Money is not something I place as a main focus on the relationship. I value personality, characteristics, and overall mannerisms of the guy. I do think it's great if the guy is financially stable, and has a job to support himself and take care of himself. As I work hard for my money too, and I don't need the guy to be spending his hard earned money on me! The odd gift is lovely, but I can get my wants/needed stuff for myself :)
Anyways, turn offs include: - Impolite or disrespectful manners to people in general (like waitresses at a diner, or being rude to taxi drivers) - Not having a sense of humour. I enjoy joking around and laughing, I'd hope the guy would too - Being overly protective or dependant on me for his comfort, company, expecting me to be by his side 24/7 and him having no independence would be a major turn off - Being demanding or treating me like i'm beneath him and finally, him not getting along with my family, or not being appreciative to meet them. My family is important, and I would hope the guy would be accepting and respectfu and well liked by my family. Hopefully even form a great bond with them overtime.
It's not that money is so important in the relationship, but that money is so vital for survival, and women still, for whatever all reasons, don't earn as much as men, in a general sense. It's ONE way a woman can find financial security. (Men can marry rich too.) I am not saying if it's a good or bad way to find financial security. I am just trying to put it into a little cultural context.
I think most people want to end up in a partnership that can survive in some very uncertain times - since the massive financial failures of the recession, a lot of people are really fucking scared.
I don't believe all women like only rich men... But hey, when it gets to the real nitty gritty, his handsome looks ain't paying the electrical bill or the mortgage. Money is a huge factor in "making a living" I don't believe People would readily raise their hand for picking to finicially struggle through life.
First of all girls don't know what they want, their brains are still developing. SOME Women want rich men, most don't care they'd rather a decent man that is respectful of them and their family and friends.
There's a saying: A son is a son until he takes a wife; A daughter is a daughter ALL Her Life!!! That's why I stated respectful of her and her family and friends, that's what's important to a Woman!!! Not a girl, girls still don't have life figured out... Stop going after girls, and start dating some Women!!!
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Anonymous
(25-29)
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Money even though, isn’t the focused point I personally look for when in a relationship, because I am quite young and only in it because the person makes me happy and be the best me, I understand why it is important to certain women.
Many would rather be with a guy which they know is not temporary and can settles with, so it’s not really about a materialistic ideology or hunger of money, it’s more about whether the girls are able to have a good time while also making sure that they are stable, because no one wants to be unhappy because of money. As money can cause a lot of problems in relationships no matter how much love their is.
I personally don’t think money or good looks are that important, however I believe personality and looks combined will make sure u love the person for who they are while also having that aesthetic attraction to them.
As far as I'm aware of, I have never liked someone because of their income. My friend is dating a guy that is well off and he always brags about it (it's not even his own money lol). That is a huge turn off for me. Like.. I don't care about you having three cars mate, I don't wanna hear it. I like intelligent, quirky, protective (not to a ridiculous point) guys that make me feel liked instead of someone they tolerate or take for granted.
Money is important only if you have marriage in mind. I don't mean he has to be rich but I expect him to have a steady job with regular pay checks.
Guys who have no ambitions, don't know what to do with their lives and only think about having fun are a huge turn off.
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Anonymous
(18-24)
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I see that many guys complain about women being materialistic af, but have you asked yourself the question "what's the similarity between every person I approach to form a future bond with"? Because as far as I have noticed, most guys who complain about women being gold diggers, only go for the hottest, most caked up girls who are mini Instagram celebrities.
Yeah true. They call them "gold diggers" but those girls are usually attractive and those guys pursuing are usually average and out of their league so what do they expect? Obviously the girl will go for the money if they initially didn't like him but now he's rich lol. Guys thinking they can have a go with someone gorgeous with no consequences, that they will like the guy for who they are... HA.
Money actually intimidates me. Like, it makes me feel a bit like I'm not suited to be with them if they're richer than me as silly as it sounds. I wish I was more comfortable with money.
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