'm honest about it. I accept that life is not ideal and neither am I. I'm honest even when it hurts to be. So when I meet pure, innocent, goody goody people I don't like them because I know (usually just from watching them) that they are just like me. They have thoughts that aren't always beautiful and perfect but instead of just being honest and letting me see flaws and all they continue to work to show this picture of perfection to the world. It's boring, dishonest, and a little patronizing. And if it's true that they are in fact the exact same way inside and out it makes me like them even less because they probably haven't been through much of anything in life. life puts you in morally ambiguous situations all the time which make you do things you don't feel proud of. So either accept the imperfection or fight it by trying to be good. I like those that accept it. But honestly a guy who dumps his 18 year old girlfriend for her 14 year old sister is creepy and probably not that bright no matter what the girls personalities are. That's just a creepy, low, and cruel move for any guy. Be glad your not dating him.

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  • First if he was dating you then goes for your underage sister he is a straight loser. Thus not even worth you time. You are with the wrong guy sweetheart. A man about something wants that type as as his woman. They want to sleep with open and sluts. He's your typical guy these days brain washed by society thinking everybody is sleazy. Save your time he did you a favor. As I always say "what one man don't want the next man will"

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    • If he wants a slut that will let him use and abuse her then let the dog loose.

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What Guys Said 25

  • I'm looking for someone very similar to you.

    Look many guys they just want to have sex, so when they see that you are pure and virgin then they will think they won't have what they want with you. But there are other guys who are looking for someone EXACTLY like you. So what if u r a virgin at age 18. I'm 22 years old and i'm still a virgin. does that mean its bad? NOT AT ALL.
    That guy that broke up with u just wants to have sex, the hell with him u don't need someone like him in ur life. He'l just use ur sister have sex with her and will leave her after a while.

    Don't worry about him and just look for the ones who are looking for YOU. not the ones who just want to hook up.

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  • You get that feeling out of your chest by knowing you deserve way damn better than him that's how.. And realize your life will amount to something , a damn sight more than that sister of yours.

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  • Your sisters 14 and not a virgin? Gross. Also, he's going after 14 year olds.

    This guy sounds like he has no balls, breaking up over text and all, he's probably too afraid to make a move so wants a women how will make the move and/or who's more comfortable with their sexuallity.

    I'd be fine with an innocent girl, but I'm going to want to find out what's not so innocent about her sooner or later, maybe you've been dating a long time and he couldn't wait any longer.

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  • He wanted a quickie and not a good woman. It's good he's gone because he would have tried to take your virginity and probably ran to another girl after making an excuse. You don't need a guy fare you for sex. You need a guy who will respect you the way you respect yourself.

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  • Yuck! he went after a 14 year old 😵

    Personally Im kinda inexperienced so I like the idea if being with another virgin. I just don't want to be with a girl who has a low sex drive or is waiting until marraige.

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  • 1. Congratulate yourself upon dodging a bullet.
    2. 14 year old sister who is not a virgin etc... Your sister is making some not so impressive life choices... you should keep your ex away from her as well. Once again point #1.
    3. Virgin at 18 is a blessing. Thank yourself and your lucky stars you didn't do what millions of air heads do.
    4. Pain will go away soon... as soon as you realize what kind of a good thing has happened here also... to keep yourself entertained... I recommend watching funny shows and such.
    5. "because I'm too pure, innocent and goody goody." Based on not what was said... but how it was said, it sounds like you are not a confident person. If you didn't make those choices for yourself and can't stand by it... then that is a problem. Learn to be confident in yourself. Well think about the choice you are making and why you are making them. You define yourself based upon your action.. Others don't define you.

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  • ... they are effing boring. too many expectations by referring to movie/book life. I've dated lots of goody goody girls... apparently im a magnet for that... and I have to say, i like to keep the disappointment real.

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  • I'm guessing it is because he was looking for sexual reciprocity. But he wasn't interested in anything truly long-term like that anyways.

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  • It's one guy. You can't generalize about all guys from one single guy.

    He's s teen. He's going for the perceived easy score.

    In the long run you are the better catch. Hang in there. Teen guys are horn dogs. Not adults.

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  • Cause their legs don't spread and they're not open for business

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  • Some don't find goodie pure innocent girls attractive, or cute. Some do. Thats just the way things work :/
    Your guy however is a special case of dickhead. Having a virgin 18 year old partner isn't nearly a good justification for breaking up.

    But now that this is out of the way, some tips for the future: Being in the middle of this "scale" works the best. You don't need to be a bitch type, but most guys don't like the 100% pure type either.

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  • He wants someone who is openly sexual. One that he knows he can bang. I guess he thought that wasn't you.

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  • I like those girls. My advice to you is to stay true to yourself and you will find a man who can respect who you are. You're a teenager so it's hard, but soon guys your age will start realizing girls like your sister, no offense, aren't any good for them but girls like you are.

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  • They're just so boring. I like the thrill of never knowing when a skeleton will come rattling out of the closet!

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  • I like pure and goody goody.

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  • The heck..

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  • Because he doesn't want a chaste sexless relationship.

    Going after a 14 year old though... not a good move.

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  • He's after sex. But dont worry not every guy same like him. I personally more attracted to a girl like you

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  • Huys do like innocent goody girls but they also like to get their dicks wet and your sister unlike you is satisfying him both his sexual and emotional needs. You were a dead end and obviously didn't care enough about him to help him out.

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  • Pure innocent girls are more difficult to persuade when it comes to sex, men who want a "perverted girl" normally are searching for women to use as toys, they don't want a serious relationship, just want to get laid and dump the girl in question when they get bored of her.

    About you, keep moving on, do things you enjoy or you always wanted to do, hang out with friends, spend time practicing a hobby or give it a try to that show you haven't seen yet, the important thing is to keep your mind distracted from thinking in him. I know it hurts a lot (i'm currently getting over a break up too) and the pain won't go soon but you don't win anything losing your time thinking about him. Look at the bright side, you dodged a bullet there, he wasn't a good person, but you are and that's really amazing, girls like you are dissapering and you should be proud of yourself. Eventually you'll find someone who will love you exactly as you are, it's just a matter of time and patience.

    Ps: Sorry for the not so good English

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  • only stupid societal men dont

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  • I do, actually

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  • I like women who are more pure and innocent, it all depends on the guy. Men are not one collective being.

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  • I guess he wants a slut but your sister at 14? What a jerk

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  • This is one guy. You say your sister has lots of piercings? Instant deal-breaker for me. There are many kinds of male preferences. He, by the way is a jerk, at least he could have taken it out of your guy's family.

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What Girls Said 6

  • That was just one guy, who clearly isn't great and clearly isn't the right guy for you. Lots of guys love innocent girls and lots of guys don't. You can argue about it until the cows come home but every individual guy will have their preference...
    Don't let this get you down- he obviously isn't the right man for you!

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  • You got to understand that so many guys are just after sex and shit. Honestly he's not worth your tears girl! Just because one guy is like that doesn't mean other guys don't like girls like you. So go out have fun with your girls make yourself feel good do what makes you happy and forget that little prick. You deserve better :-*

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  • They're both scumbags

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  • He sounds like a little bitch.

    Can't be with someone unless they're on his dick, and can't break up unless it's over the phone?

    Don't be sad, doesn't sound like you're missing much.

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  • That must hurt. What kind of sister would do that? Trust me, you will learn as you get older. I have the tattoos and started drinking at 14. My life sucks and it IS going somewhere, just very slowly. I had a kid early on and learned the hard way. Your virginity is SO sacred and beautiful and if you turn to God, He will bring the right guy in your life. Try dating older guys. Guys your age only care about parties and sex.

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  • It's just an excuse he made to let you know that he's not interested. It's dumb of him to say that

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