It's because you're younger.Guys that are your age go for sexy over kind any day of the week.Usually they'll change in a few years
I guess so
You in high school that’s why... go to my college, you will meet me in the first month lol
Well a guy won't notice what he can't see. So yeah being quiet isn't a winning strategy if you want guys to take an interest in you. And being nice doesn't evoke emotions. Being flirty piques a guys interest.
@MusicMayhem as a handsome man, I will disagree.. I tend to go for the quiet type of girl... I also go for the type that tends to flirt with me...My point is I go for both, but something serious I go for the quiet ones and only way for her to push me away is act super weird and crazy
That made me feel better haha, thank you
Don’t worry about it, a lot of guys like the quiet girl.. just don’t ignore them when they talking to you. Come to my college I will date you...
Hahah, I've noticed my crush approaching me a lot lately, and giving me small hints.. maybe you're right
Because you are a quiet girl he doesn’t come too strong and is taking it slow and giving you a few hints.. i do that and it seems that guy is doing it too..
@JustTheTrue well quiet, shy girls don't get noticed by many cause most guys are pussies who will only approach if they see signs from a girl. So she needs to be more forward and extroverted with her flirting. And what does your looks have to do with anything?
@MusicMayhem i can agree to that, in my occasion some girls are flirting then they give you the cold shoulder and those are the shy girls... I still talk to them then I leave... I don't know what they really want because they been staring at me then give me the cold shoulder and when i leave they start Staring... that’s the shy type of girl I get annoyed some shy girls they just don’t want you to leave and you can see it in their tone of voice even when you hug them they love it... that’s the shy type of girl I love to approach... plus my campus is full of introverts so I’m used to talking to shy girls
@JustTheTrue who fucking cares what they want! Go after girls that have what you want! If they don't match your criteria move on. Stop reacting to girls signs. You aren't obligated to approach girls just because they like you.
@MusicMayhem lol I was half sleep when I made that post, honestly i mostly talk and text girl who I click with, but the fact that they shy it is still true and they want to take things slow with me or any other guy
@JustTheTrue cause shy girls are unconfident and don't trust others easily. They're a waste of time. Wanting to take things slow is code for move on. Normal girls will be happy for things to escalate sexually within 3-5 dates max. Shy girls can't handle sexual tension and foolishly think being friends first is the way to go. It's not. It doesn't create any attraction.
Okay, first off, all "shy girls" aren't like that. What are you even talking about? Ofcourse shy girls can handle sexual tension, and not all of us think being friends with a guy is the best way to start a relationship. We all have different preferences related to our love life, so what's the deal with you saying shy girls are a waste of time? Just because you're personally not attraced to them, doesn't mean others aren't..
I'm sorry but your comment really pissed me off.
And the fact that you refer shy girls as "not normal" is just wrong. I would rather date a shy guy than a cocky, self centered one.
@MusicMayhem had you dated anyone yet? by the way even confident girls won’t be having sex with you right off the bat, unless she is an easy girl. I like shy girls, if you don’t thats your problem... you got your preferences and I got mine, you sound like someone who got hurt or friend zoned by a shy girl... plus if when they don’t trust you is because your lacking something in your personality... as for me shy girls feel so comfortable right off the bat and trust me even before the dates... my point is you you lack the charm that I posses reason why a shy, normal or a confident girls feel so comfortable that they put their guard down when they are with me... You must be doing something wrong
Because shy, unconfident girls give much greater resistance to creating a man/woman dynamic as opposed to a friend's dynamic. So continuing to see a shy girl who may never feel ready for sex or even touching is a waste of time. Why would I continue dating her if I could meet fun, confident girls and enjoy some sex by the 3rd or 4th date as opposed to it not happening at all? Not being comfortable engaging in sex as an adult isn't normal, rather the exception. It shows some underlying issues like body insecurities that she needs to deal with first before dating.
@JustTheTrue 3-5 dates isn't right of the bat. Most girls I date, I sleep with by the 2nd, 3rd, or 4th date latest. Every shy girl I've dated I've been patient with but eventually I had to end it because they were too scared for things to move forward and it felt too much like friends rather than romantic interest. So I'm fine to move on, I know how to approach enough girls that I can find the extroverted, fun, sexy girls.
@MusicMayhem lol okay, I don’t like easy women I’m not that desperate lol
You need to escape the hip hop/edm pop subculture bubble and try something different. Try the ballroom scene. If you live near ocean, try the surfer scene. Salsa dance is a great place for people who are more mellow and let’s be honest, probably a little more intelligent as well. 😌I tell ya, it’s great. Intimacy and physical closeness. Dresses. Dancing and touching, sexual tension and none of the aggressiveness and doucheyness.
As a handsome and picky man that I am, I could give it a try but the body count doesn’t have to be huge
Im talking about stereotypes
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Well , I don't think you can separate your personality from everyday life and the bed room.
@PoormanscomedianThat's pretty naive, in my opinion. In my world, there are often huge differences.
But they're girls like myself that are good and still drinks every once in a while.
I'm one of those
Yup that’s me, be a bad one I won’t take you serious at all. There is a girl who can relate to this post since I can’t take her serious at all
@bames you are used up yourself tho true or false?
@Aphrodite8789I bet bames had at least 25
@Diongi then by his logic no woman should take him seriously.
@Dionigi i would but she doesn’t got an account here even though there was a time of someone texting me in here and sounded like her lol... I felt like I was getting interviewed with so many question...
Yup that’s the type of girl that I put my guard down
🙋🏻♀️ heard that one before too! When actually, it was the other way round all along 🤦🏻♀️
I’m sure I’m in the same situation. They even spread rumors about me and called me crazy. In reality, I’m being called crazy because I don’t like being disrespected and I call people out.
Yup. That’s happened to me twice. The first time, I really loved that guy - and was devastated when he literally told me ‘you’re too innocent for me’ and ended things with me then and there. And because I was upset, he then told all his friends that I was ‘crazy obsessed’ with him. At the time, that broke my heart to be quite honest. Then, a few years later, my other ex was even worse. Raising any issues or concerns meant that I was a psycho. And in the end when we split up, he told one of his friends about how I was a ‘psycho’ and warned him to let other guys know that. I just don’t get it, it’s like purposefully trying to destroy my credibility. And I would consider myself a decent person.
@EmiliaRose2355 i think some guys do it so they don’t get into your pants...I called 4 girls crazy...One called the cops on me just because I ignore her and because I was flirting with other girls and didn’t gave her attention, she was piss at me for that when she was sleeping around with other dudes, plus I told her she like attention and that triggered her.. she even made an email pretending to her mom and try to blackmail me in calling the cops on me lol... The second one was saying that I whistle at her when I don’t even know how to whistle and that I was texting her with different numbers, I told her she was being paranoid and that someone as handsome as me talk to other girls and not just her, she was a self centered girls who said she will marry a guy who owns a petroleum company she is like 19-20 now...The last one said she carried pepper spraid because she knows I spend time on the library at campus at night and that I might stalk her when she leave the library that she even got the cops to walk her to ther apartment lmao... She felt threatened when I texted her that she should delete my number from her phone and that she shouldn’t be asking guys for their number if she wasn’t going to text and act like a child...Actually there is a 4th one haven’t called no her crazy, she told her boyfriend a bunch of lies which was she exposed later on because for some reason she abren ky guys and I don't know who she was lmao... she knew my name and Facebook and I didn’t know nothing of her lol... she try to accuse me in a group chat of campus with 2k people but someone exposed her for false accusations and after they she got all quiet even though I was exposed as a flirtman lol...Those are the only times I ever called a girl crazy and I’m a guy who talk to a lot of girls and from all of them only those 3 had been crazy..
For some reason she hate my guts* Got problems when I text fast
So some guys do this to stop other guys from liking the girl then?
@EmiliaRose2355 if she isn’t doing anything crazy like those 4 paranoid girls I had met then she is just getting called crazy so whoever of those guys who is interested in that girl won’t make a move on that girl
Oh well, that’s happened to me! Many guys were warned off of me. So, why would guys do that? If they don’t want you, then why don’t they want any other guy to have you?
@EmiliaRose2355 because it is awkward for a guy to have his friend being with his ex.. To be more clear, it is something like this...Let’s say I date you, I might or might not had sex with you but we were together then we broke up. Then I get interested in your best friend, she is also interested... you wouldn’t like the though of me having sex with her right? Even if you say it is okay you wouldn’t feel comfortable as you were having sex with me first and then your best friend unless you don’t care. Some people care and some don’t and in my point of view he does care and still feel attracted towards you, he is just being self centered.
Right, I’m with you now. I never slept with any of my exes, so couldn’t really understand why they were so awful towards me. It wasn’t even their close friends they passed this onto. Once of them told a friend of a friend to tell my current boyfriend that I’m a psycho - just lucky he didn’t listen to them 😌
@EmiliaRose2355 even more they didn’t slept with you so he doesn’t want your current boyfriend to sleep with you now... But if I was one of your ex, I wouldn’t had called you crazy... I just can’t do it unless you were acting crazy lol, I’m not even good at lying so I don’t lie to people..
@ChetAtkins That's it!:)
Your not good then, you a bad one who got low sel steem
My though exactly
The thing is good girls are too hard and boring, while bad girls are too easy and crazy. I would like the betweener
Not all bad girls are easy and not all the good ones are boring..
I meet a lot of good girls and a few bad ones and a few in-between lol
Nahhh, if that’s the only thing, you’re good... 😉 lol
I’m safe then lol