That's kind of going to extremes, but it's also kind of true. Women will deny it when you put it the way you're putting it here, then other times they'll say things that confirm it anyway.
A quote from Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook:
"When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier."
This is what's known as hypergamy. Others call it the "female dual-mating strategy". You can complain about it, talk about whether or not you think it's good or bad, but you won't change it because it's just female nature. Behaviour which has driven our evolution for millennia.
Although we like to think that being civilised means that we're better than animals, some of our behaviour still driven by the instinctive part of the brain like any other animal - especially when it comes to attraction. We can't over-ride that with logic.
Hypergamy is about what the woman needs in terms of reproduction, which is where all attraction comes from, even when we don't intend on having children. The biological reason we have a sex drive after all is to reproduce. It's also about what those particular men have to offer.
The female needs:
1) good genes for the children
2) long term provision/support raising the children
The "bad"/attractive guy basically has traits which women tend to view as being "sexy" - these traits are signals of good genes. They just don't tend to be good long-term relationship material. The looks are obviously signs of good genetics, but so are the more masculine traits such as dominance, risk-taking behaviour etc. The reason these things signal good genes is because those are traits that would have been needed in the past, and like I said attraction is driven by instincts which have been programmed into us since those times, which haven't changed.
The "good"/financially stable (it's not just rich guys they look for, a guy who earns good money will often do) guy has traits that are beneficial long-term, while lacking the "sexy" traits of the "bad"/attractive guy. It's obvious that if she wants children she'll need a guy who'll stick around and help her provide for them.
Most guys instinctively understand this anyway, even if they can't put it into words. Of course - if this has been programmed into women over thousands of years, it will have been programmed into men too. This is why men, particularly the "good" men, are instinctively repulsed by a woman who has a lot of sex with the "bad boys" and has a high notch count, and then looks to marry a "nice guy" in her 30s. Because they know that really, while she pretend to truly want the second guy she's really most attracted to the first guy and only sees him as second best. They know that the last part of Sheryl Sandberg's quote where she says that "nothing's sexier" is a lie, and a contradiction of the first part of her quote where she talks about how the things that make the "bad boys" sexy makes them no good as husbands. Sometimes I don't think even women understand this to be fair, I don't think they plan it. It's just their nature.
As a guy, you shouldn't get too obsessed with this, because rather than complaining about it you can use this knowledge to your advantage. Young women usually try to get the first guy to commit, and then when that doesn't work they go for (settle for) the second guy. Single mothers who had a kid or two with some asshole looking for a stepfather to their kids are just doing the same exact thing. Just don't be the second guy.
Yes, but those pictures exaggerated examples.
For casual sex women are picker on physical appearance then for relationships/marriage they are more lenient on looks but pickier on wealth.
That is not to say they hookup with male models and then marry some old ugly fuck millionaire but I think overall the guys that women tend to hookup with tend to be more attractive in a purely physical sense (height, face, muscles ect) compared to the guy they end up settling down with. Not to say this guy she settles down with is flatout ugly, just not attractive enough that she would have slept with him without getting commitment first. And I don't think women expect to marry a millionaire but they do tend to want a guy who makes at least as much or slightly more than they do. So if a girl makes 80k she will probably end up with a guy who makes between 80-120k. Which still paints the same picture as what you are describing, just more realistic.
I think it’s the other way around they pick rich guys for fun *sees picture* it’s mostly young women for old, crusty white men. The younger women basically a gold digger. While the other picture shows a fat man with a woman maybe she is after his ss check he receives every month, maybe she enjoys waiting on him hand & foot, maybe she is there for the long run.
He could be the Sexiest and Richest Man in the Universe but if he is a Miserabke Human Being I want Nothing to do with him.
Niw there are a Minority of Women that are Attracted to the Bank Account but they are Miserable in the Long Run have Very Sad Lonely Lives.
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don't go around calling every attractive guy "bad" , they aren't bad.
and no its not that women like some guys for fun and others for long term. women like attractive guys. they will settle for unattractive guys when they realize they can't get the attractive guy, or he leaves, or the start to age and want children etc.
its not pre planned, its just that the first choice failed and now they are looking for second options
Some women do behave that away going back and forty from bad guys to good guys but most will stay with one or the other depending on it she has daddy issues she going to find the boy overtime and if she stuck up and nose in the air she definitely picking the rich guy
No, I am looking for a guy with the personality I need to fall in love with, high IQ, educated, and good looks, good health and genes. He also needs to want to be a father.
First off I think these girls are more than likely gold diggers. Secondly I think bad/attractive guys aren’t always just for fun they can definitely be for serious relationships it just depends on the compatibility of the personalities. Good/rich guys definitely do not always equate to serious relationship either. Money can go to peoples heads and someone that vocalizes they are “good” are full of themselves. It really all depends on the type of people the girl and guy are in my opinion.
Nope. He can be rich and ugly and i still wouldn't fuck him.
Yeah and no
They may do it for the money
But they some girls like both kind of men's good and bad
It depends what kind of girls are we talking about.
I think it's true but sometime it's just immaturity guys tend to want to settle down just a bit later in life then girls that's why there usually an age difference at least in my opinion but that's MJ or always the case it really depends what the female is looking for.
I don't know bro. Females are difficult creatures to understand. Females aren't sure what their type is. For example, they lust after cocky buff dudes; at the same, girls will cry about finding a nice guy who is nerdy.
Going for the money is clear enough that s being a gold digger, applies as well for guys. When it comes to bad boys etc i believe there is 3 different scenarios , a girl would like bad boys if she' bored from being with a nice guy or cannot learn to stay away from bad guys
I'm not in it for money but these pictures show women who are if I want a long term relationship idc how much or how little money they have I care how we treat eachother
Can't tell, cuz. Women are very complicated. First, they're sure they found the One. Then they want him the opposite way they wanted him in the beginning.
I don’t care about the rich part i like nice guys that’s it
Those bitches are gold diggers, only gold diggers do that
There's no reason to stop having fun or play with a little bit of bad when you're good and rich.
No. You can have as attractive poor guy a relationship, but gold diggers will ignore you anyways.
Nope. I like who I like. If he's bad then so be it. If he's attractive, lucky me.
Lol, is that Jaba the Hut, all I see is Gold diggers here
And if a very ugly woman but extremely rich offers you marriage? What would you do?
No I don't think so it might be because of money or fun
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