I like a good girl who occasionally likes to be bad.
For example, she might be a party girl, she might be freaky in bed, she might have a high libido, wears lots of sexy outfits and dresses, flirts, calls me out on my bullshit, etc. but she also loves children, donates to charity, helps out old folks when they need a hand, is friendly with almost everyone, loves her family, and has great values.
Things aren't always so black and white as "good" and "bad".
I think most men and women would benefit greatly if they would stop considering themselves good or bad, especially good. Most of us have the capacity to be assholes from time to time. We can't please everyone. Sometimes we make mistakes. Sometimes we can be impatient, reveal something that upsets someone else, and sometimes it takes revealing ourselves, even the negative aspects, to learn and to grow.
For example, I was impatient with my girlfriend while she was on the phone with her mother. It was late, I wanted to head off to bed, but the call was important. It upset her because I wasn't being supportive (a friend hers just passed), and you know what, she was right, I was being selfish. I could continue to beat myself up over it and consider myself an asshole, but I would much prefer to learn from it and challenge my beliefs, especially ones that hold me back from being the best possible version of myself. In a way, me being an asshole in that moment allowed me to be authentic but also allowed me to consider real change, to adapt, while still being true to myself.
Being good or bad is completely subjective. What is good to one person might be bad to another and vice versa. Maybe a girl is a party girl who likes to drink booze and smoke pot. That might make her seem bad to some people, but perfectly normal to others. Maybe she tells it how it is sometimes without any filter. Some might see that as callous and cruel, others might appreciate her candor.
There is a balance, and it is something we always have to fine tune and maintain. As long as we hold true to our values, or in the very least, strive to get closer to being true to them, then we are being authentic and being unauthentic is the most conflicted and painful place a person can be, "good" or "bad".
It depends entirely on the guy, on what he wants at the moment (many guys go through periods of their lives where they are NOT looking for a relationship, but they ALWAYS want sex), and what's available.
Guys like bad girls for casual relationships/sex, because they're fun and have realistic expectations about what's going on (hint: casual sex, not love). Guys like good girls for relationships... WHEN they're looking for a relationship. Often, they aren't.
Guys, not all guys, but most guys want the best of both worlds although it does depend on their level of insecurity! They want a good girl because they know that they'll be loyal to them and do what they ask of them with a smile on their face... plus they can bring them home to mom and dad! They want a bad girl to have fun with, play dirty games with and show of to friends! Put those two into one girl with a switch on her back and most guys (not men necessarily! LOL) will be exquisitely happy!
Now for those that have a little self-esteem ~ well, they usually pick as they like, an that's a personal choice. It's the ones that have "issues" that think that they can do this that have the biggest problems. A sizable handful of broken guys could be put in a room full of 100 different people on the spectrum of bad to good girls and they will unknowingly gravitate to the one girl that is probably the worst match for them in the whole room! I suppose we like what we don't think were supposed to have or were endlessly curious about the grass on the other side of the fence! Whatever the reason, they seem to pretty much always live to regret it,... and of course never learn/change! LOL!
Am i buying a puppy here, to buy a good loyal one that i can show case to momma and dadda?
Im just trying tp be empethetic, tell me, as a woman, what kind of girl do u think u are, and suppose u are considered a bad girl, and it was mostly circumstances, do u think that would make u not want love and affection from someone like anyone else, or just someone who can ride u like a horse, deep down , we are still human, and all we want from the world is love and affection, dont u think?
@Arthurwilliams Uhm, I hear ya', but the question asks about what guys like (i. e. in a guy's ideal world) I am pretty sure...
And no, no puppy that is good mannered, just a girl that isn't going to be to crazy infront of the guy's folks! One that might keep the noise down if she pulls youin the bathroom for a quickie and keeps here feet off your lap during dinner, etcetera... I think that's reasonable! You don't?
different chicks get their love from different, often strange, ways! Several of my girlfriends can't stay in a "happy"/"loving"" relationship even when the sex is amazing, they can't stand feeling loved that's nice to them and/or they need chaos to keep the relationship feeling natural (just like when they lived with absent daddy and alchy mama) ... Ahhh Love as they know it! Yes these are generally messed-up girls, but that makes up a helluva' big-ol' slice of the pie of people these days! (ruined is becoming the new normal!)
Well i partly agree with u, but u know, id prefer a bad girl type (cs im a little introverted and that kind of girl would make life interesting). and i wouldn't care about what my folks think. Just want her to be smart/mature (act to situation) , not a stupid arrogant one, that would be a pain in the arse. but still the bad girls temd to be more mature than nice ones
Thats my ideal choice, a smart bad girl, so u can generalise ideal choice frall guys
Bad girls are never on the wife/LTR radar with most guys. They are only used for a good time and fantasy. Typically once (if) this is out of a guys system and he is ready to settle down, he seeks out a good girl, one who is mature enough to be a wife, mother and suitable mate, not someone who doesn't have priorities in order, irresponsible, likely to stray, etc. With that being said, most would prefer their good girl to be bad behind closed doors. And in some circumstances they marry the good girl, but have flings with the bad ones.
The saying goes "Every girl wants a bad boy that will be good just for her. Every boy wants a good girl that will be bad just for him." Couldn't say how much truth there is to it, but it makes sense. I think the bad boy/bad girl image is often desired but many prefer people with good intentions. It's a good look, not so great of a lifestyle.
From what I gathered here is that a bad girl is a girl that is more lustful, sexual and good in bed. From what I know what makes a bad guy has little to do with sex. Are my assumptions correct?
The whole point is to meet someone to spend the rest of your lives with, which means not only do you have to look good, but I gotta like you too! And we won't get along if there's nothing with substance we can talk about.
While there are undoubtedly guys who go for the "bad girl," for the most part men want the love and companionship that comes with the "good girl." This makes sense,
First, men are not verbal creatures. This tends to isolate them somewhat. They therefore seek, in a mate, someone who will show compassion and love and who will be that companion that they don't necessarily have.
This is trickier than it looks, however. Men generally - and this has roots in evolutionary biology - want to be the protector and provider. It is an important part of his self-esteem.
Here again, though, the "good girl" is the better match. She will be the one who is loyal and who is sensitive to him.
To be sure, men need sexual satisfaction, but that alone will not do the job. The "bad girl" can give him that sexual satisfaction - but not the love, companionship and support. The "good girl" - and to some degree this is dealing in stereotypes - can give a man the love and support he needs, and also give him the sex he needs, too.
Some guys will, human nature being what it is, chase the bad girl. However, most guys know that while sex is VERY important - data show that guys who don't get regular sex tend to be more easily depressed, have health issues, will be more aggressive, and even die earlier - it is not the sum total of what will make then happy.
This question is based on seeking to a find a generalization that holds true with regards to two stereotypes... No generalization is ever worth planning your life around, unless you want to discover the limitation of your set of expectations, which every generalization will ultimately lead to: showing you the character of your own decided expectations. Don't think you cab live life according to a recipe, after you've got enough knowledge of what each of the ingredients are like. A "good" girl, in a particular context, can be dull boring and incapable of connecting with another person in any deep or meaningful way, and a "bad" girl, can similarly end up being just as vacuous, after the guy is forced to put out all the fires in her life, or just settle to make a home with her in the midst of chaotic volatility, which she will probably end up blaming or taking it out on you. "bad" girls are only attractive to guys who want an easy notch on the belt, and don't mind pandering to her ego-trip to achieve that end, or are too immature to notice that with age, extreme behavior has a way of turning into tragedy: which usually the guy is expected to be accountable for. The saying is true: don't date a girl with daddy issues, she will constantly expect you to save her, at the expense of focusing your energy into building a real relationship, but many women and men, just love the drama and intrigue of getting drunk on their own feelings, and so will be attracted to someone who can give them the excuse to. YouTube search: "why you will marry the wrong person"- school of life Channel.
Depends on the guy, for example I like good girls, good girls have principles and higher standards therefore are more independent and strong. Guys like bad girls when they just wanna have fun, like having fun with a toy, a bad girl usually thinks she is free to do whatever she wants which makes her an easy target for manipulation, she thinks she can just have sex with a guy and there's no problem since it's her body, guys like that since they can leave in any moment and no remorse is felt. So sexual exploration (sort of speak) is easy with bad girls, although they tend to not care. I like strong girls so I like good girls...
Most guys just care if you're good looking and will put out. If you suck in bed but are hot enough... Dude will stay with you out of duty but he's definitely cheating with am ugly hoe who's better in bed. A few guys don't like fucking with trifling ass bitches and basically just want a girl who is both loyal and independent which is rare because everyone knows most women are all about trends, popularity and attention. Of course there are some men that realize women are not worth the work and hassle and come out as gay. In other words. Just suck your guys dick when he wants it, don't nag him to death about trivial shit, and make him a god damn sandwich every once and a whole and try not to fuck his best friends and don't always wait for him to pay the cheques. If you do those things, guys will like you mote than those other types of chicks
Well, I'm 100 years your senior, and that sort of thing is only ever acceptable in cheesy vampire flicks... so to say I would is only a consolation prize I'm in no position to grant. But my answer to you would be that if you're with a boy and he denies to give you those things... than you shouldn't be with that guy anymore. Men should be so lucky to find a woman whose list of demands are as basic as pasta and oral. Most guys have to contend with far greater unreasonable expectations
Pffft I don’t even like oral I was just checking. Pasta though... if he can make a mean bowl of fettuccine Alfredo I’m sold. Ah yes, how does it feel being a wizard
I guess it depends on what you mean by a good girl or a bad girl there is a degree of good or bad.
If you mean a good girl that is prudish and not able to experience life and try new things that could be a turn-off. If you mean a bad girl who likes to be spanked and likes to do freaky things that could be a turn-on.
If you mean a good girl that cares about other people and wants peace in the world and is intelligent and yet willing to go and do things that could be a turn-on. If you mean a bad girl who sleeps with four or five guys a day for drugs and money and doesn't take care of herself and looks like crap that could be a turn-off.
So I guess what I'm saying for me is it it depends on the degree of goodness and Badness that you're speaking of. If you have a specific in mind you can always p. m. me to get my opinion on a specific degree of goodness or Badness hee-hee.
I love it when a girl I like is "annoying", but not too much. Annoying in a sexy way and triggering, etc. Oh man it's not easy to describe. (Example: Ygritte in GameOfThrones)
I guess I'd like a good girl that just sometimes, and when I'm in the mood, acts like a bad girl, the most. Because for me it's cute, funny and sexy at the same time and I totally love it.
Unfortunally I've never had a girl that would treat me like that. Just that friend who rejected me. But I'll find my new beloved.
I personally like good girls. Now, what makes a good girl good and the bad girl bad?
Simply, a good girl is typically morally innocent. In other words, she doesn't hang out with a lot of guys and perhaps sleep with them, she takes responsibility for her actions, she cares for her job and studies, and she RESPECTS herself and the people around her.
On the other hand, a bad girl is usually outgoing and, as they say, bitchy. They are usually overconfident and their relationships/friendships don't last but with the people with the same personality. They're not that responsible for their actions.
Well, that's just how I personally view people in terms of their behavior and their habits.
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You can't say what is 'good' or 'bad'. I find the question rather demeaning to women insofar as it relegates a complex human being into a simple classification that panders to the old patriarchal bullshit 'good girl/bad girl' mentality (the kind you see in 50's movies and trash exploitation novels of the era). Think old Mad Men ads talking about spanking your unruly wife.
No. There's no good or bad people. I want a smart, honest woman who can think for herself AND also gives consideration to others and takes responsibility for her words and deeds. In short, a present, aware and kind person able to give love and receive love.
For me i like a good girl for sure. What make a good girl good? from my opinion: (straight behavior (responsible), honest, lovely, funny, polite, never cheat ever (doesn't play around), not slut, doesn't smoke or get drunk, and love me for myself and keeping her virginity for the future husband.
It is my opinion that when both sexes are ready for a real mature relationship. Guys like good girls and girls like good guys. Sadly until they are ready for that, it's always the opposite because you are looking for a thrill. Note, this is never an age thing which makes it even more complicated.
Unless you are just looking for flings, don't be a 'bad girl' just for attention. If you are looking for a great guy, you don't want to draw attention of a bad guy.
The guys in my life like both for different reasons. I've heard them say good girls are who you marry. The bad girl is for wasting time. But some also have a thing for reformed bad girls, just like girls have a thing for reformed bad boys. It's a flaw of both sexes. in my opinion
I think that this question is a very personal one which everyone has to answer for themselves. Everyone likes/loves other people. Personally, I prefer good, polite girls, no matter how they look like. But this has private reasons. I am a very polite, fair and emphatic person. I try to suit everybody. So I want my partner to be at least polite 😄
Being bad or good is how a person perceives things.. You may be bad for someone and good for another person.. its all about perspective Guys like girls who get along with them well.. Who are comfortable to be in their company.. Every guy will have a different answer.. This was mine..
when I was a young man all i thought about was having sex and etc, But i stayed a virgin until i was married. I like both the bad girl and good girl. But today i take either or. but frankly i prefer a woman compared to girl, because act adult and even if they are bad or good as long as they treat you correctly and same goes for the man if he's treated right depends what he/she is after.
Like both... but i say get u a good girl and turn her bad that way it'll be in your own way. Kind of like saying training. (No offense ladies) a lot of things will be new to her. She really likes you and will adjust to or get use to what u like and your turn on's. Same for both sexes. Just do fuck up tho, dont want them to give your live to another. Anything they get from u, they will please another both sexually and non sexual. This applies toanything and everything. Exampla: how they treat u in a good way. Personality and attitude good and bad.
I like a girl who is bad to others and good to me alone. For me, bad girls are those kind of hardcore girls who are not afraid of telling you to your face that you are fucked up, if you really are, they are the miss independent kind of girls, and a good girl is the loyal kind of girl
Good girl forsure. I'm the type that accepts the girl for who she is and all I want to do with her is wrap my arms around her every night and tell her how much I love her. I was her of be a good girl therefore she would have a softer side and do the same as well. And I want to be able to trust my girl with my most deepest secrets.
I am from Vietnam an Asian country so that means it's kinda cultural - traditional effects on both of us men and women here. Personally I like girls with their humble behavior (not the ones flirting around and being chinned-up when guys are after them), soft talking, caring and things similar to that. I don't know but maybe am I the only one thinks that true love still exists?
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