I'm not sure.
Most girls want a guy who will be protective and make them feel safe and secure. He has an easy way about him that signals courage, quiet confidence and self assurance. He doesn't swagger, but his poise and demeanor signal that he could be very dangerous if necessary.
Many girls want a guy who will be honest, loyal and trustworthy. He has strong morals and ethics. That's the "good guy" stuff. They don't want a thug or criminal.
But they also like fearlessness, daring, athleticism, energeticness, and the thought of being with a guy who could pick them up, throw them over his shoulder, or crush them if he wanted to. It inspires a sense of danger and awe. They have to develop trust that he would never hurt them but, nevertheless, many women love being sexually submissive and being used hard by a man who is larger and stronger than them. They love being lifted, positioned, and dominated by a man who craves them. It's thrilling. I think that's the "bad boy" thing that people refer to.
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They're either immature or just toxic. Most the toxic ones are too dumb to even realize how toxic they are. You just be you man. It's not your job to fix them.
Well, I love man that are normal and not into themselves. But if you're the kind of guy you say you are, then I would love to meet you, but its to bad that I am older and you're to young. Take your time, and be picky who you want in a partner, you don't need to rush bc I rushed and now I am divorced, have kids that my ex husband uses them to get to me unfair to the kids, and I dont own anything bc my ex husband who's a narcissist took everything but I am happy now without the dramas. And I learned that not all man are like my ex, so now I am looking for the love of my life... I wished I waited but hey I live and learned my lesson, I keep going forward. Anyways, take your time and who cares if people think you're getting laid, at least you're amazing in bed haaa haaa, usually guys think you're bi if they know you haven't had a girlfriend or had sex... so enjoy the not true of you getting laid... lol. pretty sweet deal if you ask me. 😉 take care and you're sweet.
So we are about the same age. Most women look for older guys for protection. I know that’s what I’m looking for. And I’m not saying super old, but a couple years older than me. Take my crush, he has everything a woman can ask for but does he put himself other there. I don't know. He is really helpful. Wanting to help me with my test. That is a hint that he likes me. I do need to send him some questions because I am so confused and he would be able to explain it better. But maybe go out do something find a cool hobby. I mean my mom asked me if I was a lesbian because I haven’t dated anyone in almost 4 years. No I am straight but it can be tricky finding a guy and according to my friends it should be easy for me. Many guys are either really clingy or not my type. My crush is definitely my type and I think I’m his too. Let’s hope anyways lol.
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Because there are so many guys trying so boldly to have sex with them that when they meet a "nice" guy, it feels dishonest and desperate to them.
Woman understand power better than most men do. They respect men who are valuable, have limited availability and aren't foolish. It usually helps to have some air of mystery.
When a dude is bending over backwards for a woman, at some point a part of her is going to wonder what value she has that he wants, what value does he have that she wants and it's gonna be colored by all these emotions along the way.
Chicks would have you and probably themselves believe that they want a guy who is nice and affectionate and constantly putting others needs ahead of his. But woman are biologically evolved to take a much more Machiavellian view.
They want a man who is successful in getting what they want. A man who understands how to navigate the world with relative ease.
In other words, if you can't be a leader to her, than you'll eventually become her mark. Or in the best case she will lose interest.
If everywhere you go, you're being all nice and outgoing and you're buying people beers or giving every random person the time of day. Eventually, you're going to look foolish to a woman because ultimately such behavior is foolish.
Have some mystery, don't let everything out all the time. It's OK to be a decent guy, but don't overdo it, as soon as your gestures don't feel special, you've started down the path of being a doormat, if you're not there already in her eyes.
Woman want to earn their close connection with you, they want to build it up so it has value and feels sturdy and worthwhile.
Let me give you an advice that might safe your life. Don't confuse being a good guy with spineless. If you are just a pleaser and a yes mam kind of guy then she will have no respect for you. She will be cheating on you with the old fat guy that spanks her over his knees. Also get off tinder. That app is meant for one thing only and it's not finding a girlfriend. Talk to someone that you might know something about them and know something about their background. Finally, stunner at this age is not always a good thing. They come with baggage.
At your age it cannot be attributed to chance alone. Something important must be wrong with you.
Are you good at small talk and pleasant convesation? Can you listen and ask questions that make her want to talk more? If not, you might want to do a course for that, not for pick-up (!), but normal conversation.
As a male with high intelligence, do you have a diagnosis on the autistic spectrum (let's work by excluding potential factors). This needs a more targeted approach.
Finally, do you pick your potential partners entirely on your own and make a move only when you already start feeling "in love" with the selected object of your desire? That is not a good method. Observe if a girl already sends positive signals and is open to your flirting. Then make a move early on and see if you can get a date.A lot of girls your age aren’t mature, so they go for the bad guy who’s exciting and sexy, but stinks as a person. Some of them get to be my age and STILL aren’t mature. Also it’s the same reason guys don’t like good girls. Bad boys (and bad girls too) offer excitement and sex and adventure. The cons of dating them? They’re pros at making women fall in love with them without any intention of sticking around. The challenge of trying to change him into boyfriend material keeps us sticking around. Good guys (and girls) have a lot of pros: good long term partner, etc, however they’re perceived as borning. (I’m not saying YOU’RE boring OP, just stating my opinion)
Getting a date is purely a numbers game, just keep asking women out.
Also, the stuff you do to improve yourself should be done for yourself. Improving for a woman's affection is only going to lead to pain and disappointment because of their fickle nature. The only person you need to impress is yourself.
If you're really being truthful about everything you say about yourself, then you can absolutely afford to be picky too. Make sure you don't settle too quickly for the first girl who gives you any affection. Make sure the women you date are working hard and putting in effort for you. Women will manipulate you if they sense weakness.
I would save sex until marriage as well, it's the most reliable way to know someone is committed to you.
You’re not fit for anyone with this mindset. It doesn’t matter what you have or how you look. If something about you is off putting or your personality sucks, you’re gonna always be a virgin. Women will always choose who they want just like how we men choose who we want. It’s not complicated
Are you capable of listening and understanding? Are your empathetic? Are you capable of courting?
Your 6 figure salary only attracts trashy spirited women and your high IQ does not mean you’re smart as you think. It takes common sense as well and you’ve missed that part as you boasted about yourself.
You’re not even the best version of yourself at your age. You don’t have enough experience and wisdom just yet.Good guys posses one fatal flaw:
They do not recognize that women crave some sick shit. They crave domination and a man who can "grab them by the pussy." Meanwhile, they're angry that anyone would say such a thing.
That is all. The nice guy is missing out on sex appeal. He does not possess the necessary understanding of dominance and submission and so therefore is incapable of pleasing SOME women in bed.
They can see you're a nice guy from a mile way. People who are freaks walk different. They have a different kind of confidence.
And most women are freaks. Point blank. They'll deny it forever but once you tap into that freak side of women you'll be drowning in choices.I'm going to be completely honest and say you could be going for girls way out of your league. Just because you have all of that going for you means virtually nothing to a girl that is a 10 where she can get a guy that has lots of money in the bank. Sorry to sound shallow but hot girls these days are going for the money and usually that means going for older guys. My best friend for instance is a 10 and goes after guys that are way older than her for security. You are very young and probably can't provide that tbh or at least that's what they may think when looking at you and choose not to pursue you. I don't think it has anything to do with you being a "good" guy. I think it has a lot to do with just wanting a guy who is going to secure the bag for them. That's if you are going after 10s like I think you are.
Girls like you, you simply aren't realizing it.
You allow yourself to be deceived by what they appear.
And you, subtly, act according to that.
For example by hiding your interest, or just the opposite, by wanting them to show it quickly due to lack of faith.
If you simply knew girls liked you for the simple fact of being a boy, you will simply try to seduce them and not hide your interest. Softly, like a gentleman, but unapologetically.
If you want to know what girls like, I would play the following game.
It is a story about a guy who was shy around women, but certain event in his life changed it dramatically.
It is written by a girl, and it is terribly accurate in that regard.
https://story-anon.itch.io/out-of-touch/purchaseMost guys who have to say they’re good guys are most always too forceful and kinda creepy. I’m not saying you are but if you’re asking out this many girls and not one has accepted then the problem might be you. I would chill out in your approach and ask friends to look at your dating profile for advice, preferably any girl friends.
You're mentality is the problem with "why girls do not like me" or "girls don't like good guys"
Makes you sound like a self entitled lame on here so just imagine the energy you put off in person?
Your accomplishments are nice but accomplishments isn't what always attract women.
You attract women first physically, if a woman doesn't find your face physically attractive then you have to put in extra effort i. e. go up to them and say at least hi and be friendly and kind to them in a genuine way.
Not even so called top 1% men will get any women he desires, you just have to find your match and using Tinder isn't for serious relationship but rather for shallow people looking to have sexual flings so don't expect good luck there trying to find a quality woman.How many women do you greet by name? It sounds like you are just walking up to strange women and asking them out. That doesn't work very well. You have to learn to initiate conversation. If she's engages, then say the end of the conversation you can ask for another meeting. Also get over yourself. I work in a building full of guys who are smarter and earn more.
Throwing out all your stats and complaining how it doesn't land you a date, doesn't make you a good guy. In fact, it makes you come across as an entitled pretentious snob.
Girls ain't dumb, dude. They can sniff rhis shit from a mile away. revise your perspectives, be optimisitic, confident and secure in yourself and you'll find many people will want to be around you and the challenge then becomes keeping girls away.
We're in an age where a guy honestly opening up and being vulnerable, asking a question that's been eating away at him gets him lambasted by the audience, given labels like "incel". Its little wonder why many just stay quiet about these concerns.
As far as the question, I think its just the connotation in modern western society, no thanks to how they tend to be portrayed for committing the cardinal sin of simply asking what more is left to do to impress the opposite sex. What was I talking about again?Some just don't.
However, most who get accused of it simply do not like boring guys or, worse, guys who pretend to be "good" or "nice" when in reality those guys are just manipulators who are try to get in the girls' pants.Tinder lol, find a hobby craft class. Don't go intending to meet a girl just go and be yourself. Pick something you really enjoy or want to learn. In my opinion you will never find "the one" on a dating app. Those stories are very rare.
Also I noticed your update, never bother girls in public. It CAN work out but it's just bad manners and if you're not some smooth talking guy then it can come off as very creepy.girls don’t like mean guys. if any girls like “bad” guys, it’s just that the guys are confident. AND sweet and capable. in your case, it sounds like luck of the draw; the girls you asked out were just gay and/or taken. one piece of advice is don’t make any more goals to ask out a certain number of girls in a week; find a girl you really like and ask her out, instead!
A guy can have none of those things you listed and have women interested because of how he makes them feel. No matter what you have, if you don't understand how to build attraction and connect sexually / emotionally with emotional intelligence then it won't matter.
Ultimately, when girls are young, they prefer the toxic 1% guy who has no serious intentions of marrying them and will cheat on them. Then they complain about how he cheated to you, her best friend, asking why men can’t be like you. Then just rinse and repeat until they get to around 30. Then after they’ve had their fun, they’ll start getting serious about finding a husband, but the same woman that spent her 20s yelling I’m a boss babe, I don’t need no man, I can take care of myself…. Wants a man who will take care of her, and pay for everything. The issue is that she doesn’t realize that she wants a man to fill that traditional male gender role, but she herself has no intention of fulfilling a traditional female gender role.
Because u have not described yourself u have told us what u own and what u look like in most cases like this self proclaimed good guys have shit personalitys or ability to talk to a women think his money fame or body will do the job
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