I like a hybrid. Being 28 years of age, I will say with confidence, you will never solely get the good girl or bad girl. Each girl I have met is a mixture of the 2.
Women mature as they age (depends on the girl), so even the "bad girl" can become a reformed person. Also, just because someone drinks and smokes doesn't make them a "bad" or "edgy" person. Like, 90% of America drinks. Lol. And it depends how you define smoking.
At my age, I will say I will not date a girl who parties a lot, hooks up a lot or has that "kid" mindset. I do, however, want a woman who dresses nice, is hot/sexy, works out, has a career and knows what she wants out of life. I don't care if she has hooked up in the past. It all depends on who she is now.
Also... on the smoking thing... people who smoke aren't considered "bad" or "edgy" either. I have my life together and I smoke weed. I don't smoke it actively and never will. I only smoke it like 2-3 times a year and only during sex. My last partner introduced me to weed during sex and it increases the pleasure of sex by a lot. Lol. So, that's the only time I smoke.
Good girls. They are actual humans. Like, you don't have to play games and watch over your back with them. You can discuss real. things and have a real life. No man wants to be married 8yrs and find out his kids are somebody elses and his wifes been cheating on him throughout the marriage and finally takes all his earnings and property while calling him out to be a racist, sexist neglectful. husband that couldnt fulfil her needs.
I actually like kids. I dont want a girl that feels she's entitled to beat and terrorize children. Terrorize her peers. Terrorize the public. I want kids to grow up in hapoy, loving homes. not a bad girls home
almost every guy in my school is hanging with party girls who likes to get drunk, so it’s weird reading these replies.
I am the quiet, nice girl who haven’t drank any alcohol in my life, I have good grades and i’m nice to everyone.
Still I haven’t had a boyfriend. They always go for the extroverted, loud girls with a lot guys around them.
You in high school that’s why... go to my college, you will meet me in the first month lol
Well a guy won't notice what he can't see. So yeah being quiet isn't a winning strategy if you want guys to take an interest in you. And being nice doesn't evoke emotions. Being flirty piques a guys interest.
@MusicMayhem as a handsome man, I will disagree.. I tend to go for the quiet type of girl... I also go for the type that tends to flirt with me...
My point is I go for both, but something serious I go for the quiet ones and only way for her to push me away is act super weird and crazy
Don’t worry about it, a lot of guys like the quiet girl.. just don’t ignore them when they talking to you.
Come to my college I will date you...
Because you are a quiet girl he doesn’t come too strong and is taking it slow and giving you a few hints.. i do that and it seems that guy is doing it too..
@JustTheTrue well quiet, shy girls don't get noticed by many cause most guys are pussies who will only approach if they see signs from a girl. So she needs to be more forward and extroverted with her flirting. And what does your looks have to do with anything?
@MusicMayhem i can agree to that, in my occasion some girls are flirting then they give you the cold shoulder and those are the shy girls... I still talk to them then I leave... I don't know what they really want because they been staring at me then give me the cold shoulder and when i leave they start Staring... that’s the shy type of girl I get annoyed some shy girls they just don’t want you to leave and you can see it in their tone of voice even when you hug them they love it... that’s the shy type of girl I love to approach... plus my campus is full of introverts so I’m used to talking to shy girls
@JustTheTrue who fucking cares what they want! Go after girls that have what you want! If they don't match your criteria move on. Stop reacting to girls signs. You aren't obligated to approach girls just because they like you.
@MusicMayhem lol I was half sleep when I made that post, honestly i mostly talk and text girl who I click with, but the fact that they shy it is still true and they want to take things slow with me or any other guy
@JustTheTrue cause shy girls are unconfident and don't trust others easily. They're a waste of time. Wanting to take things slow is code for move on. Normal girls will be happy for things to escalate sexually within 3-5 dates max. Shy girls can't handle sexual tension and foolishly think being friends first is the way to go. It's not. It doesn't create any attraction.
Okay, first off, all "shy girls" aren't like that. What are you even talking about? Ofcourse shy girls can handle sexual tension, and not all of us think being friends with a guy is the best way to start a relationship. We all have different preferences related to our love life, so what's the deal with you saying shy girls are a waste of time? Just because you're personally not attraced to them, doesn't mean others aren't..
@MusicMayhem had you dated anyone yet? by the way even confident girls won’t be having sex with you right off the bat, unless she is an easy girl. I like shy girls, if you don’t thats your problem... you got your preferences and I got mine, you sound like someone who got hurt or friend zoned by a shy girl... plus if when they don’t trust you is because your lacking something in your personality... as for me shy girls feel so comfortable right off the bat and trust me even before the dates... my point is you you lack the charm that I posses reason why a shy, normal or a confident girls feel so comfortable that they put their guard down when they are with me... You must be doing something wrong
Because shy, unconfident girls give much greater resistance to creating a man/woman dynamic as opposed to a friend's dynamic. So continuing to see a shy girl who may never feel ready for sex or even touching is a waste of time. Why would I continue dating her if I could meet fun, confident girls and enjoy some sex by the 3rd or 4th date as opposed to it not happening at all? Not being comfortable engaging in sex as an adult isn't normal, rather the exception. It shows some underlying issues like body insecurities that she needs to deal with first before dating.
@JustTheTrue 3-5 dates isn't right of the bat. Most girls I date, I sleep with by the 2nd, 3rd, or 4th date latest. Every shy girl I've dated I've been patient with but eventually I had to end it because they were too scared for things to move forward and it felt too much like friends rather than romantic interest. So I'm fine to move on, I know how to approach enough girls that I can find the extroverted, fun, sexy girls.
@MusicMayhem lol okay, I don’t like easy women I’m not that desperate lol
You need to escape the hip hop/edm pop subculture bubble and try something different. Try the ballroom scene. If you live near ocean, try the surfer scene.
Salsa dance is a great place for people who are more mellow and let’s be honest, probably a little more intelligent as well. 😌
I tell ya, it’s great. Intimacy and physical closeness. Dresses. Dancing and touching, sexual tension and none of the aggressiveness and doucheyness.
Can't I be both; I drink, USED to do hookups, looks modest--but edgy
Not everything is BLACK AND WHITE... unless you're strictly talking about stereotypes?
As a handsome and picky man that I am, I could give it a try but the body count doesn’t have to be huge
Im talking about stereotypes
Imagine you're at a BBQ, and there are 3 hotdogs that just came off the grill, perfectly cooked.
1 makes it to the table just fine, and 2 fall into the dirt. One of the hotdogs that fell into the dirt is picked up and washed off with water.
How would you rank these hot dogs in value?
Would you rank the hot dog that fell to the ground, but was washed off, as high as the hot dog that never hit the ground? I doubt it, because you know that past damage still affects its value. Sure, you're going to rank that hot dog higher in value than the hot dog that's still sitting in the dirt, but that washed-off hot dog is NEVER going to be given the value of the hot dog that never got dirty.
Your past behavior (and mine, and everyone's) affects your Social Market Value. Yes, if you are reformed, you are ranked higher than someone who isn't, but you'll never be ranked as high as a person who never did the negative things in the first place. This is why it's so important to realize this BEFORE you do the negative things - but modern society teaches women that doing negative things will not come with any cost, and that's a LIE, and when women are older and the cost comes due, they get very upset, but it's not men's fault for what they value, it's women's fault for lying to younger women because they are in denial about the truth (that they don't want to face), and they somehow believe if they teach something else, then that something else (in this case, no penalties for past bad behavior) will come true. That's just not how the world works.
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I like Good Girls who are bad only in the bedroom.
Well , I don't think you can separate your personality from everyday life and the bed room.
Hmm. I’ll be very honest to you as a 25 year old.
1. Your question is ‘what do guys want.’ Wrong question. Be who you want.
2. Do good girls have to look not hot? No. Do bad girls have to look hot? No.
There’s no dichotomy between hot or not like that.
Here’s the catch, I do find ‘bad girl’ clothes hot. As weird as it is, when I see girls in crop tops I swoon. I don’t care for heels at all. I’m not a fan of the over straightend middle part and the Kardashian-style look.
That said, I do find long hair hot. I do find extra skin showing hot. I do find a waist narrower than the hips hot.
I think the answer to your question is to take the good points of both your notions and combine them together. It is possible to be both ‘good’ and ‘bad.’
Go to a party once in a while and be ‘bad.’ But go to class the next day and be ‘good.’ Go to work or volunteer and be ‘good.’ Then go out and be ‘bad.’ Or do whatever you like most 24/7.
That’s the real trick, I think. But don’t forget about non-mainstream night life as well. Explore beyond the hip-hop cookie cutter nightclub. Check out a pop-punk venue, and a normal bar. Check out a retro disco. Try ballroom salsa. Go to a beach or pool. Try out new things like rock climbing or snorkeling or surfing or snowboarding or skateboarding.
These other venues have high quality men at them. Hip hop and edm night clubs attract pickup artists and roided out dudes. Which is cool once in a while, but go out and find a variety too.
Follow your tastes. If you live hip hop and are a real fan, then stick with that. If you secretly like something else in the closet, seek out night life that pertains to that.
These places have different crowds. Each crowd has different tastes in women. However, I think I everyone loses when girls try to fake it in the hip hop subculture if that’s not them.
That said. It seems the place to be today is the edm night club scene. It’s where all the hookups are happening. I wouldn’t be surprised if no one cared for the music much and everyone was there just to get sexual for a night. cool but I wish people would just go to venues they actually like for the music with the same intent as well. Anyways.
I would say I am good girl. that like pushing forward and being able be a bit confinement. Love my video game. that helps me to get through the day and have a goal. More tomboy. Sometimes I only wear dresses on special occasions. Very joking around. Dark sense of how. Never cheated on any own while in relationship. Been cheated on more then once in past relationships 8&7.
I prefer bad girls. They are confident, flirty, and make things happen without being ashamed to get sexual. They also dress better cause they don't have insecurities with their body. Again the confidence is the big selling point. They also put effort into dates cause they know a decent guy will move on if he feels like a walking credit card with a dick.
Does drinking is a bad habbit , i never used any kind of drunks yet but I don't care if my girl want to use that. Also I don't think compare a girl with this things.
I used to love a girl. She was a good girl according to this point. She gone by tearing my heart and now I can't even face my family. So I can't agree with your points. I prefer someone understands me more that her habits.
While its more complicated that binary distinction. I do remember reading about psychological research which did suggest guys prefer good girls. Which is something reflected in dating choices of guys. Most guys still want a partner they can take to their mums.
I wouldn't like any girl be it good or bad who smokes, heavy drinker and is promiscuous.
If you were to put a gun to my head and make me choose? Good.
Problem is that good girls often don't communicate and they tend to get scared easily. Both are a problem for me because I'm very good at communicating ((and thus have a hard time relating to someone who can't communicate)), and I'm known to be kind of intimidating to girls. I don't know what it is about me but they get so skiddish and defensive with me.
An equal that doesn’t take my bs is the girl I want.
There’s always benefits of each type, a good girl will be an excellent mother and can stand with me when we establish our future.
The bad girl, would be fun to be around and will push me out of my comfort zone to always live young.
Perhaps many men prefer the “bad girl” for flings or short term set ups, like hookups or one night stands. While, the “good girl” is for more long term relationships. I think this is the popular and most established belief when it comes to this topic
If were just looking for sex we like bad girls. If we want a serious relationship we want good girls. Note. Once you go down the bad girl path a bit many men will never take you seriously as a good girl... ever!
Yup that’s me, be a bad one I won’t take you serious at all. There is a girl who can relate to this post since I can’t take her serious at all
@bames you are used up yourself tho true or false?
@JustTheTrue
Tag her!
@Diongi then by his logic no woman should take him seriously.
Good only.
I am good.
Never tasted or smelled alcohol
Never tried smoking
Patriotic nationalist
Feminist of the eastern world
Nowadays, I think, I shouldn't call myself a feminist because I don't support women's bullshit
I am not sweet
I am am old fashioned , boring and sadistic.
I don't like party or loud music.
I dance for myself
I am religious,
I am not a Christian or Muslim.
I believe in science but I don't think that it is perfect.
I think the allure of a "bad girl" is because on the surface they seem easy (not meaning sexually) it seems like they're more honest and forthright with their feelings i. e. acts like one of the guys. But it's all an act! In reality a guy WANTS a good girl he just doesn't always know it right away ( and if he doesn't he's not a guy worth having). Anything worth having will always take work! And good women do.
Good girls 24/7. I’d give absolutely anything just to had one of them for myself. That is because she is much more trustworthy and we have a much higher chance at having a serious relationship
I prefer Good girl but dont care if she smokes or drinks just as long as she isn't booking up with a bunch of guys and she is faithful to the relationship
Depends on the guy
My ex was into wild and bad girls and broke up with me because I was to much of a good girl.
My boyfriend loves everything about me.
But they're girls like myself that are good and still drinks every once in a while.
There is too much of a gap between these two extremes. I do not give a f*** how many guys she could have had before me. A woman should be able to have all the fun she wants. The smoking thing is not my type tough. Definitely I like her to look hot and definitely I want to be able to do things when I date. Doing the same things is quite boring.
Bad girl, minus the smoking.
Apart from the immature concepts, they prefer 'good' girls for something serious like marriage and 'bad' girls for using and throwing away like trash.
doesn't matter to me tbh, if we clicked and she isn't the type to cheat then I would have a relationship with her
Good girls who know how to be feminine and girly are my type. Conservative, calm, cute, sweet, wife and mother material.
Yup that’s the type of girl that I put my guard down
For me it would really come down to loyalty and honesty. I wouldn't have a problem with a girl who likes to drink and party as long as she's loyal
I consider myself a good girl. But all of my exes consider me a psycho who enjoyed making their lives hell. I wasn’t “good for their mental health”
Lmao yeah ok
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🙋🏻♀️ heard that one before too! When actually, it was the other way round all along 🤦🏻♀️
I’m sure I’m in the same situation. They even spread rumors about me and called me crazy. In reality, I’m being called crazy because I don’t like being disrespected and I call people out.
Yup. That’s happened to me twice. The first time, I really loved that guy - and was devastated when he literally told me ‘you’re too innocent for me’ and ended things with me then and there. And because I was upset, he then told all his friends that I was ‘crazy obsessed’ with him. At the time, that broke my heart to be quite honest.
Then, a few years later, my other ex was even worse. Raising any issues or concerns meant that I was a psycho. And in the end when we split up, he told one of his friends about how I was a ‘psycho’ and warned him to let other guys know that.
I just don’t get it, it’s like purposefully trying to destroy my credibility. And I would consider myself a decent person.
@EmiliaRose2355 i think some guys do it so they don’t get into your pants...
I called 4 girls crazy...
One called the cops on me just because I ignore her and because I was flirting with other girls and didn’t gave her attention, she was piss at me for that when she was sleeping around with other dudes, plus I told her she like attention and that triggered her.. she even made an email pretending to her mom and try to blackmail me in calling the cops on me lol...
The second one was saying that I whistle at her when I don’t even know how to whistle and that I was texting her with different numbers, I told her she was being paranoid and that someone as handsome as me talk to other girls and not just her, she was a self centered girls who said she will marry a guy who owns a petroleum company she is like 19-20 now...
The last one said she carried pepper spraid because she knows I spend time on the library at campus at night and that I might stalk her when she leave the library that she even got the cops to walk her to ther apartment lmao... She felt threatened when I texted her that she should delete my number from her phone and that she shouldn’t be asking guys for their number if she wasn’t going to text and act like a child...
Actually there is a 4th one haven’t called no her crazy, she told her boyfriend a bunch of lies which was she exposed later on because for some reason she abren ky guys and I don't know who she was lmao... she knew my name and Facebook and I didn’t know nothing of her lol... she try to accuse me in a group chat of campus with 2k people but someone exposed her for false accusations and after they she got all quiet even though I was exposed as a flirtman lol...
Those are the only times I ever called a girl crazy and I’m a guy who talk to a lot of girls and from all of them only those 3 had been crazy..
For some reason she hate my guts*
Got problems when I text fast
So some guys do this to stop other guys from liking the girl then?
@EmiliaRose2355 if she isn’t doing anything crazy like those 4 paranoid girls I had met then she is just getting called crazy so whoever of those guys who is interested in that girl won’t make a move on that girl
Oh well, that’s happened to me! Many guys were warned off of me. So, why would guys do that? If they don’t want you, then why don’t they want any other guy to have you?
@EmiliaRose2355 because it is awkward for a guy to have his friend being with his ex..
To be more clear, it is something like this...
Let’s say I date you, I might or might not had sex with you but we were together then we broke up.
Then I get interested in your best friend, she is also interested... you wouldn’t like the though of me having sex with her right? Even if you say it is okay you wouldn’t feel comfortable as you were having sex with me first and then your best friend unless you don’t care. Some people care and some don’t and in my point of view he does care and still feel attracted towards you, he is just being self centered.
Right, I’m with you now. I never slept with any of my exes, so couldn’t really understand why they were so awful towards me. It wasn’t even their close friends they passed this onto. Once of them told a friend of a friend to tell my current boyfriend that I’m a psycho - just lucky he didn’t listen to them 😌
@EmiliaRose2355 even more they didn’t slept with you so he doesn’t want your current boyfriend to sleep with you now... But if I was one of your ex, I wouldn’t had called you crazy... I just can’t do it unless you were acting crazy lol, I’m not even good at lying so I don’t lie to people..
Unfortunately there is something about bad girls that many men find attractive, but bad girls don't make good girlfriends / wives. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a bad girl, no matter how attractive might she be. There are more important things than attractiveness.
good girls who can turn up the bad girl in private:)
@ChetAtkins That's it!:)
I'm a good girl and I got in all of those except I hookup with a lot of guys when I get sad
Your not good then, you a bad one who got low sel steem
Good girl who makes herself precious and not pricless..
As for bad girls..
( who drinks milk free.. won't buy the cow)
I also don’t feel good or bad. I’m pretty straight edge, but I’m not so boring that I’ve never done anything bad.
how about neither : how about normal?
that drinks when she wants, goes to parties IF she wants, smokes if she wants, looks either cute or hot but is faithful
Bad for adventures..
Good for a serious relationship...
Bad always will be better.
Or good girl but is actaully psycho. Like cute but psycho.
i would have to say that it depends on the kind of guy , their taste can vary
Good guys prefer good girls, and bad guys prefer bad girls. It's not rocket science.
Im a good girl, but I have a drink or two with coworkers from time to time
The same way girls like guys. Good people, with well to do morals and ethics. But when in the bedroom they’re freaks
Many guys prefer bad girls. I guess that means that there's still an ounce of hope for me yet, since I actually prefer the more "boring" good girls.
Good girl= sweet, doesn't smoke/drink, doesn't do hookups, looks innocent and cute.
To be honest wsnt a good girl. I dont drink party smoke or do drugs.
I like good girls with a helluva kinky way of living :P
Good girls
Actually boys say that they prefer good girls but actually they like bad girls firhaving fun and so one and when they got finished with them they start looking for good girls...
The thing is good girls are too hard and boring, while bad girls are too easy and crazy. I would like the betweener
I meet a lot of good girls and a few bad ones and a few in-between lol
I would rather have a mix of the two, a good girl that can be bad when appropriate.
I wouldn't put people into boxes like that.
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~ Mrs Manson
There are so called good and bad perceived guys... Choose their own poison.
Wowww a good girl can’t drink... I’m out I love wine.
Nahhh, if that’s the only thing, you’re good... 😉 lol
I’m safe then lol
I'd much rather have a good girl, even though i'm not the most innocent guy out there
The good girl. I especially look for those traits you listed under good girl.
It really don't matter to me but she has to have a great sense of humor easy to talk to and she has to have a streak of dangerous adventure in her..
Prefer good girls. Always end up with the bad girls. Well that's my track record so far. If I had a good girlfriend I probably would have married her by now.
Good girls duh.
Bad girls in my opinion are kinda disgusting.
Well I am a good girl so I am guessing most guys like bad girls😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Good chooses good, bad chooses bad and breaks up later.
And again fall behind good.
personally bad girls, not even dating, they just give off a better energy than "good girls"
You can be a mesh of any of these and be fairly good.
I prefer the good one by far, but when I say good I really mean it, being compassionate and caring towards people is a must
I think good girls because i can become a bit jaloux
When girls like badass over good guys, Boys like bad girls over good once too
Good Girls are Bad Girls Who don’t get caught. Bad Girls aren’t shy.
Do I look like an unstable grown woman with a teenager immature mind so I can pick bad girls?
Bad girls are cumrags, for everyone and anyone, that's it, nothing more than that
Depends which guy you ask. The world has both types
Good girls believe me can be very bad in the bedroom!!
if not more.
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