You are too intimidating. Be clear with what you want when you are talking to a woman. If you are searching for a long term relationship make sure she knows. If you just wanna have "fun" then go about it another way
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Yes I understand that but remember I haven't even gotten a date. And discussing what type of relationship I want with a girl I just approached would be weird and inappropriate.
If you've really got all that going for you then it must be something about your personality or how you're talking/treating them. Maybe try doing some research on how to flirt or how to ask women out. Confidence is killer when it comes to this stuff and also your appearance in regards to facial hair, head hair, clothing, etc.
Buy this book: How to be a 3% Man. This will answer your questions. It is not PUA material. It is relationship material. Trust me. The book and ebook are in Amazon.
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read it. disagree with a lot of stuff in that book. like pretending to be busy and not texting a girl so you look like your not needy. its disingenuous and girls spot that shit right away.
You don’t have to follow it to a tee. It is just a guide. It has helped me and I also disagree with some of his methods. I take a lot of advice from my research and tailor fit it to me.
I live in a small town, somewhere that if you meet someone decent; these Rules of Attraction can be bent, broken or discarded. In a city of hundreds of thousands or more, some of those teachings will work.
@sage2021 The biggest issue is that the word "good" is subjective. What you may consider good someone else does nor. Most women in a relationship will respond that they found a "good" guy While women who are not will claim that there are no good men. Reality is based on personal definitions they both are right which is why the question is arrogant and narcissistic.
I like guys like this but I have found some men physically unattractive and unfortunately that deters me cause I know a year later we will likely break up
The issue with this is a lot of guys that only know how to address good things about them typically don’t hold themselves accountable in their own flaws. With the description you wrote, it seems like you are too good to be true. And before you say “all this about me is true” , it probably is true , however you aren’t mentioning some flaws you have and that is typically why women do not like “nice “ guys because nice guys aren’t very self aware
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no i def have flaws but for the sake of the post i decided to list the things i have going for me because it gives you guys an idea of what im doing to improve mtself
I do not really believe that. Girls with low self esteem may like guys that abuse them because they dont think they deserve anything better but all the girls I dated appreciated the fact that I was gentleman.
It's not about being a good guy or not and most of them wouldn't know all these personal stuff about you from just meeting you... it's just you don't know how to make an impression... you don't have enough rizz lol... work on your game man
sorry kiddo but thats what most say they want and oddly (insert sarcasm here) the main thing they avoid. seems a lot of it is the good guys habits are not as exciting as the bad boy types.
None of those attributes are a reason why someone would want to date you. You sound too thirsty. You are probably a go getting in your work life but in dating you need to be a go giver
Key word is "girls". Young, immature girls like exciting rulebreakers, mavericks. As they mature into women, they prefer the more stable, less "exciting" normal guys.
There is a push and pull dynamic. If a guy is too good the girl shies away. If he is too bad she shies away. If he is good with enough spice mixed in she likes it
Because you just listed what you are, not who you are. What do you offer to girls?
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What I am says a lot about who I am. And I already listed a ton of things I offer girls. I do martial arts so I offer "protection". I travel about every 6 months so I offer "adventure". I could keep going on.
If that's it, then I'm not surprised. You value yourself on tactile things you can give girls, but most want something (s) else, and that you seem to lack.
i don't think this is something that should have to be explicitly stated. seems like common sense to me. i mean your not gonna get a girl if you dont respect her
You have to respect her before you even ask her out. Look at it this way. When zi hot my girlfriend I was unemployed and living with my parents. I can't drive and top out at 5'4" and am balding (have been since highschool). So I'm not exactly a physically attractive specimen. Yet I got a girlfriend because I showed the utmost respect and regard for every girl I canw across even if I had no intention of dating them. This meant that most girls I encountered regularly became my friends. It's easier to ask out friends and a lot more successful than people would have you believe.
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You are too intimidating. Be clear with what you want when you are talking to a woman. If you are searching for a long term relationship make sure she knows. If you just wanna have "fun" then go about it another way
Yes I understand that but remember I haven't even gotten a date. And discussing what type of relationship I want with a girl I just approached would be weird and inappropriate.
Yeah I got that but you dont need to tell her specifically just say it open like "i am looking for something serious" tell your friends. Etc.
Congrats on the date! Hope it goes well!
If you've really got all that going for you then it must be something about your personality or how you're talking/treating them. Maybe try doing some research on how to flirt or how to ask women out. Confidence is killer when it comes to this stuff and also your appearance in regards to facial hair, head hair, clothing, etc.
Buy this book: How to be a 3% Man. This will answer your questions. It is not PUA material. It is relationship material. Trust me. The book and ebook are in Amazon.
read it. disagree with a lot of stuff in that book. like pretending to be busy and not texting a girl so you look like your not needy. its disingenuous and girls spot that shit right away.
You don’t have to follow it to a tee. It is just a guide. It has helped me and I also disagree with some of his methods. I take a lot of advice from my research and tailor fit it to me.
I live in a small town, somewhere that if you meet someone decent; these Rules of Attraction can be bent, broken or discarded. In a city of hundreds of thousands or more, some of those teachings will work.
When it comes to marriage and a woman can't find a good guy to marry we ask why?
The answer is because all the good one's are taken.
Thats not necessarily always true but yeah. Most of the good ones will be taken.
@sage2021 The biggest issue is that the word "good" is subjective. What you may consider good someone else does nor. Most women in a relationship will respond that they found a "good" guy While women who are not will claim that there are no good men. Reality is based on personal definitions they both are right which is why the question is arrogant and narcissistic.
I like guys like this but I have found some men physically unattractive and unfortunately that deters me cause I know a year later we will likely break up
Please don’t call us chicks
hoes, bitches, broads, etc. there worse names than “ chicks”
@Blacksnake285 all of them disrespect us. That’s why he doesn’t have a girl
@Blacksnake285 we run from dudes who use all of these including chicks. Absolutely not
The issue with this is a lot of guys that only know how to address good things about them typically don’t hold themselves accountable in their own flaws. With the description you wrote, it seems like you are too good to be true. And before you say “all this about me is true” , it probably is true , however you aren’t mentioning some flaws you have and that is typically why women do not like “nice “ guys because nice guys aren’t very self aware
no i def have flaws but for the sake of the post i decided to list the things i have going for me because it gives you guys an idea of what im doing to improve mtself
I do not really believe that. Girls with low self esteem may like guys that abuse them because they dont think they deserve anything better but all the girls I dated appreciated the fact that I was gentleman.
It's not about being a good guy or not and most of them wouldn't know all these personal stuff about you from just meeting you... it's just you don't know how to make an impression... you don't have enough rizz lol... work on your game man
Make some guy friends. They can point out what you're doing wrong. I can't see it but I figure you're doing something really weird socially.
I was thinking you were ugly or something lol but if you got a date that is awesome, good luck!
Well you would be nice for me if I wasn't married. 🤷♀️ but I doubt it I would be your type.
sorry kiddo but thats what most say they want and oddly (insert sarcasm here) the main thing they avoid. seems a lot of it is the good guys habits are not as exciting as the bad boy types.
None of those attributes are a reason why someone would want to date you. You sound too thirsty. You are probably a go getting in your work life but in dating you need to be a go giver
Have you ever asked out a woman in person? If not, this may be it.
Key word is "girls". Young, immature girls like exciting rulebreakers, mavericks. As they mature into women, they prefer the more stable, less "exciting" normal guys.
Who the f wants mature women. It's another way of saying old. Even older guys like young women.
There is a push and pull dynamic. If a guy is too good the girl shies away. If he is too bad she shies away. If he is good with enough spice mixed in she likes it
Couldn't it be that most women nowadays are 💩
Girls like good guys. We just don’t like push overs or insecure men.
That depends on what you call “good guys.”
That's true
Because you just listed what you are, not who you are. What do you offer to girls?
What I am says a lot about who I am. And I already listed a ton of things I offer girls. I do martial arts so I offer "protection". I travel about every 6 months so I offer "adventure". I could keep going on.
If that's it, then I'm not surprised. You value yourself on tactile things you can give girls, but most want something (s) else, and that you seem to lack.
what else do they want
love and respect
yeah i think everyone knows that
Yet you haven't said you can offer either.
i don't think this is something that should have to be explicitly stated. seems like common sense to me. i mean your not gonna get a girl if you dont respect her
You have to respect her before you even ask her out.
Look at it this way. When zi hot my girlfriend I was unemployed and living with my parents. I can't drive and top out at 5'4" and am balding (have been since highschool). So I'm not exactly a physically attractive specimen. Yet I got a girlfriend because I showed the utmost respect and regard for every girl I canw across even if I had no intention of dating them. This meant that most girls I encountered regularly became my friends. It's easier to ask out friends and a lot more successful than people would have you believe.