Why do girls ignore the good guys?

[Anonymous]

why do girls ignore the good guy that wants her and chase after the bad guy who wants nothing to do with her (besides maybe sex)

[Anonymous]

Guys often mistake being a "good guy" for being a guy with no game, physical attractiveness confidence, or traits that a woman finds desirable in a mate. Just because you don't get women, which in turn means you don't have the chance to play women, doesn't mean you are a good guy. The REAL good guys? Are the guys who can get a lot of women, but choose not to play them. Those are the guys that women really want.

It's similar in reverse for men as well. Girls always wonder why guys go after the hot skanky girls instead of the "good girls." When in reality, those good girls are often just not as physically appealing or have an outgoing personality. The REAL good girls are the ones who can get a lot of men but choose not to be skanky.

This is the real difference essentially. If you're only good because you never have the opportunity to play the opposite gender, you're not really good. Everyone wants the more desirable features, the ones that the jerks/skank have, but we hope we'll meet someone who has those traits and is also good (i.e. chooses not to be a jerk/skank).

[dalila]

Great answer!

[Anonymous]

Listen, nine times out of nine, I would always go for the good guy. I mean, the bad guys aren't what television and hollywood really make them out to be. I seriously believe it's just overrated. I dated the bad-boy jock two years ago, my sophomore year and ended up being abused. It's really nothing about the bad guy image, it's more foolish beliefs that are instilled into a girl's mind by movies and overly-glorified ideas. It's just a stereotype like anything else, girls think bad guys are what they want but they always marry the good ones for the most part.

[Anonymous]

They don't. But why should a girl be forced to date a guy just because he wants her? I feel like the ratio of genuine good guys to guys with no game who claim that are "nice guys" is like 1:10. Too many guys just whine & complain about women's taste instead of actually making themselves desireable. The same argument can be made about women who bitch that guys only want thin women and ignore nice women... Mating is competitive -- and its meant to be by nature's purpose. Do work! It's not just physical traits that a person can brush up on, either.

[kheserthorpe]

This. The challenge for those 'nice guys with no game' is that they tend to really not know what it is they are supposed to do differently. To many of them were basically raised being told 'treat girls like this, and a nice girl will appreciate you'. Things they _should_ be doing they think 'jerks' do. They need to undo the brainwashing.

[Opinion Owner]

Some guys don't work out, don't eat healthy, don't socialize, don't keep up on interest events ... but still expect to get "GRADE A" tail. That's more of what I mean by "guys with no game." Not every guy is going to be suave or stunning (nor girl either), but most people can put work into: a) their apperance b) their social skills c) the effort they actually put into dating.

[kheserthorpe]

The social skills one is definitely possible, but most people have no idea where to turn on it.

[kheserthorpe]

Women are attracted to men who are capable, confident, have self respect and are emotionally strong, and are comfortable with their sexuality.

There happen to be more jerks like this then decent guys, because decent guys tend to be doing what they were told to do growing up, which prevents them from acting that way. 'Good' boys tend to hide their sexuality, sacrifice self respect trying to please girls, and don't push for their own needs to be met. Women like good MEN just fine.

[cyrus7]

just wait till they have their fun with the bad boys and then settle for you..oh wait that doesn't sound very good does it? lol

just find a girl who is not like that

[SunSeeker]

No, that doesn't sound very good at all lol.

[Anonymous]

I don't ignore good guys! I just have trouble finding them. :/ There are far more bad guys than good guys in my experience. The majority of the guys I find these days have what I call the "Jersey Shore mentality" which is completely obnoxious in my eyes. As a good girl, I can say that I tend to have the same complaint as you do (in reverse). A lot of guys just want girls who will party and give it up at the drop of a hat.

[Anonymous]

Bad boys/plays might come off very charming, courageous and fun to hang out with while nice guys might come off as clingy, less charming and plain.

Girls have this shallow perception until they get into bad relationships with guys like that and then they start to understand that *appearences are deceiving*.

[lonetiger]

clingy, less charming and plain? so what, its better than being ignored half the time by the bad guys you go with.

atleast these good guy appriciate how wonderful you are

[Opinion Owner]

That is what I said i.e. a shallow perception.

[dwiller943]

1. Every girl the good guys chase after
are the mean girls that flock towards assholes
and treat good guys like shit.

2. The only girls they don't go after are the good girls
that constantly show interest in them.

3. And so the good guys end up nowhere.

(Personal experience).

[Anonymous]

Depend of the Good boy you are talking about?

Is he boring, ugly, too serious, passive?

If So I don't care If he is a Good guy he is just to boring and I don't find him sexy, the reason he wants me doesn't mean I want him...

I don't like bad guys either...

I like a fun guy

[Anonymous]

Because the guy who thinks of himself as the "good" guy, isn't that good. He's BORING.

And the guy he thinks is a "BAD" guy, isn't that bad. But he is INTERESTING.

Girls can tell the difference.

[chris009xx]

i don't know its kind of unfair

im always a good guy and all they want is the bad boy type I don't understand

[RolandCuthbert]

Because good guys are the people who are good because they are kind-hearted.

They aren't good for the purposes of tricking women into giving them some sex.

[kurozogo]

Because they can .

Whoever does not like it is free to do as he likes .

[zickzack]

because the eyes are often looking to the soap.bubbles.

This sounds a little bit bitterly, but this is often the truth.

[beachvolleyballbabe]

bc somtimes girls just like to feel bada** and going with a guy who is gives that effect..

[Anonymous]

Bad guys are attention grabbers.The good guys are often lost in the background and hard to find.Girls like bad guys because they think they can change them and make them decent and caring. Not how it works though.They end up getting hurt!

[Asker]

good they deserve it

[Opinion Owner]

one slut downvote me lol...

[EPhantom]

Care to show someone how to get out of the background and stop being invisible?

[foreverme]

Is this true? I would totally go for the good guy! I guess bad boys just have a confident vibe that girls like. Maybe the good guys should borrow some of that confidence and I know us girls would love that;)

[Asker]

or maybe girls could have some of their own confidence so they don't have to mooch off their boyfriend's

[Cyhhgg]

You sound like a child.

[Blaxican619]

They like his confidence and attitude and want to be the special girl that can change him.

[Anonymous]

the bad guy tends to be more invigorating, charming, and manly

[Anonymous]

because they can, just like we can ignore whoever we like

[Anonymous]

girls don't chase bad guys. bad guys chase the girls and he girls say yes because the good guys stand in the corner collecting dust

[Asker]

that's so ful of it

[EPhantom]

Care to help teach one to get out of the corner?

[saphirasilverwings]

I don't see many girls doing that.

[lonetiger]

well they do, trust me I've seen it

[saphirasilverwings]

I believe it's a matter of preception and perspective. If you see yourself as a good guy and you're unhappy about being single, of course you'll feel that girls are going for other guys more and you may feel like girls favor "bad boys", or people who you see as different from yourself. But in reality, nobody WANTS to date a jerk, and girls who stay with them once they see their true colors are the exception, not the rule.

[saphirasilverwings]

The fact is, it's probably NOT why you're single.

[kheserthorpe]

If you see the world as 'nice guys' and 'jerks' it will seem like the nice guys are left behind. But there's a lot of behavior nice guys think they have to do that really aren't 'nice'. Being outgoing, knowing what you want, dumping people who want different things for you, only committing if that's what you actually want, etc. do not make someone a jerk, but a lot of nice guys act like that's 'jerk' behavior.

[saphirasilverwings]

Exactly.

[blondfrog]

Same reason why most guys ignore the good girls.

[moviedude714]

this topic will never end